I enjoyed your column today. I had a very similar experience when I froze on stage during a final presentation of an acting class. Just me in the middle of my piece completely lost on stage. Looking out at the faces I saw cringes and hands to faces, wide gaping eyes. It was funny in retrospect. I did find my way just like Daisy. The best thing wasn’t exactly conquering the feat it was knowing that even the worst thing hapening really wasn’t a big deal. Ask daisy if that makes sense. It’s so ok to mess up or forget where we are. We make too much of a deal out of trying to be perfect. It’s great when we are so not perfect and nothing bad happens. We walk away just fine! I hope Daisy got the same message as I did.
All the best,
Susan
cynthia cecile LeeOn December 19, 2011
just a note to say how much I’ve enjoyed reading your column and watching your videos. they are truly so funny!
Thank you for sharing your talent with us…and keeping us healthier! because it’s true…laughter is the best medicine!
John PearsonOn November 23, 2011
Hi Lori, just watched your video on Get out and Vote, gutsy effort. Well done and thank god Ms.Neis had a personality eh,
John .
MargieOn September 14, 2011
I’m grateful that I have my mom living with me and she has been able to enjoy the latter part of her life travelling and going to spend the summer with her sister for the last 15 years. She has enriched both my husband and mine’s life as we never had children and now know what it’s like to be responsible for someone other than ourselves. Thank you mom.
Brenda LeeOn September 14, 2011
Im thankful that you took the time to interview these good folks and very thankful I subscribe to your videos, as my day just got better by watching!!
TamiOn September 14, 2011
An attitude of Gratitude is the way forward! Way to go Lori!!
BruceOn September 14, 2011
Whenever I read your column, I am reminded of how I too try to lead my life in a positive (cup half full) mode. Good job! As an aside, we watched a documentary on TLC last night “9/11:Heroes of the 88th Floor,” which was truly inspiring.
FranOn September 13, 2011
Attached is a file of the Fatal Dog Attacks in Canada that goes back to 1964. There are 46 fatalities and I believe one recent one is missing which brings it to a total of 47. I believe it was a baby and the two dogs involved were huskys.
Out of the 46/47 all but 3 of the deaths were children. If the link does not work, one can look up the fatalities at the National Canine Research Council under dog bites.
Most of the child deaths were unsupervised children around unsocialized dogs or free roaming pack dogs.
It has been said the dog bit before. Where was the owner and why did the visitors NOT know this particular dog was unstable? Calgary, Alberta has the lowest bite statistics in the whole of North American per capita. They also have the highest licensing compliance rates.
sorry fran, but pitbulls are the most useless violent breed of dog there is.
part of the problem with pitbull owners is, they are often people that shouldnt own any pets at all.
so this notion of making dog owners more accountable is hogwash,most dog owners are responsible
people when dealing with their animals.
kathy scottOn September 7, 2011
Hi Lori,
Nice, very nice re: 911 this 10th anniversary. Brought a tear to my eye hearing those little kids speak…thanks!
MarkOn September 5, 2011
I really like your interviews,Those were some great kids!!
JacquelineOn September 5, 2011
Summer was great but cannot wait to get back to routine!! AND….have days off by myself!! Selfish I know…
WillieOn September 5, 2011
I’m excited for my grand-children and always look forward to the beginning of school so I can go in and volunteer. YEA!
KayOn September 5, 2011
I love this one Lori… Great Job
GeorgeOn September 5, 2011
u two should do more of these on the spot interviews
RossOn September 5, 2011
I’ll be glad when we get power to get mine back to school! Already missed 3 days, may still miss more this week…..
DanaOn September 5, 2011
Summer break was invented by a man with no children!
GeorgeOn September 5, 2011
this is a keeper…
TaraOn September 5, 2011
I can’t WAIT for the kids to go back to school. There should be a limit to the number of times you here “Mama! Mama. Mama?” in a day and after that limit they get shocked by the universe.
CarmenOn September 5, 2011
great job!!
JackieOn September 5, 2011
Lori this was a fantastic video, great job!
Emily BrowningOn September 5, 2011
I’m looking forward to the kids going back to school too. But I’m not excited about the early mornings and the homework! Loved your article and your video! I hope you do more of those videos – great idea and something else to look forward to. Love your honesty. Some people wouldn’t public admit to wanting their kids to go back to school for fear of what others would think. But the truth is, no matter how much we love our kids, a little breathing room is good for most of us.
KianaOn September 5, 2011
I personally am not looking forward to the return of school. (Lunches, endless permissions slips, etc…) And.. I absolutely love the carefree, fun days of summer. I will miss spending so much time with my kids.)
DeanaOn September 5, 2011
Love your column Lori! It’s always the first thing I read! (Sometimes the only thing I read) This one REALLY hit home! Great video too! LOL
BruceOn September 5, 2011
My kids are long gone now, but I know the feeling. Can’t help but think that the kids actually look forward to a more structured routine at school too. Enjoy your column. Keep smiling!
AnnOn September 5, 2011
How true, I remember when my son was in school and I couldn’t wait till summer holidays were over. I did enjoy the peace and quite, but before you know it there is another school holiday. Great column
KayOn September 5, 2011
I love this one Lori!
Ralph S.On September 5, 2011
Fantastic idea putting the Brighter Note articles into video to add a little more to the story.
TrevorOn September 5, 2011
So clean and simple it’s brilliant! I love your work Lori. It’s always a breath of fresh air. More videos please! great addition to a great article!
Janet R.On September 5, 2011
Wonderful! Really, really wonderful! That little kindergarten girl was my favourite, but they were all great. I’ve been a fan of your column for a long time – but I hope you’ll do more videos to go along with them. Getting other people perspectives is a smart addition!
KarenOn September 2, 2011
Just watched your new video about going back to school and LOVED IT!!!! Keep up the good work. Luv you all!!
SylviaOn August 31, 2011
LOL! I’m in the same situation as you exactly. Trying to downsize and organize while my kids and husband don’t want to give up anything and keep bringing crap home. The clutter and chaos is gonna do me in!
Ralph SmeOn August 31, 2011
You are such a pushover Lorilei Yard Sale Scrooge. If the kids came home with a homeless stray dog you’d probably have to make room for it at home. You just love sharing in the kid’s independence. Good Luck with the clean up.
JeremieOn August 31, 2011
fantastic, funny and true.
MargieOn August 31, 2011
Good article Lori, every house must have a purple ape
Pit Bull Dangers Part 1
Defining the Pit Bull Problem:
Pit Bull type dogs kill, maim and seriously injure more people each year than all other type dogs combined. This means that one type dog that makes up about 5% of the dog population kills more than 60% of all people who die in dog attack related fatalities.
Pit Bull type dogs are notorious for actions unique to these type dogs.
Pit Bulls once they start an attack will not stop even when subjected to intense pain in many cases.
Pit Bull type dogs attack in the manner of many wild animals in that they grab, hold and shake the victim to do even more damage similar to the way large cats, sharks and other predators do.
There have been several studies done over several decades and while the opinions of the authors may differ the numbers are generally consistent in proving that Pit Bulls kill more than all other type dogs.
Another unique trait of Pit Bulls is that they are the only type dog known to attack adults as often as children. An example is the “Mortality, Mauling & Maiming by Vicious Dogs” study, published in April 2011 in the Annals of Surgery. Where it shows that in the age group 21 to 54 Pit Bulls were responsible for 82% of the deaths.
Let me close by saying that this is a serious and persistent issue that must be addressed. We have to find ways to stop the senseless and vicious maiming, mauling, and killing of our children and others by these animals. These attacks and deaths are preventable and we as a society must act to prevent them.
Pit Bull Dangers Part 2
These Attacks are Preventable
I want to discuss the most sensible and effective solutions, and why we need them. Because discussing any problem without discussing a solution is counterproductive. Most will agree we definitely have a problem though they may disagree on exactly what the problem is.
While no solution to any problem is ever 100% effective. Proper laws, and effective controls properly enforced will prevent the vast majority of attacks, injuries and deaths caused by these animals today.
Many people will say laws do not work, if that is so then why do we have laws? Because they do work, not everyone will obey them but most will and those that do not will eventually wind up in court or in jail.
Many will say we have existing laws and enforcing them will solve the problem. Again this is not true. Since existing laws are reactive not proactive and provide little punishment for the owners in these attacks, they are ineffective where it matters the most. Preventing these attacks and the resultant maiming, mauling, permanently life altering injuries, disfiguring, dismemberment, disabling and deadly effects should be our number 1 priority.
You can return a child killed to its parents after an attack, you cannot give back what is lost to a victim after a hand arm or leg has been amputated. You cannot hide or cure the effects of permanently disfiguring scars that so many suffer from the rest of their lives. We have to stop these attacks and we have to do it now.
Pit Bull Dangers Part 3
The Solutions
I feel that the steps listed below are the most sensible and effective solution possible for this issue.
1. Making sure all animals are registered and assessing stiff penalties for not doing so in a timely manner or violating other restrictions placed upon the animals and their owners.
2. Requiring proof of shots, micro-chipping and a minimum of $100,000 liability insurance for any dog weighing 30 pounds or more.
3. Requiring that an annual up to date photo of the animal is provided to animal control at the time of registration.
4. Requiring proper fencing and or kenneling is provided for animals not living in the house or home of the owner. This fencing or kenneling should meet minimum standards to ensure the safety of the public from the animal and the safety of the animal from the public.
5. All dogs weighing 30 pounds or more must be on a 4 foot chain link leash and have either a muzzle or a halter in use whenever outside the dogs fencing or home.
6. Passing a law that makes dog owners responsible for their animal’s actions and liable both civilly and criminally, yet making sure that the law is clearly written and does provide protections for animals defending the owner, family or property.
7. Passing a law making it illegal to allow anyone under the age of 18 to be in control of or be allowed to take out for a walk any dog weighing 30 pounds or more outside of its home or kennel without adult supervision.
8. Mandatory spay neuter laws are very effective, but would need to allow for exemptions some cases.
9. Preventing the owners of these animals from taking them to places frequented by children, such as schools, day cares, church, playgrounds, etc.
10. Strict regulation of breeders, pet stores, shelters and rescues.
Pit Bull Dangers Part 3A
Necessary Legislation
Dog owners must be held accountable for the actions of their animals. This should be done in the same way drivers are held culpable in areas such as drunk driving.
The fines for the regulations listed in part 3 must be heavy enough to actually motivate people not to violate them. Repeatedly violating the steps should end in jail time for offender.
We must recognize that people and human life come first, everything else comes after. Thus we have to act to stop these attacks, the injuries and deaths they cause.
Pit Bull Dangers Part 4
Myths and Misinformation Part 1 of 2
Most people can find a ton of information online easily about Pit Bulls and Dangerous Dogs. The problem is the vast majority of this information is not cited, sourced or accurate. Even when it is sourced most sources are just other sites spreading the same opinions, rumors, or misinformation. This leads many well meaning people to repeat these statements as if they are fact when in truth they are not.
Myth: Temperament testing by the ATTS proves pits are less dangerous, less aggressive etc.
Truth: The temperament test was developed by Alfons Ertelt in 1977. Mr Ertelt was not an animal behaviorist, he worked in the print industry but his passion was dogs and he was involved in schutzhund. (schutzhund is a dog sport that mirrors the training of police dog work and it is dominated by german shepherds) The ATTS test was initially intended to test working dogs for jobs such as police work. When looking at its scoring system you realize that it rewards aggressive dogs and penalizes timid or calm dogs meaning it in no way tests for the suitability of these dogs to be around people or be pets at all.
Myth: Pit Bulls have been called the Nanny Dog
Truth: This myth was started by statements made by two people. Mrs. Lilian Rant, President, Staffordshire Bull Terrier Club of America, magazine editor said they are referred to as a nursemaid dog in an interview published in the New York Times in 1971. Second in 1987 Toronto Star article where Breeder Kathy Thomas, president of the Staffordshire Bull Terrier Association said “In England, our Staffies were called the nanny-dog”. No sources or evidence just two heavily vested and bias people’s statements started this whole myth.
Pit Bull Dangers Part 5
Myths and Misinformation Part 2 of 2
Most people can find a ton of information online easily about Pit Bulls and Dangerous Dogs. The problem is the vast majority of this information is not cited, sourced or accurate. Even when it is sourced most sources are just other sites spreading the same opinions, rumors, or misinformation. This leads many well meaning people to repeat these statements as if they are fact when in truth they are not.
Myth: It is always the owner never the dog
Truth: While the owner can make a difference no amount of training, nurture or socializing an animal can change its nature, genetic heritage or instinctual behavior. Pointers will point, retrievers will retrieve, fighting dogs will fight, and this is true without training or even after being trained not to. Humans can choose to act upon instinct or not act upon it; dogs do not have that choice. Many type dogs are owned by the same type people as pit bulls, are abused like pit bulls, and are trained to fight like pit bulls. Many of these type dogs out number pit bulls yet pit bulls maim, maul and kill more people than all other dogs combined. This proves that it is not just the owner or treatment of the animal that makes them so dangerous.
Myth: BSL and Laws do not work
Truth: If laws do not work then why do we have them? Because they do work, while some may not obey the law most people do. Most of those people who do not will eventually wind up in court or in jail as it right. Thus laws do work and are needed in many areas especially in protecting human life from dangerous animals and their irresponsible owners.
Douglas Wolfe
PitBullDangers.com
07/28/2011
SteveOn August 28, 2011
You may be interested in a letter to the editor of the Richmond News (August 26th issue) from a 16 year old boy who commented on his experience at a park where dogs were to be on a leash. Of course, many owners do not leash their dogs and in this case, the younger brother wouldn’t go into the park because he’s afraid of dogs.
I love dogs and we own a dog. We are not great dog owners and unfortunately our dog has nipped a few people in our home. While that is not acceptable he is 15 pounds and really can’t do any damage. However, it is an entirely different situation with a large and powerful animal. There is a reason why is not legal to attempt to keep and domesticate large animals like bears, tigers, etc. I agree with the people who say that the majority of the ‘blame’ goes to the owner but we know that there are plenty of bad owners and people who are tremendously irresponsible. It’s kind of like that trite saying; ‘Guns don’t kill people, people kill people’. Well it’s a lot harder to shoot someone if you don’t have a gun and it’s lot less likely a small child will be injured by a powerful animal if people are not allowed to own and keep large, powerful and potentially dangerous animals. I agree that there needs to be better restrictions on owning and maintaining large animals of any type.
Jaloney CaldwellOn August 28, 2011
OMG Finally! A journalist speaks back to the pit nutters. Your friend should not of bowed down to the pressure of the pitbull cult and taken down her page. It is normal for them to blame the victims, deny the severity of the bites, ridicule the persons intelligence and even threaten physical harm to try to get victims to go away. Bowing down to them only makes them win and another person is hurt. Instead she should record any threats from all communication medias. I am so glad someone from the media finally answered back to the crazy BLAME THE MEDIA excuses. We need to ban pitfulls across our nation. The Military has banned pitbulls in all branches of the armed services for a reason. Wimpy politicans are the reason civilians are not protected with a ban of this breed. It is crazy that the Woman who lost her face to a monkey attack resulted in regulations against owning monkeys, but people lose their faces, arms, legs, and lives to pitbulls regularly at a rate thousands of times more often than the rare monkey attack and NOTHING is done. We need to see the hypocracy in this and get politicans to LEAD or get out. Leaders don’t cover and bow down to crazy pitbull advocates who hold prayer vigals for the DOG when it kills a child (as they did in Chesterfield, Va recently for the dog Polar). Thank you for speaking out!
Jaloney CaldwellOn August 28, 2011
Unfortunately, Mace won’t do a thing to a pitbull. They have fewer pain sensors than other dogs and much higher aggression when they get angry. Other dogs rarely even break the skin, or bite and release. Pitbulls keep mauling and latch on to the victm and shake for as long as a half an hour or more. You are more likely to die if attacked by a pitbull rather than any other breed. You are also more likely to loose a limb. Sometimes they continue to maul police officers after they are shot. It is sort of like we are living with LIONS running loose now and they expect us to pay taxes for pulbic transportation when it is not safe to walk.
DavidOn August 28, 2011
i was chased by a pitbull only 3 days ago, and it was the scariest thing i have experienced in a long while.
the incident ocurred over by the valley6 theaters in auburn,while i was out on a sunday walk.
this huge wall of muscle and teeth ran up on me so fast, i didnt have hardly time to respond.
it was with another pitbull in their yard, with no fence i might add.luckily the idiot that owned these two killing machines,came out after hearing me screaming profanities.i am carrying mace from now on, and i will spray and ask questions later…
AnonymousOn August 28, 2011
I am very sorry to hear about the pit bull attack on this little boy, and the attack by pit bull advocates on the family. I received the same treatment after my horse was attacked by a pit bull in a public park, with hundreds of witnesses. There is no “media conspiracy,” behind every pit bull attack story is a very real victim, like your friend’s son, and like my good horse. Many victims do not live, we are very lucky. Please continue to work for stricter dog laws, every victim says the same thing “nobody should have to go through this.”
ANONYMOUS COMMENTS FROM BLACK PRESS BLOGOn August 28, 2011
Stricter laws and common sense are needed. Perhaps breed should be immaterial and not mentioned. The first attack by any dog should be a warning to the owner and a second should never be allowed to occur.
In my view if a pet is killed or more than three stitches are needed in a human, the attacker should be put down and the owner forbidden to keep a dog for at least five years.
Gotta agree with the sign!
Actually there are very few other dogs killed by pit bull type dogs. The term pit bull describes a type of dog… not a breed. There are over 20 breeds of dogs that people will call a pit bull.. this is underscored by the woman that was killed in Pacificia. The reported pit bull weight was 125 pounds. The American Pit Bull Terrier, Staffordshire Terrier or American Staffordshire Terrier at the most weigh 80 pounds.. yet they are the breeds of dogs that will take the blunt of the blame. Most dogs that are called pit bulls are just big headed muscular dogs with no specifice breed. So when you talk about extinction of these types of dogs you must want to get rid of any big headed muscular dog… may be like a labrador or boxer.. that pretty much fits the description
As a true lover of human beings AND animals, I extend my sympathy to your friend’s family.
Pit bull promoters contribute to many injuries and deaths, both of pits, other pets and humans. They want so much to believe that pit bulls are “normal” dogs that they have convinced themselves. They tell the public that misinformation, and naive people acquire pit puppies, and more homeless/dying pits is the tragic result.
Pits are THE choice of dog fighters because of their fighting abilities and instincts created by humans thru centuries of breeding. Now that dog fighting is illegal, no one benefits from these skills. Let them gradually become extinct thru free, mandatory, spay/neuter microchipping.
“fanatical animal protectors ”
Tragically, they are not animal protectors. The daily news reports (and how many do not get reported) of other dogs/animals being killed by pit bulls would make true “animal protectors” want to work to reduce the killings.
The “pit bull promoters” or “pit bull pushers” are more accurate names.
Well said. It is never the dog’s fault as dogs do not have morals and do not understand human laws. Dogs have no control in regards to their breeding/heritage (pit bulls were created to kill), their management (off leash, flimsy fences) or their sexual status (intact dogs attack more). That means it is society’s responsibility to address these predictable attacks.
Pit bulls suffer disproportionately from severe abuse, neglect, abandonment, young death (euthanasia and otherwise).
Even if pit bulls only killed other dogs (they are the best at that), why would anyone who truly loves dogs, and wants dogs to live long happy lives, be opposed to letting pit bull breeds gradually become extinct?
Free mandatory spay/neuter microchipping for all pits and pit mixes. Everybody wins, including this handicapped breed.
TamraOn August 26, 2011
It’s not the breeds, it’s the way they are raised. I live with a pitbull/rotty cross and she is the biggest baby you will ever meet. She hasnt barked or growled or bit anyone since Ive met her (aside from sounding off when she has her morning piddle.) Anyone who looks to animal control to only control certain animals are creating the frenzy that has people naming breeds when attacks happen. There are many attacks with poodles and german shepards but you have to admit, those dont surface as fast in the media as the words Pitbulls and Rottweilers do. It isnt fair to the breeds or the owners of these breeds who have kind animals who just want to enjoy their lives too. This is a case by case basis and nothing is going to change that. The day we let people tell us what dogs we can own we slowly start losing our freedoms. Where will it end? What is the next thing they will ban or take away “for our own good?” I love that dog and will defend her until the end. I am so sorry for the family of that little boy but instead of targeting a breed, target the owners.
And when I say “since ive met her” I mean she has never bit anyone, ever, including since ive met her which was 5 years ago.
Adele McNivenOn August 25, 2011
I read your column STRICTER DOG LAWS NEEDED and agree that something needs to be done, not just in the Okanagan but all over the country. The answer is NOT through banning certain breeds. The problem is that there is not enough RESPONSIBLE DOG OWNERSHIP. As mentioned, the dog owners knew the dog had a history but they did not divulge that information. Also, it seems, they did not address the issue. Clearly, when a pit bull or other bully breed bites, it can be devastating. When a yorkie bites it can be a problem.
we need to initiate ownership/handling training just like we do with other dangerous good. How many dogs who bite have had ANY training, or guidance at all? How many people are aware of dog communication/language, which is a difficult thing to read in some cases. There are videos that can be shown to kids to help them learn to read a dog’s signals of uneasiness or nervousness. I say yes, we need stricter dog laws, but we need SOME OWNER laws and public eduction. Dogs can be a wonderful addition to a life but they are animals and as such are in need of GOOD human management. I will try to find you a good video if you want to see it. Just cannot locate it at the moment.
PS. I have a friend who goes to schools to show videos and educate children about dog body language. We should have that here. Here is the link: http://www.dogscatskids.com/index.html
JamesOn August 23, 2011
I have to say I am disappointing in you Lori. We do not need any dog laws, rather we need to make one that makes sure that the owners should have a dog. I grew up with 2 German Sheppard’s and a pit bull, my parents had the common sense to not let us run around unsupervised with them. None of the dogs were viscous but my parents both knew that kids move around erratically and that can startle animals.
As for people blaming the mother??? WTF its not her fault it rest only on the dogs owners and not supervising the kids.
- Response from Lori: The stricter dog laws would obviously apply to the owners of the dogs.
If someone has an attack dog, any person that enters that house should at the very least be informed that the dog is dangerous and that dog should wear a muzzle if it is. I can’t imagine how taking that stand could be the least big disappointing to anyone who values human life.
Greta FaderOn August 21, 2011
Dear Lori,
This is a reply to your column, “Stricter Dog Laws Needed”.
I, unfortunately, did not read your entire column as I’ve never seen the paper in our house (we just moved to Kelowna). My Dad happened to leave the latest, and what seems like, the last part of your column on our kitchen counter this evening (August 20th, 2011). I read it and didn’t understand it. My Dad briefed me on the story on how the boy startled the Pit Bull while it was sleeping.
The dog did nothing wrong.
You never disturb a sleeping dog. ANY dog would do exactly what the Pit Bull did if they were startled when sleeping. It is a natural defense because, in the dog’s mind, it thinks it’s being attacked. When a dog’s sleeping they are the most vulnerable.
Stricter dog laws are not needed in Kelowna, Pentictin, Peach Land, Kamloops, the Okanagan or anywhere in general, because the dog did what it would do naturally.
The ones that were to blame in this whole story are the parents for not educating the kid to not disturb a dog when they’re sleeping.
There is no such thing as a bad dog, only a bad owner. If the owners do not know how to train their dogs (or educate people on the dos and don’ts of being around a dog), then they shouldn’t be dog owners.
These are my thoughts.
Response from Lori: I encourage you to read the entire column. CLICK HERE if you’d like to.
I don’t know if the dog was asleep or awake when the child pet him. He says it was awake and the owner says it was asleep. To me that’s irrelevant. I disagree with you that any dog would do exactly the same thing. I have two dogs who have been woken up when we pet them and even startled awake and they certainly didn’t bite our faces off. Stricter dog laws are for the owners of the dogs and this incident is a prime example of how much we do need them. This was a dog that had already attacked another child and dog, yet the family of the boy wasn’t informed of that or even of it’s existence in the home. I do agree with you that if the owners don’t know how to train their dogs or educate people on the do’s and don’ts of being around a dog that they shouldn’t be dog owners. Perhaps stricter dog laws could enforce that through a license of some kind.
Response from Greta: I personally believe that it’s how you approach a dog that should also be taken into consideration. Maybe the boy pulled its fur accidentally when he went to pet the dog? Maybe he accidentally leaned too far forward and accidentally knelt some on the dog’s paw or tail? There could be a number of factors that are hidden from anyone’s view that we can’t know about.
However, I do agree that maybe dog education classes or something may be required if you’re a first-time dog owner so that you know how to raise a dog properly if you haven’t already owned one. The course could also be available for seasoned owners that want new information or just because. It’d be at a reasonable rate but that way you’re prepared and know what to do…just like baby classes for new parents
Comments from FacebookOn August 21, 2011
Shawn Werre: Don’t bring up the subject of dog laws where I live. There’s so dang many dog fanatics its not funny. I like dogs too, but choice between a dog and a child? Please. Especially one which can rip a kid to pieces. It’s a no brainer, but tell the dog lovers that. They’d forsake their kids first. Seriously.
Andy Campbell I read somewhere that a pregnant woman was killed in SF recently by a pitbull so something clearly needs to be done; whether it’s the owner’s fault or not if you’ve got a potentially lethal weapon there needs to be limits put on it!
Lori Welbourne: The pregnant woman getting killed happened in California – I refer to that in the article. A four year old girl just lost her life in Melbourne from a Pit Bull attack. The reports never stop…
Chintu Parikh Lori, Thanks for writing this article. Also, last week, NPR SF had a good discussion on this topic. I was not ever about the extent to which Pit Bulls could cause the harm to humans especially the little ones. Needless to say but the owners have a biased view on this topic.
Anne Gray-Schroeder: I can see part of this article being very applicable, and as well there is always 2-sides to every incident. However most often than not its not the animals most of the time it’s the Dog, Cat, pet of any kind Its the owners. Sometimes the adult or child as well as they think all pets are ok to pet rech out and touch and so on. I am not playing what happened down in anyway, howevwer the owners are the biggest at fault, or somwetimes the parent when you say don’t reach for a dog when you don’t know it and especially when a owner tels them not to pet or reach for a strange dog, some rules are absolutely needed, but so is common sence and caustion for any animale. If your totally unaware of the animals behaviour stay clear unless the owner says its ok, and then still be very careful. I know it happens, but not all pitbull are bad and uncontrollable, I have seen more sweet tempered than not So we all need to be educated and aware that pets of all kinds are all different and it is how they are trained and treated that makes the difference to avoid this type of insident from happening.I hope the little guy is healerd in all ways, and he losses his fear of dogs, as there is alot of good thing for him to enjoy with a pet.
Lee Paluck: people need to be ALOT MORE responsible for thier pets and thier pets actions….why kill the animal when it is not the animals fault but the idiot owners ? …. there will always be an incident but there would be so many less attacks and such if a pets owner was more responsible…it seems pit bull owners have these dogs plus a few other breeds for the sheer “look at my cool dog” factor and not have the tact or responsibility it takes to own one of these dogs, ive seen these breeds with good owners that are not at all vicious or wanting to attack everything in sight, if you need a license to drive and even catch a fish then surely we need to have a license with a training course of some kind to raise and keep a dog of this kind
Darin Thomas West: shoot the owner, poodles bite too…. To all the owners of stupid dogs, a dog is only as smart as the person that trained it……
Kathy Scott: Darin – you say it best … T-R-A-I-N-I-N-G. Get CONTROL of your pet…be it a bird, cat, dog, horse, goat…just do it and be responsible for the actions of your choice of pet. It’s a tough job but anyone should know that, going in – something like … kids???7 hours ago · Like
Andy Campbell: To me this seems simple enough. Why don’t people have to muzzle this particular breed, it clearly has violent tendencies and lethal consequences. In the privacy of your own home or closed off yard then the dog can run free. How hard is this?!?!? To me this is a weapon in the wrong hands. There are gun law so why aren’t there pitbull laws too. A poodle is the equivalent more or less of a water gun, german sheperd a water cannon and a pit bull an oozy
Kym TarrOn August 21, 2011
Many years ago I was bit by an Australian Blue Heeler when I was 8 months pregnant with my youngest son. I did not even see the dog, it bit me twice as I put my foot on the homeowners driveway. This was not the first time this animal had bitten either. The mail man refused to deliver mail to the street because of the dog. Because the dog was owned by a prominent member of the city I lived in at the time, authorities left it up to the homeowner to decide what should or should not happen to the dog. I was and still am traumatized by the dog bite.. the dog was not put down.. the owner paid a fine, that was it. Needless to say I was not impressed. I wholeheartedly agree with stronger laws!
BruceOn August 21, 2011
Good article Lori (again). It is good that you cover so many issues in your column. I found it particularily interesting to read the advice put forward by both Jan Eachus and Coleen Lynn on this subject.
Jan Eachus Canine Welfare and Legislation Specialist.On August 21, 2011
Very good article on Stricter dog laws needed. I’m a retired Chief Inspector for the Royal SPCA in the UK. For the past 34 years I’ve worked with and investigated 100′s if not over a 1000 incidents involving either dog on human or dog on other pet animal.
In most all cases it was the fault of the owner.
In the case you reported it could have all been prevented by simply removing the dog to a safe area( NOT CHAINING IT UP) or strict supervising of the dog while people outside the family were on the property.
The dog has already indicated from a previous incident it was not happy with what it thought was a stranger on the property.
Although it’s easy to say stricter laws are needed it is also important that the right laws are asked for.
Multnomah County in Oregon http://www.multcopets.org has a very good example of a workable law to control dangerous dogs yet is fair to the owner, dog and victim.
Calgary in Alberta also has a very good dangerous dog law which again is fair.
It’s important there is not a third time for the same dog.
I’m not suggesting the dog should be put to sleep but certain strict control orders need to be placed on both the owner and dog. At least until such time it can be proven the dogs behaviour has changed.
Thank you.
Jan Eachus – Chief Inspector RSPCA (Retired)
Canine Welfare & Legislation Specialist
Helping the needs of Dogs through Legislation
I just read your wonderful (and sad) piece about the Okanagan family who tried to organize to get better laws (http://www.pnwlocalnews.com/south_king/aub/opinion/127952843.html). I just wrote a piece about this that I think this mother will find useful. She needed to have turned commenting OFF on the Facebook page. It’s very difficult with so many of the pro-pit bull crowd being the ages 18-24. They’re highly organized online and many person’s like this poor mother are derailed by them. Here is the post: How to Pass a Local Pit Bull Ordinance (http://blog.dogsbite.org/2011/08/how-to-pass-local-pit-bull-ordinance.html)
Colleen Lynn
Founder of DogsBite.org
BrianOn August 18, 2011
Unless you’re camping in a tent out in the woods you haven’t experienced the beauty of real camping. I wouldn’t want to be stuck in a busy campground like a sardine in a can with all the tent trailers and RV’s practically stacked on top of each other either. You can’t even have a campfire at most of those sites. Camping isn’t what it used to be! Try it the real way next time, you might like that better.
RickOn August 18, 2011
I too hated camping, until we got our travel trailer. Now I enjoy it and I too read a book while camping this year.Word of advice. EAR PLUGS!
BruceOn August 18, 2011
Good article, I too enjoyed the bonding resulting from camping with my children when they were young, but had never thought of it that way (I was actually too poor to do anything else!). Maybe I should try again now that I have grand kids! Keep up the good work.
LorraineOn August 18, 2011
…. this weeks column makes me smile.
WesOn August 18, 2011
I love the outdoors as well….as long as it’s with a 40ft rolling hotel complete with heater, shower, toilet, etc. especially when there’s kids involved. Noisy neighbours are worse if you’re in a tent, although enough alcohol will mute those senses. Heresh to campin and not having to rough it. Been there done that…got the t-shirt to prove it.
MargieOn August 18, 2011
Good article and I agree with you whole heartedly. Hotel camping.
KathleenOn August 17, 2011
Ha! I feel your pain, Lori! For my family, camping means there’s no room service!
Ken CooperOn August 17, 2011
Camping can be a love-hate relationship
MargieOn August 17, 2011
I’d feel the same way, I’m not a camper, but you’re a trooper for sticking it out with your family.
Cathy and DavidOn August 17, 2011
We loved this piece and can’t wait to hear how the week turned out
KendiOn August 17, 2011
Hey guys, as kids we did alot of camping & Mom & Dad would always send us off to collect firewood while they set up; hope Paul is passing on that tradition to Daisy & Sam! I know that you’ll think I’m crazy Lori, but i just got back from a 10 day camping trip with approx. 2000 Girl Guides/Girl Scouts from all over the world and we had a great time! At least you had a shower… ours were solar showers and a small bucket to stand in, then you had to dispose of your water in the proper gray water tank! Gives you an appreciation of the amount of water that we typically waste in a day when you have to haul it for drinking, bathing and dishes, and then have to dispose of it after! (it is amazing how little you actually need to wash your hair and have a wash up & still feel clean!) We had built a shower with 6 stalls for the 400 girls/guiders on our site, but we (4 of us) core staff had our own private little stall tucked into our shelter, which we called our batchelor suite! That said, i do admit to enjoying that very first shower home with little thought of what is going down the drain! Check out the BC Girl Guide webpage for SOAR 2011! See you soon, Kendi
MarciOn August 17, 2011
That was awesome, Lori — I LOVE camping as long as the Camping spot is at the Hilton, Marriott or Four Seasons! I hope you enjoyed the rest of your time! Marci
LorraineOn August 17, 2011
Life is never dull when we live with people who are different than us. Love your story!
AnnOn August 17, 2011
I know what you are saying. I have said to my husband that I am too old to sleep on the ground, to cook over an open fire then to come home to a mountain of laundry. That’s not a vacation to me. I do not mind going for a picnic, but at the end of the day there better be a nice soft bed inside a building. Looking forward to your next week to see how you do. Good Luck Lori!
Lisa KellyOn August 17, 2011
hear ya….We went camping last month to Alouette Lake…although it rained the day we set up…we did have a tent trailer…my socks were wet..kids forgot to pack extra sweaters,jackets and socks…we drove home the next day to pick up the things that we forgot including the can opener…and went back to our camp site…needless to say our 6 year old daughter had enough by Saturday so we left after 2 nights…We are going again this week, but this time we are prepared…we hope. This time we are taking a portable dvd player with dvds as to not get bored and if it rains again …there will be at least something to do in the tent trailer.
LindaOn August 17, 2011
I’m glad to be a woman in this day and age when making a choice that works for me and my family is considered normal and healthy. I know many women still don’t exercise that right and get stuck being an unhappy housewife or an unhappy working mother depending on their circumstance or what they think their circumstances are. If there was ever a time where we could make our own decisions about the kind of life we want to lead, that time is now. Thank you Gloria Steinem.
DianeOn August 17, 2011
I would love to be a housewife, but only if I could have a rich husband!
DianeOn August 17, 2011
Pay me to stay home and I’ll do it. But only if I can be out spending it all day!
Debbie CouttsOn August 17, 2011
My Mom would have loved your house, Lori. Dad never knew what he would find when he got home. One day it was glossy black on the bathroom ceiling, another time the kitchen walls were bright orange… the 1960′s era “Betty Crockers” in our neighbourhood considered her “eccentric”!
AnnOn August 17, 2011
Love it Lori, You make a lot of sense as to the bright colors that they will cheer a person up. In fact my husband and I were out the other day and saw some bright color sheets and thought about your column. Keep them coming.
LorraineOn August 17, 2011
What fun!!
HansOn August 17, 2011
First thing we did when we moved into our house over 5 years ago, was painting all the rooms a different color. Being new to the Okanagan straight from Holland, we were not familiar at all with the ‘standard’ of colors that seems to be the norm here. So we painted the walls of our living room a bright orange and red, just because we felt like it. (and still love it!) And when the time comes to sell the house (if ever) we can paint it beige. Or brown. Or whatever
NormOn August 17, 2011
Good column and I agree with you, you have to have colour to make the house come alive.
JeremieOn August 17, 2011
Enjoyed my Sunday morning read Lori. Boldness has it’s virtues and your colour selections usually do work! Don’t paint the outside of the house, it is too time consuming to repaint. If you do sell, don’t paint over ALL of your masterpieces, many of those rooms make the house a home.
SusanOn August 17, 2011
Hey Lori, I didn’t realize that was you sitting in front of me. Sorry!
Michael SnellOn August 17, 2011
Laughter I don’t mind, people quietly making out I don’t mind, even noisy popcorn “chompers” but a directors running commentary on the movie? No. The all time worst was a guy at the premier of a Batman movie my kids were nuts to see; who continued to clear most of his lungs and perhaps some of his liver through out the movie. I thought guys like that got married so someone could protect them from themselves, but his wife? No. btw what bridge did you cross?
JeremieOn August 17, 2011
Great article Lori. I always loved seeing movies with you, except I was always hoping for the talkers, chompers and slurpers. That way I could laugh at your disgust with them!
RondaOn August 17, 2011
Ok – I am an avid movie goer and I can not stand people who chatter about other stuff during the movie but I must confess I laugh out loud all the time and so does my amazing daughter who is also a an avid movie goer! Both Mason and I are so against movie chatter that we often will go to a show on our own! It truly is a great experience unfortunately most folks feel bad for us when we say we went to a show on our own – this is one time you so do not need someone to go somewhere with! Mind you all that being said I love going to the movies with my two best friends my husband and my daughter! Mason is off ot see Harry Potter Matinee in Whistler on her own – she is there for summer training! I do believe that going to the movies on your own is a show of self confidence!
PamOn July 11, 2011
LOL – tooooooooooo funny!
JasonOn July 11, 2011
People that want to isolate kids from the truth are only hurting them. Its kind of like people that dont want reproduction taught in school. The fact she want a cigaratte on her “temporary” tattoo opens the door for discussion. Personally, I would not allow a tattoo until they are not under my roof.
BruceOn July 10, 2011
It is a cool looking tatoo (judging by your graphics), and I agree that your daughters attitude regarding smoking are the most important. And better still, it opened the topic to be discussed in your family, AND it washes off. Don’t let her get any other kind! Another funny article, well done.
C+DOn July 10, 2011
You had us in tears of laughter this morning reading the Okanagan! Thank you!!
KathleenOn July 10, 2011
Haha! Who wants to be “Mother of the year” anyway? Gak! Haha! And, yes, kids are educated & sooo much smarter than so many believe them to be. I applaud your willingness to let your daughter be herself & march to the beat of her own drum.
JeremieOn July 10, 2011
That tattoo was hilarious and it is cool that she is an independent thinker enough to choose it. Daisy always says that smoking is stinky!
Oh ya, love the tone of the article and the little insight you share Lori.
SandyOn July 3, 2011
LOL! I wriggle my nose all the time! thanks for the laugh!
BruceOn July 3, 2011
What a great idea, if only it could be true. My job is very mundane, hence my clone can take that over (anytime) while I go golfing. Nothing wrong with a good dream, eh? Bruce
VivianOn June 29, 2011
Hi Lori, I enjoy your column in the Ashcroft Journal every week – it is so nice to read about things that make me smile out loud. Re: Looking for Sleep in all the Wrong Places – while I was reading it, I was thinking – she is writing about me!! I also have always had an embarrassing falling asleep problem. My friends are used to seeing my eyes rolling around in my head during a visit. The dangerous times are when I am driving but I have a solution that works for me. I eat “Spitz”. Long distance truckers do this, spitting the shells all over their dashes. I have a bag with a soup can in it hanging on my gear shift, a container of sun flower seeds in my cup holder and I eat one at a time, putting the shells in the bag. Keeps me busy, keeps me awake. Anyway, it was fun to read about your sleeping problem. Thanks again for all the smiles.
WallyOn June 26, 2011
Thank you Lori. I was also in tears when I saw what was going on in Vancouver with the rioters and their complete disregard and ignorance. I hope the rest of the world understands that these people don’t represent Vancouver residents because they don’t! Your article helps illustrate that point. Wally
BertOn June 26, 2011
Hi Lori: here is an article someone sent to me…great response from the nurse. Cheers Bert LOVE THIS…my new word of the day: douchetard
Following is a letter of apology from Tim Kwong, a rioter, who turned himself in to the Police. Following this is an awesome response from a nurse working the E.R. at St. Paul’s: A Letter of Appoligy to Vancouver and Family and Friends Hey Everyone ! The status is : I Turned myself in to the VPD today at 12pm I am now being charged on 4 counts. I am Truly Sorry for what i have done !!! I have no excuse for my actions during the Riot. To my Friends, Family, Coworkers, and of course all of Vancouver and BC i am SORRY for what i have done. I would like to say on my behalf that I LOVE VANCOUVER ! I’ve been Born n Raised here all my life !! and that This Town means everything to me !!! again i understand that my actions caused did not show any of that ! But i hope you one day see that i do care about this town and my friends n family and this is NOT like me !! I am ashamed at what i have done, I know i may never gain the respect of this town again. But I PROMISE that i will do whatever i can to make this up !! I am a big believer in Cleaning up your mess !! I WILL DO WHATEVER IT TAKES to make things right ! I hope this will insite some of the other rioters to do the right thing and turn themselves in !!!! I will do whatever it takes to help out and clean this town up and do what i can to prevent actions like this from ever happening in our town again. I know I deserve all the hate ! but please be respectful and don’t hate on any of my friends or family or co workers since these actions are only caused by ME and ME only !!!! Again SORRY VANCOUVER ! SORRY BC !! The below letter by Nurse J.J. was in response to Tim Kwong’s apology: Tim, Just because you can string an apologetic sentence together does not mean you are sorry. Perhaps I should make you aware of the consequences of your action. To you, it’s just an overturned car that you set on fire. To me, it’s walking into an overflowing ER and helping treat a girl with a severe asthma attack because she was exposed to the noxious, acrid smoke of a burning vehicle. To her, it was just a chance to be a part of a group cheering for her team. Little did she know that later on, we were thinking of sticking a breathing tube down her throat if her condition did not improve. To you (yes, I am lumping you with all the douche bag rioters in the ER that night) it’s a chance to congregate in the ER waiting room, pounding on the triage window demanding to be seen for teargas exposure and cuts from looting and fighting, while posturing and bragging about how you kicked the crap out of somebody and smashed shit up. To me, it’s taking my time away from the little old quiet lady having chest pain or taking time away from the person you “shit-kicked” for trying to stop the looting. To you, it’s just a fight. To me, it’s the ER social worker looking for a teddy bear to console a 4 year old girl because she just witnessed her dad get a broken nose as he was trying to get his daughter out of the hot zone. To you, it’s writing a letter saying “you will do whatever it takes to help clean the city.” To me, it’s walking home after a long shift and seeing all these people at 7:30 in the morning armed with garbage bags cleaning up YOUR mess and realizing that these people have more class in their pinky finger than you could ever muster in your whole life. To me, it’s getting home to shower, only to have my elderly neighbour knock on my door and ask me if he should make an appointment with his doctor because he was experiencing shortness of breath which later turned to chest pain in the morning. He did not think about leaving his window open as he went to bed at 9 o’clock. The smoke from all the burning cars made it to our building, into his room and triggered his asthma, which then raised his heart rate, which then became a small heart attack. I asked him why he didn’t go to the ER, and he answered, “I turned on the tv this morning and saw the rioting, I did not want to be a burden.” To you, it’s just an overturned car that you set on fire. Why am I blaming you for all this? Because you are the instigator. You ask people to leave your family, friends and co-workers alone?! I think they need to know how much of a colossal douche you are. Remember that your parents worked themselves to the bone so they can move to this country and give you your god-given right to flip cars over and set them on fire. You, Tim Kwong, are a douchtard. Apology not accepted. — from a E.R. nurse
LorraineOn June 21, 2011
Your article “Looking for sleep in all the wrong places” took me back to exactly what I was also going through. I, too, would wake with a snort and would have to continually fight sleep while driving a car. I went to my doctor and he suggested I go to a sleep clinic. Fortunately, I did as not only did I have sleep apnea but I had severe deprevation of oxygen as my throat would close during sleep. This can cause many problems, i.e, heart problems, memory loss, to name a few. I would suggest, Lori, that you see your doctor as it is serious. I now wear a sleep apparatus (CPAP) uncomfortable, yes, but I get a much better sleep and I’m not as likely to have a heart attack during the night.
BruceOn June 21, 2011
Wow, you sure got a lot of response (and advice) for this column, goes to show how many people care. Just to share, I was diagnosed with sleep apnea years ago, and got a neat little device (will fit in your pocket) from “Sleep Apnea & Snoring Clinics” (Dr. Halstrom), about 9 years ago. My wife won’t let me go to sleep without it, as I snore so loudly, and have mini periods of not breathing, which obviously is very dangerous. The real benefit to me is that I feel well rested in the morning. Look forward to reading what you find your problem to be. You must let us all know.
KayOn June 21, 2011
You have to have your B12 checked….really, you should be somewhere between 400 – 600 and I was at 140, always exhausted….my little bit of advise.
GeorgeOn June 21, 2011
Hi: I encountered your article (“Looking for sleep…”)unintentionally, and wondered if you’ve talked to your MD about it; perhaps some sort of sleep disturbance such as sleep apnea? Just a thought. Regards, George
FrankOn June 21, 2011
Dear Lori, Falling asleep while watching a movie is one thing, but falling asleep while driving is another. My sister was hit head on by a driver that had fallen asleep at the wheel and she almost lost her life. The sleepy gentleman behind the wheel of the other car was not so lucky. This issue is not to be taken lightly and I urge you to get yourself medically checked out if you haven’t already. I enjoy your articles and your honesty and look forward to more. Frank
DonnaOn June 21, 2011
Hi Lori. I always enjoy reading your articles in the Daily Courier. The one you wrote this week about sleeping is so fitting with what I experience. I struggled for many years to try to stay awake and finally was diagnosed at age 38 with narcolepsy. I am now 63 years old. Many physicians always had answers to why I was tired but it wasn’t till I saw an internist in Saskatoon who hit the nail on the head. In my case it’s a family inheritance with my youngest daughter also having narcolepsy. She started having the same symptoms I had during high school and when I mentioned to the doctor that she could have narcolepsy, he didn’t believe me – until of course she had an electroencephalogram which proved me to be right. Just a suggestion to mention it to your doctor. I know what it’s like when it’s painful to stay awake. Good luck.
MoiraOn June 21, 2011
Hi Lori, I read your column in the Kelowna Daily Courier every week and really enjoy it, but today’s column about your sleeping problem reminded me of my younger sister. She had sleep apnea and it sounds like what you’re describing. When she was 34 years old she fell asleep at the wheel and drove her truck over an embankment and died of a broken neck. So please – see your doctor right away. Moira
DeniseOn June 21, 2011
Just read your column “Looking for sleep in all the wrong places”. It was funny and I have the same problem. Did you find out how to correct this problem? Please let me know if you do. Thanks Denise
KenOn June 21, 2011
Hi Lori. Read your article in Event about drowsiness. I relate. You didn’t mention sleep apnea at all…I wonder if you’ve checked that out? (You probably know what apnea is, but…it is either a physical blockage of the airway [obstructive apnea] or failure of the brain’s breathing signal [central apnea].)You may think you are getting a full night’s sleep, but the quality of sleep counts also. I didn’t think I had apnea, but I had a sleep test done and I do have “hypapnea” events. I’m not all that bad, but because I have nodded off while driving, I am rated as severe. I sleep with a CPAP (Continuous Positive Air Pressure) machine now to keep my airway open. I have to admit, there are still times when I can nod off, but I think overall I’ve improved. My blood pressure improved – apnea can lead to heart problems and diabetes, as well as be life threatening during an “event”. A couple possible indications of apnea include getting up to go to the bathroom in the middle of the night, and snoring. Just some thoughts for your consideration. Cheers.
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K.K.On June 20, 2011
Hello Lori Welbourne, Reading your article in the Quesnel Observer dated Fri. June 17, 2011, I remember being in your shoes. My dad read the article first and said “You have to write to her and tell her what she has!”. He recognized also the signs that I also had. I was tested for many things and managed to pass through college with the help of good friends and strangers who would wake me up during exams and classes. I have been diagnosed with narcolepsy, and had symptoms the same as yours, and went undiagnosed and unable to fully function for years. It wasn’t until I developed the fourth classic symptom of narcolepsy, which I believe about 25% of people eventually develop, called cataplexy, which is falling down and losing muscle tone at any strong emotion, that they were able to diagnose me. Everytime I sat down I would fall asleep, especially during eating wheat products, which put me into a coma like sleep. I had little mini-naps all day, falling asleep for a few seconds during conversations, I couldn’t read books anymore, I couldn’t watch TV because I would either fall asleep, or if something made me laugh, I would fall on the floor unable to move. There are drugs available to keep you awake (modafinal), but it doesn’t agree with me and I can’t take it. After many years of suffering, I finally have come to a solution. I nap every afternoon for 1.5 to 3 hours, and have only a part-time (mornings) job. I am alert enough to be able to drive and don’t drive if I don’t have my nap. Finally, all the other symptoms went away, including the cataplexy. I can function at a reasonable level but have had to go on disability benefits because I also have been diagnosed (more recently-7 years ago) from schizophrenia. I believe a lack of oxygen at my birth affected my brain and helped these illnesses to develop. One of the other symptoms of narcolepsy is hypnagogic hallucinations, which are hallucinations during falling asleep or waking up. You may hear someone talking to you that isn’t really there, or noises that seem like restaurant noise, but just can be ignored while you try to get to sleep. You may not have developed these yet, but please continue to nap, and maybe you never will develop them. My symptoms came in in a certain order and left in the reverse order. There is a test you can take called the MSLT (Multiple Sleep Latency Test) which they can do with a doctor’s recommendation at any hospital with a sleep lab, to see if you have narcolepsy. There is also a blood test that can be done (Stanford University), I had one done after I was diagnosed for interests sake, and found that my father carried the gene, but hadn’t developed the illness. I hope that I am wrong and you don’t have this illness, but it sounds pretty sure, you may also have sleep apnea, which is a blockage of your nose or throat area during night sleep, causing you to wake many times during the night to start breathing again, which causes you to have an unrestful sleep, and results in the tiredness during the day. Mine started when I was in high school or college, but wasn’t really bad until college. Hopefully this info helps you find out what is going on with your sleep, the napping really works, but it has to be consistent and regular over a fairly long period of time until you are safe to drive. It is too easy to microsleep if you are tired and that would be dangerous for you and others on the road. Sorry it’s not a very organized email, but I just had to get something off to you right away, so I have not been very thorough, but I hope you find out what’s going on for you.
Lisa KellyOn June 13, 2011
Here is some statistics to mull over while you watch game 7 on Wednesday… We are on home ice, Boston has never won here…we have more players that can shoot a puck…and score. If you play video games..EA Electronics predicted back in early september that the 2011 playoffs would be Boston and Vancouver..and Vancouver would win it in Game 7..check it out (its a video game)Also they predicted we would win the Presidents Cup (Check) as well as the Conference Final (check)…and just to add more heat to the fire…Montreal had the Olympics..the following year they won the Cup…Calgary had the Olympics in 1988..Calgary Flames won the Cup in 1989….Here in Vancouver we had the Olympics last year…Heres to you Canucks…go get em boys!
Karen McNeillOn June 13, 2011
GO CANUCKS GO!
Soccer MomOn June 13, 2011
You are such a talented writer. I love the way you tell your stories. Runner up is not a victory! I know this from a lifetime of personal experience but it was a worth a sell!GO CANUCKS!!!
DebraOn June 13, 2011
It does matter who wins! If Vancouver wins they will finally have one Stanley Cup and can go another 40 years before they win again and will maintain their fans. Boston has wond! It’s Vancouver’s fan’s turn!
AnnOn June 13, 2011
Love the article. I agree with you and Bruce that it is Vancouver’s year. Jim will have to wait for a different year. I remember watching hockey with my dad as a child and the one rule was that if we were in the living room with him there was no talking during the hockey game. My father is gone now, but I think he would be proud that both my sister and I are big hockey fans. (my sisters husband is a Boston fan, but we forgive him especially when Boston loses the cup)
BruceOn June 13, 2011
Good article, but even though Boston hasn’t won for a long time…Vancouver has NEVER won “the cup!” Let’s hope justice is done and we prevail (sorry Jim[love your ardt work], but you’re team can have it next year, if we aren’t there!). ps: like your new video’s, but haven’t figured out how to respond!
JeremieOn June 13, 2011
My sister captures our childhood in this article. I loved Peter Puck. And I remember going to my first game January 12th 1977 and have been hooked on the game ever since! Sorry Lol, left ya for a few hours to play on your own.
HaliaOn June 13, 2011
I was raised in la belle ville de Montreal….need I say more? Always recollect the short video CBC production of getting the wrong sweater sent by Eaton’s catalogue service….and having to wear it to play out door rink hockey…loved it! That would be the Toronto Maple Leafs sweater in lieu of Montreal Les Habs!
LynnOn June 13, 2011
I was born and raised in Ottawa where all it was was Montreal Canadiens and Ottawa 67′s- then the Senators came oh ya. We all hated Toronto Maple Leafs, it was that simple. I was a rink rat since my brother played hockey- and every neighbourhood had outdoor ice rinks and warm up shacks…
BruceOn June 6, 2011
Great column…AGAIN!! I would have lunch with Steve anytime, but I don’t have the patience anymore for people like you other friend. Keep up the good work!
Faiz Al-NajdiOn June 6, 2011
I entirely agree, this is definitely “bad manners” to do such a thing. However, come to it that sometimes it becomes absolutely unavoidable as some one requests you some info immediately and he/she may be desperately waiting for the same at the other end. You now have two choice. 1. seek displeasure of the one in front of you, or 2. seek the wrath of someone far away. So what do you do in such a circumstance?
ErinOn June 6, 2011
Oh wow you hit one of my pet peeves! I have a friend who does the same thing, texting away while she’s visiting. Argh it drives me nuts! I feel like saying, “What, I’m not interesting enough for you?”
NormOn June 6, 2011
Hi Lori Great column, I too find it rude if you are in a meeting and someone answers the phone or text’s. If you take the time to set up a lunch or meeting with somone, they should take the time to give you their attention. Well said and I hope people take your advice.
ThomasOn June 6, 2011
After years of watching this behavior from behind the bar, I’ve come to the conclusion that the friends are better off not speaking to that person face-to-face. They are usually dull, rude and clueless and should be prohibited from live conversation.
HaliaOn June 6, 2011
I’d have got up and gone….it happens on dates…WTH? In our out!
MarichuOn May 31, 2011
Excellent column Lori – so very true. We all have nick-names we use, and having a very unusual name myself I have been very aware of this for quite some time. What I find interesting is that oftentimes people will immediately ask “what else” they can call me other than my name because it seems too difficult to learn. I’m on the same thought-line as Debra when she says that she waits to see what they will end up calling her. I hope that people will read your column and be more sensitive to individual preferences
DebraOn May 31, 2011
This is so true, what offends one compliments another there is no way to win. I find it funny that with a name like “Debra” most people ask me if a prefer “Debra”, “Debbie” or “Deb”? As I always introduce myself as Debra I am not sure why they ask (if I wanted to be called Johnny wouldn’t I introduce myself that way) but I answer anyway….saying that I do prefer “Debra” In all my long years there has only been two people that having asked that question and ended up calling me Debra. Why ask if you aren’t going to do as I request? Not being a person that cares what I am called I just love to see what people will say and how long it will take to start calling me Deb or Debbie. People are funny!!
RonOn May 31, 2011
Ok Ma’am
AdonaOn May 31, 2011
Enjoyed the column Lori!
MargieOn May 31, 2011
To me it’s all about adjetive, my husband can call me bitch as long as he say’s ‘Pretty Bitch’ I have a girlfriend who’s husband can call her “Skinny Bitch”lol
TinaOn May 26, 2011
I really loved this article. So many people say mean things about Oprah and I always want to ask them what they thought they’d done for the world in comparison to her. It’s unbelievable to me. The price of success I guess! Oprah has been a huge inspiration to me and my whole family and we’re also very sad to see her show ending. Keep up the great work with your writing – I always look forward to your column. You’re a breath of fresh air!
GayOn May 26, 2011
Lori I’m grieving Oprah’s show being over soon. I found myself in tears a few times on her show today… Now who will inspire and motivate me to move on? She has blessed the world ( Didn’t like everything she did but for the most part…amazing) but now i wonder how I can make a difference in my sphere of influence. And thanks for your thoughts. I hear there is something at the mall on Wednesday… do you know about it?
AnnOn May 26, 2011
Great column Lori. You are so correct about Oprah, she is one of a kind and will be missed. I am hoping that she might start her show again on her network (OWN). She has made so many woman and men laugh and cry by digging into issues that most people never thought of. And she has a way to make a person look at their own life for better or worse and thank her in the end. Thanks again Lori for another great column.
CarolynOn May 26, 2011
Oprah’s one of a kind and so are you! Thanks for another great article Lori!! I’m going to miss Oprah’s show too!
MarciOn May 26, 2011
Love it, Lori — you are right on!!!
DebraOn May 26, 2011
Hi you could do that for Gina and clone her you would be a billionaire!!! Put me down for three!
KathleenOn May 26, 2011
Wonderfully & poignantly written, Lori. There is no one right or wrong way of being a Mom. The only thing (I believe) that matters is each Mom finds their own balance & their kids know their value in that balance. Happy Mother’s Day! xx
KasiaOn May 26, 2011
Well said Lori! More power and strength to all working moms out there, I say that we r all super moms and amaizing people who r able to do it all! And as to making birthday cakes from scratch….well I rather spend that time playing with my kids! Happy mothers day
DianneOn May 26, 2011
Thank you for telling other Moms they don’t have to be as perfect as the TV moms. I was able to stay at home until both kids were in school. By then I needed to get back into the working world, to talk to adults again. I baked cakes and muffins for birthdays or school events, but was never insulted when the kids asked for a cake from the store. I’ve been thankful for this as I still had a ton of planning to do for a Birthday party. I did my best to help out at school functions. I can say I was there when and if they needed me. I did my best. I do have some guilt for not have as much one on one time as my parents did with me. I then remind myself I have two young adults who have turned out to be good people. I guess I didn’t do a bad job after all.
Laurie COn May 26, 2011
Hi Lori and Happy Mother’s Day! I wanted to thank you for you Mother’s Day column. Loved it and loved how you pointed out the importance of doing what is right for you and your family as opposed to doing what you think everyone else thinks is right for the world. I love how you stand up for all of us who are just trying to do our best for ourselves and ultimately our best for our families. Have a great day and keep on writing!
Kathy HenryOn May 26, 2011
Motherhood equals guilt….no truer words have ever been said. I remember breaking down in tears when I was expecting my son(my only child)crying out…” I just want to be a good mother!”…I don’t know why but I had a premonition the task would bring me to my knees. Amazed by his beauty, I almost always feel inferior to the task. Soon after giving birth, and emerging from my own post-partum haze I had an epiphany. My mother, who raised three of us….no wonder she was a nervous wreck. She did not gladly bake cookies nor did she relish in the cooking of yet another meal… I now knew why. I immediately forgave her for every crancky moment I was blessed to witness. Unfortunately, she passed away a mere two years after my son, her only grand-child was born….enough time for me to realize the true hero she really was but not nearly long enough for me to make amends for taking her for granted all those years. Happy Mothers’ Day Jean Henry…my beautiful,complicated,imperfect,astounding Mother-you are so missed!
BenOn May 26, 2011
Good article, everyone must choose their own path, and happy grandmothers day also!
AnnOn May 26, 2011
Great column this week Lori. And as a mother myself I need to say, you hit the nail on the head this week. Every mother is different and we raise our children in different way we know. We mainly go with what is known as motherly instinct. Happy Mother’s Day to you.
Darlene FosterOn May 26, 2011
You did the right thing and should never feel guilty about it. I also had to work full time while the enitre time my children were growing up. They are adults now and tell me they were always very proud of me and my career and that I was a good role model. They felt they didn’t miss out as the time I did spend with them was very special and meaningfull. Often quality time can be more effective than quantiy time. Here’s to all mothers out there who contribute so much to the world by raising strong and independant children. Here is my Mother’s Day blog http://darlenefoster.wordpress.com/2011/05/08/a-mother%e2%80%99s-day-message/
Mike RutiglianoOn May 26, 2011
Great article Lori, well written, poignant, and genuine… happy mothers day….
JasonOn May 26, 2011
Then you need to manage the manager. It never ends. I call this issue the “Golden Shackels”. Scrooge inspires me to remember to keep the focus on relationships. He had all the money, spent every thought on how to protect it, rather than living with it. The more he protected it, the more people detested him. And the more people hated him, the more he went into isolation. = Depression
Joe V.On May 26, 2011
From 10,000 sq ft to carriage house to pursue a dream…it does happen.
Donna DukeOn May 26, 2011
I’ve always thought big mansions and multiple properties and all that the wealthy amass must be a huge albatros around one’s neck in terms of management. I guess if you have enough bucks you hire a manager. I read Jane Fonda’s book My Life …
HyoOn May 26, 2011
I’ve been thinking of a similar move, only to a boat instead of a trailer. For some strange reason, the rest of the family’s not so keen on the idea.
JasonOn May 26, 2011
I know this is the answer. The problem is taking the leap. We are all hoarders, to some degree.
Charisse LansingOn May 26, 2011
Amazing guy, Lori. Saw him on Oprah. We have to get that to Kelowna.
JackieOn May 26, 2011
I was not interested in that movie until I read this article. thanks for sharing your thoughts.
RhetaOn May 26, 2011
Another great article, Lori. Thanks for researching this and sharing. I will keep my eyes open for the movie. We are learning all the time.
DebraOn May 26, 2011
I would love to see it as well!
Darlene FosterOn May 26, 2011
Great inspirational story. Glad you took your chuildren to the movie. Kids need to hear more stories like this. I am sure they will never forget it. Love your columns!
MarciOn May 26, 2011
What a great article, Lori!! Happy Easter!
Lori L.On May 26, 2011
I took my daughter to see Soul Surfer yesterday….we loved it! What a truly inspirational young lady!!!! Love the quite “I don’t need easy, I just need possible”. Words to live by!!!
HughOn May 26, 2011
I just finished reading “Patriots Heart” by John Furlong (and Garry Mason). Your article reminds me so much about this truly inspiring account of our 2010 Winter Olympics. It will be interesting to see the efect that our Olympic athletes have on our young generation in the years to come. Great column, AGAIN!
Charisse LansingOn May 26, 2011
Great article, Lori! I certainly chuckled, especially about the dishwasher and laundry situation. I can totally relate. Yes, and we certainly do get used to these luxuries and take them for granted. I can also relate to when you were on your own and had your own place. So true!!! Well written!
KathyOn May 26, 2011
wants to thank you for sharing your article…I sooo get it!! I used to have no electricity, running water nor appliances as a child growing up but now I have all those and waaaaaaay more. Yet, I have to, time to time, remember back when and it does make me appreciate the here and now. Nice writing!!!!
EllenOn May 26, 2011
Life was so much simpler back then. I think of it every month when I pay almost $300 for 4 cell phones, $90 for cable, $40 for internet … really necessary… or just convenience?
JaminaOn May 26, 2011
thanxs Lori….your article is so true and I agree 100% with it all…
KathleenOn May 26, 2011
Wonderful & poignant column, Lori. I agree wholeheartedly, life & your perspective is all about choice. I choose happy! Have a great day!
HughOn May 26, 2011
Interesting, (and quite perceptive I think) that you observe when we aquire new things we: “often take for granted once we get used to them.” Malcolm Gladwell wrote in one of his interesting books about this phenomenon, we are all aware of desiring a new car, house, bedroom suite,TV, or other item, only to become accustome to them VERY quickly. This is normal. What is most important however (as you write) is to be thankful for what we have! Great article—again!
Tami RaeOn May 26, 2011
Love it!!!
JamesOn May 26, 2011
A great read Lori…thanks for posting this link.
Mike T.On May 26, 2011
i think i forgot what that kind of lucky is lol
TamiOn May 22, 2011
Thank you Lori Welbourne for this article!!! Let’s have our own Wednesday party for her last show???Takers???
TamiOn May 22, 2011
Thank you Lori Welbourne for this article!!! Let’s have our own Wednesday party for her last show???Takers???
HughOn May 15, 2011
Your uncle sounds very courageous. This should be a reminder for ALL men over 40 to get regular prostate check ups. Thanks for the timely column.
HughOn April 15, 2011
Your uncle sounds very courageous!
Karen McNeillOn April 10, 2011
I think we all need to take a moment and appreciate what we have
Brenda WheelerOn April 10, 2011
Lori, I lost my mother just recently to a long term illness and even though she suffered, she was positive right to the end. She said that, ironically, her last three years when she was facing death was when she felt the most alive. Your uncle’s right – we never know how long we have – so it’s important to live our lives to the fullest. Thank you for sharing their story. I appreciated it very much and my mom would have as well.
AriOn April 10, 2011
Thanks love for reminding me of this….I forget how life can be taken in a split second….emails, text messages and voicemails can all wait from now on….at least until I’m available to return them
Thank you for sharing
Ari
BoOn April 10, 2011
This was a great column! Thanks for it.
Bo
MarcieOn April 10, 2011
Great article Lori!!! m
AdonaOn March 31, 2011
Enjoyed your column Lori, although I never wait for the last minute I know many who do – all good!
Wes SmithOn March 31, 2011
If it weren’t for the last minute, I wouldn’t get anything done.
ThomasOn March 31, 2011
I understand completely. I’ve always said the worst that can happen on any project is to have enough time to do something. If I have enough time I’ll never get it done.
HughOn March 31, 2011
I can relate to you on this issue, as I often find myself in similar predicaments. Fortunately my wife is much more organized, and I am often bailed out.
HughOn March 31, 2011
Great article! I believe we are being disrespectful by not making ourselves aware of current events, such as the horrible earthquake in Japan as well as the atrocious dictator in Libya.
On a personal note, have you purchased a blue tooth yet? You should be setting an example for others you know and not using a hand held device while driving! There is a reason why it is illegal!
Ernie LOn March 31, 2011
well said Lori, we don’t have to look very far to see people in need, and the news can be a good reminder to try and be better people, giving us an opportunity to help our fellow man.
cheers,
Darlene FosterOn March 31, 2011
Well put Lori. I feel the same. Love the Mother Teresa quote.
Helen HoltonOn March 31, 2011
Wow Lori,
This just couldn’t have been more timely than today for me!
Cheers Helen
ChantelleOn March 31, 2011
One of my favourite articles – thank you!
Mike POn March 19, 2011
I drive cab in Hope, and I’d hate to think that he was one of our drivers, because that kind of behavior is beyond acceptable. Heck, a $6.50 fare is great for us, as the shorter trips allow us to make sure more people get home safely.
GabeOn March 14, 2011
Excellent article! I’ve been guilty of letting my own emotions dictate my behavior at work and learned my lesson when I was fired for it. At first i was pissed, but then I got it and have treated customers with respect ever since. your dad was right – if you don’t like it change it, or change the way you think about it. Life’s not so bad
Martin SOn March 14, 2011
the blind bonehead, obviously did not realize that he was so blessed as to actually have a paying super model in his cab. Any cab driver with common sense would have been bragging from here to Penticton about the blond he had in the back of his cab,,,, he must have been from out of town
Vanessa BrewerOn March 14, 2011
Did you make a complaint?
LORI: Yes – Tami lodged a formal complaint.
Rick YOn March 14, 2011
Love your Dads wisdom.
Helen HoltonOn March 14, 2011
Lori, I read this in the paper this morning. Must be awful to be so miserable.
AnitaOn March 14, 2011
I sure hope he was reported!
that’s the only way, this business knows, of their employees bad behaviors
all business’ should be reported, if they are doing unethical behaviors
FatimaOn March 14, 2011
Always shocked to be reminded that women have only been allowed to vote in the last 100 years. I read an article that credited a women’s right to vote as improving life in North America, because politicians had to begin to take into account what is important to women, as well as men. Apparently child mortality rates have decreased substantially in the last 100 years because it’s an issue close to women’s hearts. Men and women have different perspectives, and I think it is great when they work together to improve things.
I’m with you…doesn’t matter if it’s Mom, Dad, or Gramma who is home with the kids, as long as the kids know they are loved.
HughOn March 14, 2011
Good yor you! I agree that it is hard to believe some people are still stuck in the last century.
ChantelleOn March 14, 2011
I feel happy for your kids that they have you!
Mike RutiglianoOn March 14, 2011
Your passion comes out in spades and your column is right on… Go Girl!
Susan RienzoOn March 14, 2011
Hey Lori,
They still do all that in Arizona! No charge for buggies and bags, and the clerks pack your groceries (often putting only 1-2 items in each bag) and ask how your day is while doing it.
When are you coming to visit? We could have a cougars’ night out on the town! Susan
Debra DotschkatOn March 14, 2011
I hear this. I love the small corner stores that have everything I need with less choices so I can get in and out in 10 minutes. I like not only knowing the cashiers name but actually know the person from my neighborhood. Deb
Sandra LeckieOn March 14, 2011
Having cleaned beaches from Cabo to Kona, Salt Spring Island and beyond I’d say that no plastic bags are actually the positive thing here. Maybe you could write a column about that. I’d post a few of the images of the beach clean-up but they’re difficult to stomach. Surely the “brighter note” does everyone a disservice when it strikes a false note.
ErinOn March 14, 2011
Because I can’t drive I always get the bulk of my groceries delivered. Well worth the fee! Saves a lot of headaches
Bob LynchOn March 14, 2011
Try Lakeshore Market.,,,Oh Ya,I forgot:You’re on the other side of the pond.
JohnOn February 13, 2011
smile… paper bags too…
LoriOn February 13, 2011
Lori, I think you need to make an instructional video on “How to Live Life to the Fullest” or “How to Stop and Smell the Roses before They Wilt”. I know lots of people who say all the right things that they’d LIKE to do, but the sad reality is that quite often we’re just too damn busy living life to sit down and relax and think about things like that. It’s run here and there and get the kids to their activities and then if you have time squeeze in a trip to the gym before dinner and what else you can cram into the day. Cripes, I finish some days and think…”Frig, I was busy all day, but did I get anything done?” I was catching up with a friend tonight that I haven’t seen for 2 years and this past weekend met with another old friend in the city he nows lives in when I had a layover waiting for a flight. I haven’t sat down with him, other than on the computer chatting, for 16 years. Where the hell has all the time gone? It was great sitting down for lunch or a coffee but it seems like so much was missed over the years….BUT we sure were busy! On frickin what? Living Life.
Teresa JohnstonOn February 13, 2011
I prefer to call my bucket list – My Life List! I believe in living everyday to the fullest and not waiting to do things when I retire and ready to kick the bucket. Do everything you want to do in life NOW! I believe that if you are not taking risks, then you are taking up space. Get out there, enjoy life, live, love laugh every single day. Fulfill your goals…visualize what you want and go get it!
Ben JamesonOn February 7, 2011
Speaking as a grumpy old “retired” senior who still has to work and complains about not having enough money to travel and enjoy my retirement, thanks for the perspective. I’m a lucky son of a gun for even making it this far and will remember that all day. But I won’t make any guarantees for tomorrow since I might not remember by then.
KeithOn February 7, 2011
Remember that song “I don’t like Mondays” by the Boomtown Rats? Well… I still don’t and it’s because I hate my job and that’s the start of my week. Make sense? Maybe I should be changing my job… duh… lol
KarenOn February 7, 2011
Welcome back, Lori!! This is the type of writing that made me love your column in the first place. Looking forward to more of the same.
Soccer MomOn February 7, 2011
I have seen you work a room like a butterfly and retract like a turtle. Either way your adorable and so easy to be around!I love reading your column too!Fantasic artist a real gift!
KerryOn January 31, 2011
I used to read Marshall Jones when he wrote for the paper – I liked his column too. I didn’t know he wrote a bok, I’ll have to check that out. Kerry
RhondaOn January 31, 2011
Had to laugh when I read this – I can TOTALLY relate! Right now, like you, I’m in a very antisocial stage and I’d rather stay at home as much as possible. It’s nice to have that option isn’t it? Not everyone has that luxury. LOVE reading your column every week and your daily blog – you’re a great way to start my day!
Marie CurtisOn January 31, 2011
I know exactly how you feel;I go through these fazes quite frequently.I think sometimes I feel like I could be a hermit,it’s a good thing life comes along and drags me out of it.
I enjoy your column Marie
LeanneOn January 24, 2011
Depression seems to run in my family and I’ve been battling it for most of my life. I don’t know the answer to getting over the Monday blues or any other day of the week, except to try being good to myself and do things that make me happy and fulfilled whenever I can. Easier said than done – but I do make that effort.” alt=”" />Depression seems to run in my family and I’ve been battling it for most of my life. I don’t know the answer to getting over the Monday blues or any other day of the week, except to try being good to myself and do things that make me happy and fulfilled whenever I can. Easier said than done – but I do make that effort.
ErinOn January 24, 2011
If I’m feeling blah or depressed I make faces at myself in the mirror. Hard not to smile then!
Hope none were two way mirrors
chanetelleOn January 24, 2011
Love the column! so true!
Debra DotschkatOn January 24, 2011
Oh no I can totally relate to this, guess it means I too am growing old, lol!
Sharmaine PowellOn January 24, 2011
I also want to add, thank you for visiting our dental office. I hope it was enjoyable!
Sharmaine PowellOn January 24, 2011
Too funny and I can definitely relate. I hear myself saying similar things to my kids. Remember cassettes, walkmans and pay phones phones? We are getting older and wiser I hope… All these new inventions come from new ideas… maybe Daisy is right and everyone will have a tv above their bed someday. (I hope not!) Good luck with the good old habit of flossing. At least some things never change.
Lorraine RichmondOn January 24, 2011
Really? I’m sure that money grows on trees. On dentist trees. And I too think Dr. Powell is am amazing dentist (even though you didn’t actually say that…).
Lori, back when I was your age… well never mind, it doesn’t matter. NOW matters.
So true, Lori. When we were growing up, we were happy to find a nice big empty box to play in!
WesOn January 24, 2011
Hey Lori, you want to have a game of Pong? Big paddle or little paddles?
BobOn January 24, 2011
Hi Lori,My NY’s RES.is not to respond to people I read. ……..OOPS,sorry.Bob L.
ThomasOn January 24, 2011
About 10 or 12 years ago I came to the conclusion that most of my friends have enough money that they don’t need anything and certainly don’t lack for anything. So, I told them I was not buying any Christmas presents for them and wanted nothing from them in return. All my money went to buying Teddy Bears for homeless and low income kids. I found a charitable organization that gives presents, warm clothes and a hot meal on Christmas Day. Since all children need teddy bears it was a perfect match.
Last year I started, along with the Humane Society, giving out dog food for the pets of low income and homeless families, since we learned that they were feeding their pets from their own meals. That harms people and pets. This year we gave out roughly 3800 pounds of dog food, all courtesy of Valley Humane Society & Walmart. A lot of happy pets and I enjoy Christmas much more.
DebOn January 24, 2011
Hi Lori. Liked your latest article. I too am relieved when Christmas is over. Mostly from hearing the “wants of gifts” from people. That is why I posted on my facebook status last week about the wants we should be striving for. You are right, Christmas and life in general should be about love. I remember my Christmas’ as a child: board games, connecting with family listening to each other, baking and watching How the Grinch stole Christmas. Which has been my favourite childhood show. Oh, I also like Charlie Brown Christmas. Wishing you a Happy and Healthy New Year.
PS…Hope your doggie is doing better.
Deb
ConnieOn January 24, 2011
Hi Lori,
I’m very disappointed to see you advertising on the billboards the west side. I support the idea of boycotting all the businesses who are supporting this visual pollution. It’s such a shame when our natural scenery is so beautiful. We can’t stop the billboards because they are on native land and we know they don’t care and play by their own rules but we can speak with our pocket book.
JohnOn January 24, 2011
Miss Nanan,
Wish she was around to meet the great grand-kids. As for The Price Is Right you would have stolen the show though, jumping around and getting laughed at by Lisa and anyone you knew who got to see the show when it aired
BruceOn January 24, 2011
It’s hard to beat good memories!
LeanneOn December 14, 2010
Rock it Girl!! You’ve eared to show off cuz you get it! You get what beauty is about and sounds like you live from your heart.
LucyOn December 14, 2010
I felt exactly the same as you. 5 years ago were exchanging gifts with 16 extended family members every year, people who could all afford to buy their own things. One year my sister-in-law told me she had maxed out her credit card and I thought wow, I don’t want to be responsible for that. The massive pile of presents under the tree each year was also making me think of all the people who have so much less and I was feeling guilt rather than joy. After a discussion with my husband and kids, a couple of months into the next year we announced that we would be taking all the money we normally spend on everyone over the age of 12 and using it to sponsor a Salvation Army family. We told them we would rather not have gifts from them, but if they felt they really wanted to do something they could donate to a charity in our name. The Salvation Army makes sponsorship really easy for you to do – you just let them know what size of family you’d like to sponsor (starting as small as 2 or 3) and they tell you the ages of the children and give a list of what sorts of things they enjoy – like arts and crafts, books or types of toys. They give you a list of food for a food hamper, or you can give money and the S.A. will buy the food for you as they can get 3x the amount for the same money.
BruceOn December 14, 2010
Wow, what a neat article. My wife and I regularily watch the reality show on TV called “The Biggest Loser.” We are both life time members of Weight Watchers and find this show to be truly inspirational, and it helps us stay focused on maintaining our weight. This column you just wrote is also truly inspirational. You always seem to bring topics forward that are worthwhile, and put your own positive spin on things…l ove it, and keep up the good work!
Oh, and I love your last line too!
ChantelleOn December 14, 2010
Good for you!
DeniseOn December 14, 2010
Great column Lori!!! We have bought 2 gifts for the Joshua Tree at church (a tree that has hearts all over it, on those hearts are male or female, age, and what they wish for) So the kids picked which hearts to take. Then at school each classroom supports a family from the foodbank and puts together a basket of food, and we buy presents for them as well.
It really shows kids what Christmas is all about, my kids get 3 gifts each, just as Jesus recieved 3 gifts from the wisemen, puts it in perspective.
JohnOn December 14, 2010
Good job Lori!
JanieOn December 1, 2010
Thanks for sharing Lori! I saw that Oprah episode as well and thought the same thing. You wouldn’t think two women like that would have a feat of confrontation – but I guess everyone’s human. Good luck with your friend. She’s lucky you’re still trying.
Janie
LauraOn December 1, 2010
I hope your friend contacts you. But just remember that to some people the time and effort that goes into being a friend is lost on them. To lose a friend like that is no loss at all. Sad but true.
BruceOn December 1, 2010
Well said. I too believe it is better to resolve differences verbally, either via telephone or in person than via email.
Vanessa BrewerOn December 1, 2010
The video you did was O-mazing!
AnneOn November 29, 2010
Interesting!
I was really good friends with a lady for several years. We talked on the phone every day, went to dances and even vacationed together. We were really good friends. We celebrated birthdays together and had so much fun and laughter.
Then, one day she was mad at me and I still don’t know why. She told my husband that he could come in but she said that bitch cannot. We were both stunned. She was very angry at me and has not spoken to me in years. I have no idea why. I did nothing wrong. I never once said anything bad or anything and I was very hurt for quite awhile.
I tried phoning her but she would not answer my calls and never returned messages.
Finally, I decided that it was her problem and just gave it a rest.
I may never know what it was but I feel she is the loser because I am a really nice person and have some very good friends and she is missing all that.
Maybe it is also time for you to just move on without that person in your life. I’ve had to.
Jackie BourchierOn November 22, 2010
Loved this…how true is that….we get up not feeling well but think we cannot stop we have to keep on going….sometimes it is important to take a day off before we get sick kinda like a “pre-sick day”
LisbethOn November 7, 2010
Jumping out of an airplane was less scary than skating? You’re a real nut, you know that? But I kind of understand. I admire your willingness to try new things even when they’re not exactly your thing… at least you’re living unlike so many of us who stop trying stuff as an adult.
I find your column and your Lori and Lisa videos inspirational, fun and refreshingly honest. Keep it up Ms. Welbourne! And keep ‘em coming!
ShanaOn November 7, 2010
I love that your kids give you such good advice!
BruceOn November 7, 2010
Reminds me of the times we tried to teach our daughter to skate. And good times they were too!
WesOn November 7, 2010
Very funny story. I remember my wife having the same experience when our boys were about 5 yrs old. She gave up and just watched from the bench after a while. She even tried to play hockey once thinking that holding onto a stick would make it easier. Nope! Back on the bench. Now she’s a “Goalie Mom”. That would be the mom that sits in the stands fretting that the puck will find it’s way passed her goalie son and into the net. I’m sure there are times when she wishes she’d stayed out on the ice trying to master that skating thing so she could’ve encouraged her son to be a fast skating forward rather than a goalie.
TimOn November 7, 2010
Good story, I remember teaching the boys, most people fall backwards because they think they have to stand straight on skates first off like a figure skater lol. I told them to lean forward and swing their hands out in front of them like they had a hockey stick and they were buzzing around in no time. they learned to swim in a few seconds because I bought them goggles so they could see.
Ronda BarzilayOn November 7, 2010
Good work Lori – I hope you are palnning on some more skating adventures! You should check out the sakting loop through the forest at Apex – it is a great way to skate! No boards so you will have to glide around – maybe the hubby will help!
Have a great day!
Cheers,
Ronda
RichardOn November 2, 2010
Conferences are a tough place to connect with people unless there’s a few all inclusive party situations. It’s too easy for people to break off into little exclusive clusters of people otherwise. Sounds like the organizers of your recent conference don’t have a clue. I hope you shared your article with them!
BenOn November 2, 2010
Thanks for the article Lori. Great perspective. I am one of those who get a bit anti-social at times. It takes time to build up my confidence to “get out there” but when i do, I usually enjoy myself. I find it helps when I initiate a greeting or conversation instead of waiting to be talked to. I have made quite a few friends by inserting myself into the “exclusive” group. Sometimes I find that they may not be “exclusive” but have the same anti-social feelings as I do and just feel more comfortable with a group of friends. If I take that chance to open up, then maybe they will take a chance themselves.
Norman SilverstoneOn October 29, 2010
I was very impressed. Professionally shot and executed. I was captivated
Photographer
Port Alberni, BC
Debra DotschkatOn October 29, 2010
one of the best things about swimming is that you are as light as a feather, go for it!
CherylOn October 29, 2010
I can sooooooo relate to this. Why do so many of us torture ourselves this way?
RuthOn October 22, 2010
Lori – I saw your article about grey hair in our local paper, The South Bend Tribune, here in South Bend, IN. When I was born I had very dark brown hair started get grey hair at about 18. By 21 I was coloring my hair, and kept it dark brown until my late 30′s when I started frosting then eventually going a warm blonde. With my blue eyes and very light complexion, both the dark and the blonde looked natural. At 46 I got a very bad perm which killed my hair and I had to take my hair down to about 2″ or 3″ long. I found out that I was totally white headed. The hairdresser told me to keep all chemicals off of it to let the hair heal, and I’ve been white headed ever since. (I’m 63 now.) At about 47, I was offered the “senior discount” at the movies. I almost got mad, until I saw how much money I would save, so I just accepted the discount. If they’re going to automatically offer the discount, I take it. Anyway, I have had more compliments on my white hair, than any other color
I’ve ever had it. And, when I think of the money I’ve saved, that’s an extra bonus each month. I found that with the white hair, I look good in colors (especially bright ones) that I never really wore before.
The one thing that I do appreciate about my hair is that it’s a really pretty silvery white, not the mousey grey that I see so many women have. That mousey grey can really make someone look drab and older. The only time I ever took offence to being automatically given the senior citizens discount was one morning at McDonalds, when my coffee was free and my husband (who is older than I but had very little grey hair) had to pay for his. We still laugh about that. Also, I have discovered that with white hair, I get more doors opened for me, allowed to get in line first, and so forth. I’ll take all of that nice treatment that I can get.
I enjoyed your article and look forward to next ones.
KarenOn October 18, 2010
I dye my hair with differnt colours because it is more fun. And, yes to help me look younger too.
steveOn October 16, 2010
I think grey hair on some women is kinda sexy!!
LisaOn October 16, 2010
here, here!!
I am not giving up dyeing my hair either…it is the best invention of all time.
I dont look that good without dyeing my hair, as there is grey in my temples and around my part line, but I would give it up if my hair was completely grey.
LeifOn October 14, 2010
Anyone who would jump out of a perfectly good airplane is nuts as far as I’m concerned. But good for you for not letting fear keep you from doing something that exciting! I enjoyed reading and watching your experience. I still think you’re nuts though!
k OsmachenkoOn October 14, 2010
Cool! I just watched your video and really enjoyed it.
TonyOn October 13, 2010
CRAZY!!!!!!! Wow. read your article and watched L & L video. i can’t believe it. you actually did it. well done. now there is making your actions match your words! keep the articles (and video) coming. love it. Tony
BruceOn October 7, 2010
Enjoyed this article very much. I don’t think I embarrassed my kids when they were growing up…maybe I should ask them though! Your writing seems to be getting better with every article. Keep it up!!
LucyOn October 6, 2010
What an incredible thing for you to do. Great video too. I really admire you for your courage to try something like that Lori!
Ernie LalondeOn October 6, 2010
well done Lori another insightful piece and true to real life as usual!
hope you are well,
regards
Ernie
Norm SandvikOn October 6, 2010
Another great column Lori. I can sure realte to when I was a younger (yes I can remember that far back) but I think I embarrassed mom and dad more than they did me.
ElleOn October 6, 2010
Thank you for a great post. You touched me with this story.
RalphOn October 6, 2010
Lori, Bite your tongue! You never look at your Blackberry when you’re in your car do you? That’s against the law, although to look around you wouldn’t know it. As I’m driving around for a living I still see many people driving around with their cell phone to their ear. I use a GPS/Handsfree in my personal vehicle now but it still requires some attention going to that when it rings. I try to limit my looking at my Crackberry to when I’m stopped but I know it’s tough to do. Sometimes it’s easier to just put it in the console and forget it for 10 minutes. Little ones are so unpredictable even if you see them you can’t be sure they see you or what they’ll do. I find it easier to just assume when you see them that they’ll run out in front of you. Glad nothing serious happened. Probably caused a couple of grey hairs to pop up though I bet?
DeniseOn October 6, 2010
I had my own near miss a while back. Put down the cell phones, take out the ipod earbuds and pay attention. Good reminder Lori!
Karen McNeillOn October 6, 2010
so true Lori, we always have to be paying attention and watch out for people who look away “just for that one second”
DarlaOn September 27, 2010
Thanks for another article about your dogs. I wish you would write more of those! Like you, we have pets that we love and who are part of our family. They get into all sorts of trouble and make me crazy from time to time – but they’re so worth it, aren’t they? Look forward to reading your next column Lori. It always brightens my day!
Sarah SaboOn September 27, 2010
Funny story about the bra. My dog’s favourite article of clothing is socks – only dirty socks though. I agree that my house would be a lot cleaner (my dog is 150lbs) but I couldn’t imagine not having animals (we have 2 cats too). Thanks for the laugh Lori.
Norm SandvikOn September 19, 2010
Hi Lori
Another great column. Took me back to when I used to have a dog when I was much younger. Just keep doing what you are doing, it is awesome every week and I always look forward to your columns.
KirstinOn September 15, 2010
This is a comment for the Perseverance article.
I totally know what you mean when you see some people and you assume they have a charmed life. I’m Lisa’s second cousin (or something like that) but i’ve only met her briefly a couple times when we were really young. Growing up our families were never close no one had family reunions (on the Popplewell/Lind) side anyway. But I always thought Lisa and her sister had it made, great parents, great life and had no real problems. I was shocked to read the article and learn of all the hard ships she has endured in the past few months. Shes very encouraging though! I started running last May and hope to do at least a half marathon by next year.
Keep up the good work ladies!
WesOn September 15, 2010
I think it was grade 5 when my boys decided they didn’t need mom or dad to walk them to school anymore. It hasn’t been the same since. The start of the school year always signals the moms to migrate to the nearest Starbucks every morning. Man, I hate it when I can’t get a table at 5-Bucks.
K. OsmachenkoOn September 15, 2010
Another good column. Thank’s for sharing!
Karen McNeillOn September 12, 2010
We all have embarassing moments as a child. There has to be a reason why we just can’t forget about them. Must be that it makes us stronger individuals.
CarrieOn September 12, 2010
Thank you for sharing your embarrassing story. I can relate and I’m sure most others can too. Most of us wouldn’t put it out there for everyone else though – so kudo’s for being so real!
Always enjoy your column and your wonderful humour at loriandlisa.com – you two always brighten my day
Lisa KellyOn September 12, 2010
aaahh….that is another good column…10 thumbs up…if I only had 10 thumbs..
Brian SearleOn September 10, 2010
Hi Lori, just a quick note to say I really felt your write up on Lisa touch me. I am a Quad and have been in a chair for 34 years with a Spinal Cord Injury. I guess because I’m a Christian it just goes to show me that God works in so many lives and puts us through trials and helps us get over temptation and be happy. I’m so glad Lisa has realized how wonderful her life can be and how things can change for the better. Peace be with you both. Brian
Sharmaine PowellOn September 10, 2010
Hi Lori (and Lisa) I am sorry for everything Lisa has gone through. I hope that the next phase will be happier and easier. This is a good reminder that everyone needs a friend and encouragement in good times and bad, even if they are beautiful and seem to have a perfect little life. This column was deep. Thanks for sharing.
Kathy OlsonOn September 7, 2010
Lori, I just read Perserverance, not perfection. And Good for you Lisa!!! Good job on the Ironman. Since I am not a great runner and have only ever run, well more like run/walked, a 5k I have the greatest respect for those who complete a Triathlon or Ironman. I, like Lisa, have wondered how much a person can take in life and I keep telling myself “God would only give me things I can handle.” and… ” It is only going to make me a better person.” But, yeah there are times in everyone’s life that you want to start singing the old song “Stop the World and Let me Off!!” or pick up the phone and tell them to come take you away!!! Hang in there!!! We are all bigger than the crap that keeps wanting to drag us down. Lori, Love your column and look forward to reading every week. Love the skits too. Thanks again and have a great week. Heres to all the happy parents doing the happy dance today now that school is back in!!
Debra DotschkatOn September 7, 2010
Awesome article, no one has a perfect life! We are all struggling!
RalphOn September 5, 2010
Thanks Lori for the fantastic way you present things in the columns and blogs. I never like to hear how someone is suffering, in part I think because I feel that I don’t have any way of helping so why would I need to know, but WOW! Hopefully this all works as a catharsis for Lisa as she looks to be on the right path (if we can ever figure what path is right and for whom), but reading all of this I’ve had a bit of a reset on how I see Lisa through the stories and videos (and you of course from the latest Lisa edited video). For Lisa, gone is the bitchy, uncaring, self absorbed person I laughed at before. Now I think I can appreciate more of the real person, although I think I will maybe laugh a little less for a while. The last while with the “window to the soul” columns and comments that you and Lisa have written has even made me shed a tear, especially when I heard her dad showed up and ran with her in the Ironman the last little bit. The guy obviously has a flair for making an impact. Not that I’m a tough guy that never gets emotional, but as I’ve gotten older and moved away from the invincibility of youth and resigned myself to my mortality (I’m now 29 with 20 years experience), things that I dismissed easily before now seem to hit closer to home. I might not be totally accurate but lately we seem to have gotten to know “Lori & Lisa” more from real life experiences of you both then the Coffee Time Clips of the personas and a credit to both of you for letting us inside the ropes (to use a golf phrase). It seems to me that when Lisa crossed the finish line of the Ironman Race she was literally passing the finish line of the “Old Lisa” (that’s a sideways barb for her comment of me celebrating my 49th birthday “aren’t you a little old to celebrate”) and starting the “NEW Lisa”. You on the other hand seem to have a crystal ball on life, even though you like to sometimes shake up the ball (like a snow globe) and make things look a little different. Correct me if I’m wrong, but you and Lisa seem to have a perfect relationship of support, friendship, and genuine personalities that you can poke fun at each other and entertain people. If anybody can really learn anything about someone from reading excerpts of their life, I’d say that you came along when Lisa needed someone to lean on and Lisa came along when you needed an alter ego to work your magic with. Thanks and keep up the humor. Although I’ve been following the websites, etc. with great enthusiasm and look forward to getting each new story. I sometimes feel that this internet thing (not sure if it’s good or bad) makes us think we have relationships with people that we truly don’t have. It’s disappointing in a way that our kids will probably never get to experience what relationships and friendships were like before the age of instant communicating and text messaging. I’m glad to see Lisa is fitting nicely into the champions role. I was going to send this note to her as well but didn’t have the email address.
Cheers
R.
K OsmachenkoOn September 5, 2010
This weeks column was wonderful and heart touching. I can relate as my son tried to take his life some years ago. But like Lisa he realized that the people that care for him the most are the ones that would be lost without him. I can tell by your columns that Lisa has touched your life in a very special way and you have helped her over a tough time. Columns like this one make people stop and realize how lucky they really are.
And also as I just lost my job it does put things in perspective.
Thank you.
Rick SewellOn September 5, 2010
Lori, once again you’ve written an outstanding column, this time about your partner in crime, Lisa. I had no idea she had gone through so much these past four months. Of course, I was impressed with her Ironman race, who wouldn’t be? But to hear about the other things she’s had to go through, well that makes ALL her accomplishments all the more impressive.
Lisa, you’re obviously hanging with a pretty special lady in Lori, and for that I say bravo. Keep your head up, and thank you for sharing your personal side. I hope it’s therapeutic for you and I’m sure over time things will get better and better for you.
I don’t know you and Lisa personally, but I feel like I’ve known you both for ages. I hope to meet you both in person one day, but until such time I’ll keep reading your articles and watching your clips. You both brighten my day when I catch the clips. Nothing makes me laugh more than that face Lisa makes. Anyway, another great read Lori. Keep up the great work.
Rick
ChristineOn September 5, 2010
I read your article the other day about your friend Lisa-the story moved me. It just goes to show you once again that that through diveristy can come strength-I’ve been failry blessed with what I would consider to be a very good life, however my husband has been struggling with back problems and has been on disability for several years, he is only 43-he too manages to be positive. There are some days when you can see the pain in his face, some of this pain I feel is that he can no longer work the way he did and provide financially for his family-
Thanks for a good read……..
p.s.I’m a foodie have you ever consider posting a really good recipe of the day on your site???? I would love to be your food guide consultant-Have you ever watched “Diners,Drivethrughs and Dives??? Fabulous show I would like to contact the Food Network and get my own show-
warmly-
Christine
Robert G. LynchOn September 5, 2010
Everyone has challenges;how we meet those is what defines us. Bob L.
DaveOn September 5, 2010
Wow, wow, wow….how courageous of both of you to put Lisa out there raw like that . Really very powerful stuff. Bravo.
TraceyOn September 4, 2010
As I go through an extremely upsetting and challenging time in my own life, I find this story a real inspiration. I can’t imagine it was easy to write or share. Lisa has exposed herself in a way that most people (especially high profile people) would never do. She could have easily presented herself as the perfect super girl that she seems to be, but she was willing to expose herself, warts and all. Kudos to you both on sharing her honest experience.
And thank you for your blogs on loriandlisa.com which I have just discovered – they’re amazing and so, so real. You two are a gift to us all!
Lisa: congratulations on completing the Ironman and all you’ve accomplished in such a short amount of time. If you can turn your life around, I can too!
BobOn September 4, 2010
This is the sort of column everyone needs to read. Great job, Lori, and demonstrates what a sensitive and caring person you are. And, what a testament to perseverance Lisa is – congratulate her on finishing the Ironman, please.
Bob ( sent from Bulgaria)
Lorraine RichmondOn September 4, 2010
So true. One of the most wonderful gifts given and received is the gift of being accepted for ‘who we really are’ on the inside.
ChantelleOn September 4, 2010
Thank you.
DanielOn September 2, 2010
Always a pleasure to read your column. I too have found a way to get through my chaotic life as well. Though imperfect i seem to be able to manage most things quite well. I do find leaving things to the last minute a little frustrating at times but many times the pressure of rushing to meet a deadline produces my best work. Keep up the great job!
KarenOn August 31, 2010
As one of the people raising their kids solo, I have always found a way to pursue and reach any dreams that I have had over the years. Whether it be returning to school, travelling or just helping my kids with their dreams, I have been able to accomplish anything I want AND still get my dishes and housework done! I guess it’s all about priorities.
Denny P.On August 26, 2010
Hi Lori,
I sure enjoy reading your column every week… this one the most.
I never figured out what I wanted to be when I grew up and I regret that now because I’ve been working the same job for the last 21 years and it’s a job I’ve never liked. I’m always waiting for the weekend to arrive and always depressed on Sundays because I dread going back to work. What a life, eh? I’m not going to give up hope though. If you can figure out what you want to be in your 40′s I should be able to as well! Life’s too short to be miserable. Thanks for being such a consistent ray of sunshine, girl!
Denny
I remember asking one of my sons what he wanted to be when he grew up. He quickly replied, “a garbage man, you know someone who rides around the neighbourhood collecting garbage”. Determined not to undermine his ‘dreams’, I quickly affirmed his statement, but thought that I would kick it up a notch. So I responded “how wonderful… you could own the entire fleet of garbage trucks and run a fantastic business”. I had obviously missed the mark, as he attempted to correct the misunderstanding, “oh no mom, I just want to be the guy that stands on the back of the truck and throws the garbage into the truck”. Alrighty then. Twenty years later, I stand proud of all my sons who are doing the hard work of following their dreams to make a difference in this world. And none of which involves garbage. Whew.
K. OsmachenkoOn August 15, 2010
Cool story. And I must say very good advice to teach young children, so they don’t inflict the pain on someone like your friend in starting a new job. Well done!
EricOn August 7, 2010
The reason I enjoy your articles so much is that I never know what to expect… all I know is they’ll be “real”. Thanks, Lori. You’re a breath of fresh air – you really are. It’s nice to read someone who’s just writing about the ordinary and the everyday and not pontificating about politics or God knows what.
MargauxOn August 7, 2010
Great post, Lori! Really enjoyed it. I agree with everything out there today it can be hard to keep up. It’s not about being perfect, it’s about being you…I do try to be at least 1% better everyday. So, for me, it’s not about being perfect, it’s about being better (attitude, appearance, poster, etc).
LisaOn August 7, 2010
Here, Here…I have had my nails done for at least 8 years…once a month…I walk in my nail salon, without an appointment, and get them filled…Its the only thing I do to feel good about myself. I dont get pedicures or do botox or any of those other things that some people do. Its also a get away from the house and the kids type of deal…but dont tell my husband that!
Leanne KingOn July 31, 2010
I’m on my fourth kid and am still getting advice from people! The first time around I’d get very insecure and self conscious about what I was doing. Now it doesn’t phase me. Most people mean well, they just don’t think before they start spouting off. Best advice is what you said – go on maternal instinct. Mother knows best!
Leanne
MelanieOn July 31, 2010
My mother in-law is driving me crazy with her well meaning but dated advice – like putting my baby on his belly! Thanks for this article! I can’t tell you how much I appreciate it! Especially right now!!!!!!!
ChanetelleOn July 31, 2010
Excellent article – The worst advice always starts with “I hate to tell you but…” which means they really want to tell you. How about, “you look like a wonderful mother” – you can never hear that too much
Rheta WhiteOn July 31, 2010
I love this one, Lori. I’m going to print it out and give it to all the new moms I know. (I’ll also send them to your website, but you and I both know that her sleep derived brain will forget before she gets to the computer.) The “best advice” you gave her is pure gold. “Listen to what people have to say, but at the end of the day, go on your own maternal instinct.”
Rheta
Joe NataleOn July 28, 2010
I really like your multimedia approach with the online column and video.
Cathy NeilOn July 26, 2010
Another one for the fridge!
My husband and oldest daughter really needed to read this! Not sure if i’ll help, but they both liked your article and agreed with what you said. Thanks for sharing your story and putting yourself in a vulnerable position again. You’re a brave lady to publicly admit your flaws. You’re brave to be doing those videos too! Very funny – loved the botox bruise comment and your friend yelling at those little kids. Who would do such a thing? Looking forward to more!
Cathy
Debra DotschkatOn July 26, 2010
Love this column, I hope a lot of people take note!!!
Auntie MoOn July 26, 2010
I can absolutely hear your Grandmother saying that……..lovely lady!! By the way, I am always fashionably late too.
Dennis K.On July 25, 2010
Another great article. Don’t know how you do it! My ex wife always kept me waiting for her, sometimes for HOURS! As your wise grandmother said to you, I felt greatly disrespected by this behaviour, as it felt as if my time meant nothing to her…which I guess it didn’t. My new wife is extremely punctual, which I appreciate, however, now it is I who need to hurry up so as not to keep her waiting!
Love your new logo, and your latest skit was hilarious too, especially the last few scenes of Lisa. Tinkerbell is kinda cute too!
Peter WongOn July 24, 2010
Hi Lori,
I also work from home and am having a challenge doing that with my kids out of school. Summer camp – GREAT idea! Have a fabulous summer holidays.
WinnieOn July 24, 2010
Great article Lori!
Thanks for continuing to share your family experiences with us. I always look forward to them and feel like I know you guys. Hope you have a fabulous summer! Love your new website and skits too by the way! Looks like you’re having too much fun!
I thought I was the only one who carried a Swiss army knife (along with just about everything else I own) in my purse! Of course, in New Jersey we always called it a ‘pocketbook’.
Ginger LeeOn July 22, 2010
Camp Mom Needs a Break – how true!!!!!!! I love your point, or should I say your daughters point, that kids need a break from us too. Absence makes the heart grown fonder and I think kids gain a new appreciation for their families and homes when they have a little vacation from it. It gives us all a healthy breather and then we’re excited to see each other again afterwards. I went to summer camp as a kid and had some great experiences. I’m glad your kids did too! I’m sure enjoying your column and videos, Lori!
Ginger
David RidleyOn July 22, 2010
I recall fondly going to a boy scout summer camp as a young lad many years ago. Thanks for the article. Sorry you never had the opportunity as a youngster to go yourself, as it is a great experience.
By the way, I had a look at your new website loiandlisa.com, COOL, and congratulations to you both!
Dean TraversOn July 16, 2010
Great article Lori!
My wife’s always losing stuff in her purse – I call it the “black hole!”.
Just checked out your new lori and lisa website – wow! Loved it, loved the latest skit and loved the interview! You girls are too funny!
Dean
PS: My wife bought me a “murse” years ago. It’s still in the closet with it’s original stuffing.
Joey PeanutsOn July 16, 2010
Thanks for the mention in your column and video! By acknowledging my comment to such a strong degree, it demonstrates that what I said really got to you. Don’t let one comment throw you off. But, I stand by my opinions. Your videos don’t change and have become more or less interchangable. At least your tribute to me made me laugh out loud… WOOHOO!
- Joey Peanuts
WesOn July 13, 2010
On 2nd thought…………I think Frida is Jim L. from Castlegar.
WesOn July 13, 2010
The Vegas bit looked like Lisa married my brother. WOW! That’d be his 4th. Way to go Idaho! Too funny.
WesOn July 13, 2010
Hi Lori, watch out for that Tami Rae. I think it’s really Jim L. from Castlegar. The tip off was when she called your work drivel.
Cheers
Cheryl DirksOn July 11, 2010
Purses, purses, purses, yes! I often lecture ladies about the size of their purses and what that does to their shoulders in carrying it around. Mine right now is dangerously close to being too heavy, but I still take ti with me every day. Why? I have no idea, as I never use any of it but the wallet & phone.
Crazy.
PatrickOn July 7, 2010
So I read that article about Joey Peanuts in the paper this morning..hahaha! Gotta say – nice work with the reply. I loved it …what a wuss…I love all the stuff you write and laugh at all the skits you and Lisa do. Yes, my dear, it is never too late to be a kid, or sometimes not grow up at all. Heck if I took life seriously everyday I’d probably shoot myself. We’ve gotta enjoy life with some good crooked humour. Try being around firefighters and our black humour. We make the best out of the worst sometimes to keep us sane!! Anyways, keep up the good work and the skits!! No matter what, you’re very right, you’ll never please everybody. It’s impossible – and honestly, why would you want to? It’s always nice having smart ass people like Peanut head giving feedback to make fun of …rigggght!!!
Debbie MatthewsOn July 6, 2010
Hi Lori,
I just wanted to tell you how extremely funny your skits are! I’ve been really enjoying your column, but your skits are something else! People take life way too seriously – thanks for not being one of them! My husband and I love your message… keep spreading it and ignore the critics.
Debbie
PS: some people don’t have a sense of humor, it’s obvious Lori and Lisa do!
Bruce S.On July 6, 2010
While I enjoy your column I find your “skits” are terrible. Why would anyone want to sit and watch some whiney women talk about such crap? Stick to what is relevant in peoples lives and you will be admired.
heather mOn July 5, 2010
just watched the new skit hahahahaha. i LOVE lisa walking with the random groom and random child in stroller!! and at the end when she says ” you should have stayed in vegas” hahaha so funny. just keep swimming…
heather mOn July 5, 2010
what!? i think the skits are hilarious!!! i watch them whenever i have a bad day….i always turns things around and puts me in a more positive mood. amazing how that can change a bad day into an awesome one. dont stop making the skits!! they are very funny!!!
Wylie BarkerOn July 5, 2010
Wow Lori,
Such a cool thing your doing. Glad you are having such a good time with it.
What a contrast to your early teens. Hee Hee. Im kidding.
Just wanted to give a small bit of feed back. Hope life other than your column is treating you well.
Wylie
Gordy D.On July 5, 2010
I think most will agree that Peter may not be funny at all. He must be Joey Peanuts cousin. The skits are great.
Your column is absolutely fantastic. I look forward to reading it each week. Every one is thought provoking. They always remind me of or make me think of similiar experiences in my life. I laugh, reminisce and sometimes even shed a tear or two. Really…isn’t that what good writing is all about…provoking thought and eliciting emotion ?
Keep up it up and know that your gallery is full of fans and very few peanuts.
Cindy LittleOn July 5, 2010
Keep up the great work girls! Love your column and love your skits! They, and you, are priceless!
Peter PumpkinEaterOn July 5, 2010
I agree with Joey Peanuts – skits are awful – not funny at all.
Sharmaine PowellOn July 5, 2010
I think you two are beautiful and your skits are hysterical. They are laugh out loud funny. Thanks for the laughs and the ab workout! Looks like you had fun in Vegas!
Jonxy RichyOn July 5, 2010
I think this was my favorite of all… the ooops pix and pole dancing and all of this was bloody funny!
Mr. Nuts pea off (just joking) lol What do you do in life that is contributing to making people smile? You need to come out of your shell cause I’ll bet you are a closet actor, why don’t you send in a tape of your own funny video!!!
Anyways each to their own and everyone has the right to their own opinion! I am glad Lori and Lisa you welcome all comments and didn’t let it get you down!
Controversy makes the peanut bowl go round! lol Well I love what you two do! Keep up the good work – you make me smile! Well, I’ve put my two peanutz worth in!!! That’s it in a nut shell from me! LOL
Phillip BeswickOn July 4, 2010
Good afternoon Lori,
Never viewed your skits, so today I watched the whole one.
My thought…if you watched just one or two episodes of Seinfeld and
didn’t get into the characters then you wouldn’t have enjoyed it.
Watch a few episodes and get into the characters and it became really
funny.
As you know Seinfeld became a national hit for many years.
Keep it up. You may become a hit!
Cheers,
Phillip Beswick
Lana W.On July 3, 2010
Lori,
People are quick to criticize – ironically about things they would never have the courage to do themselves. Good for you and Lisa for not letting people bring you down! Keep up the funny and insightful work!
Cheers
Lana (the other L name)
Doreen ThomasOn July 3, 2010
“A demo reel of your own hilarity” – now that’s classic! Joey Peanuts is probably one of the least funny people on the planet! He’s definitely gutless if he’s not even using his real name. I think you’re column is fantastic and your skits are hilarious and I know lots of other people who do too! To hell with the Joey Peanuts of the world! Keep entertaining the troops… tons of us appreciate it! One of your fans, Doreen
Tim CarlsonOn July 3, 2010
I enjoyed your comeback article. People don’t seem to understand that this is entertainment that gives a laugh or new thought or memory etc to their day or life. I, for one, think you are doing a great job, and (excuse my lingo) are doing a heck of a lot better than most of the TV shows that I start to watch and then turn off. I have watched or read from beginning to end everyone of your works. Hey, you girls just keep creating, maybe Pea Nut is a nut after all and just a jealous Nut to boot. Out of 5 stars you get 10 in my book. Tim
David DhaliwalOn July 3, 2010
Lori,
There are so many things the North American culture takes for granted and I don’t think people even realize how many millions are suffering in this world without the bare basics starting with water. We should be thanking our lucky stars every day! Of course, we forget quickly and gripe about not having as big a home as so and so or as much money in the bank as someone else. It’s pathetic.
Thanks for the terrific reminder and thanks for the funny video too! I loved it when that girl called your article drivel and Lisa agreed. Very funny! And the “where were you last night?” rant was priceless!
David Dhaliwal
Kelly JackOn June 27, 2010
LMAO – my favourite skit so far! I loved it when the BFF’s cheered each other and left you out and the reference to your turkey neck! Girls are the meanest in threes don’t you know?! Very funny retaliation from Lisa. I guess you shouldn’t have brought your friend in last week!! Can’t wait to see what you girls come up with next!
Tina C.On June 27, 2010
Dear Lori,
Your friend Mark is right about how desensitized we are by the horrible poverty suffered by other nations around the world. It comes on the TV and we immediately turn the channel instead of being glued to it as you were when you were a child. It’s a hard thing to relate to in our easy existence. We think we have hardships and suffer – but we suffer nothing in comparison to how most of the world lives. Thanks for that reminder! I feel grateful for all I have and I sometimes forget how lucky I am. I sure love your column! Keep writing and inspiring is with your stories. You’re always a pleasant and thought provoking read.
Tina C.
Dean CarsonOn June 25, 2010
Lori: I think we all need our own personal space and place to escape. Without it we can easily become overwhelmed, consumed and feeling trapped. I’ve had my own home office for many years now and believe it saved my marriage. Even though it’s the place where I mostly just work, at least I’m able to work in peace and without the countless distractions I’d encounter otherwise. Thanks for sharing your story. My family and I always enjoy them!
Dean Carson
Joe MacielOn June 25, 2010
Lori,
Great column and video once again this week. Not sure how you manage to keep the material interesting and fresh every week but you manage to. Congratulations on a winning formula.
Paul HergottOn June 24, 2010
Ok, you guys….those skits are absolutely priceless. Yes, your columns are wonderful as well, but I just can’t wait for each of your skits to come out. I wonder if you’re considering putting together some longer material?
Lee ClementsOn June 21, 2010
What a cool idea! You may think I’m a dreamer, but, IMAGINE…I could be watching the world cup right now in my very own man cave without hearing…now, when did you become interested in soccer? Aaah, I’m sure I’m not the only one. Reminds me of that John Lennon song…what was it called…ANYWAY? Seriously though, this is truly a great article. We could all probably benefit from our own private retreat.
PS: I enjoyed your skit, I think I dated Lisa once!
JonxyOn June 19, 2010
When I met and maried my husband in 2007 he said you can have the whole apartment to do what you want with but I have an office that is my secret place and YOU WILL NEVER see inside! lol
I stood in shock for a moment at the way this was delivered and thought hmmm that is never going to happen! lol
….Two and half years later we are outside this building next to his place of work and he had to get in to this little building that I had never paid much attention to. He needed to find something (until that day I had no idea that was where it was!) I was allowed to come inside and stand by the front door whilst he went into this second door! He said wait right there I won’t be long! The suspense was really too much so I edged my way to be standing right by the second door. I peered inside and I was amazed… I had never seen so much clutter (this man is so much a tidey freak at home) he promptly turned to face me whilst I was sneaking a peek and said “You don’t need to be in here I will meet you outside, I won’t be long”. I have to tell you now all those years of imaging pi- up girls and god knows what was squashed by seeing that he just wanted a place for his own clutter and that’s all!
I do have the whole apartment, I have most of the closets for my stuff, the kitchen etc! So as you said in your article it was the man cave! Since then he has gone in and thrown out 50% of the crap! I don’t care if he has boxed all the pictures and saved them, it’s his memories and I would rather it was all there and not here! LOL
So good for you Lori for finding your own WO~MAN CAVE!
Richard LeoneOn June 19, 2010
Lori,
Thank you for this timely piece on work ethic and providing better service. I imagine there are employers all over hanging this up on their bulletin boards.
Our daughter read your story and actually said it’s made her look at her job differently. She’s been unhappy with her position for awhile now, not because she didn’t like it, but because she had gotten to the point where she was taking it for granted. Thanks for sharing your experience with us and providing an inspiration to feel better about what we do. We should all feel lucky to even have jobs when you really think about it.
Richard Leone
Joey PeanutsOn June 16, 2010
Skits are awful. Admire the effort, but really… not funny at all. Sorry
OliviaOn June 14, 2010
Thanks for the great article Lori! I put this up in our lunch room hoping that some of the people I work with would read it and reflect on their own work behaviour!
Hi Lori,
Have enjoyed many of your columns…this one in particular.
Missed you on my book launch (Define Your Own Simple Luxuries)
on the Boardroom.
Hope you’ve had a chance to get into my book and have found
it timely for all the triple-taskers in the world.
JeremieOn June 14, 2010
Hey Lori
Excellent article. This story is the heart of what your work is all about. Simple everyday events with plenty of insight. Boo Boo is the common man who inspired all of us to see things on a brighter note. You are in Vegas now, so I suggest you let it ride… keep up the writing, more of the same.
Simon AndersonOn June 14, 2010
Lori, How neat it is that you can recall the event (or comment) that made you realize what is truly important throughout your entire working life. If we all took pride in our work, as Boo-Boo obviously does, we would indeed have a successful company to work for, and/or work with. Keep smiling, and keep the articles coming!
Lillian GreyOn June 12, 2010
Lori:
Thanks for sharing your experience. I know I haven’t always given my best service or taken pride in my work either. But your dad was right – it’s not the jobs that are menial – it’s our attitudes. Thanks for the reminder… it’s so true! I’ve clipped this out for my kids who have just enetered the work force in the last couple of years.
And hilarious skits by the way! I can’t believe you can keep a straight face while filming! Nice flesh colored bra and panties for Lisa – yikes! Talk about a cold shower for that poor date of hers.
TimOn June 12, 2010
Great story, lesson for everyone no matter which end of the phone they are on lol.
Lisa RedlOn June 7, 2010
Lisa WAS very irritated with Lori when she snapped the elastic on her chin…especially after the 5th take. hehe
Jayne SwansonOn June 7, 2010
Lori,
I had the exact same experience years ago. Disneyland and cruise ships are NOT places to go to relax! I’ve been enjoying your column for a long time now and just wanted you to know that. You’re injecting the world with some positive energy and the positive people out there reading you (and now watching you) appreciate it! Keep up the great work and don’t worry about the naysayers. You can’t please everyone – just make sure you please yourself! Very funny skit this week! That look in your eyes at the end there was hilarious! Loved the snap of the elastic on Lisa’s chin too. She looked VERY irritated with you! Good work.
Jayne Swanson
Debra DotschkatOn June 7, 2010
Best skit yet! Loved it!! Got my day off to a happy start!!
Every week I look forward to your column and every week you deliver something great! Love this article in particular. We just came back from Disneyland ourselves and can totally relate to that “hurry up and wait” mentality. Next time we’re going somewhere way more relaxing – like a nice hotel 50 miles away.
Thanks for the crazy skit too! You and Lisa kill me! I loved it when you snapped that elastic on her neck. Hopefully you had to do a few takes for that one! LMAO
Thanks for the laughs. I’m thinking that you both must be somewhere closer to the middle as far as cheeriness. Lisa needs something with alcohol in it to take off her edginess and you need to lay off the Red Bulls. I’m glad your comments on your site steered us to the other site to see that Lisa isn’t a total BIATCH! Freaking hilarious stuff. The Ironman training has me ROTFLMAO!!!!!!!!
David H.On June 5, 2010
Terrific article Lori!
Thanks for putting yourself out there and exposing your life honestly. Not many people would have the guts to do that – probably because of people like Jim from Castlegar! My brother-in-law was in the public eye for many years when he was on city counsel and as hard as he worked for the citizens in his community, he couldn’t please everyone and was often criticized unfairly. Some people also showed a very mean spirit in their delivery. Just remember, it’s never a reflection on the person they’re criticizing – but a reflection on themselves.
Keep up the great work. I look forward to your article and your crazy skits every week. Your message is a good one!
David
JonicaOn June 5, 2010
Dear Lori,
When you put yourself out there in the public eye you have to accept what comes your way. People love to find fault and yet what you are doing is just talking about your day to day experiences and being open. I think you have figured out you are at risk for outspoken people and god bless them!
Kids are great…they will always do things that look like we are not looking, you turn your head for a second and something can happen! No one wants their kid to get hurt so JIM as much as your concern is valid, Lori is sharing what can happen and not hiding it. Bad parents don’t share – they hide! I jumped off the poolside at 5 whilst my mother was standing in the water right in front of me. I sat under water for a few seconds before she realized I jumped in. lol. My mom was so over protective it wasn’t funny. Things happen – it’s called life’s experiences! If you don’t like the articles don’t read them, like they suggest for TV! BUT saying that, everyone has their right to comment!
Anyways Lori, glad to hear your daughter is unharmed and you had a fabulous holiday!
P.S Did Lisa really cut your hair? ha ha ha funny stuff!
Hugs xoo
Brandon HensonOn June 5, 2010
Great column and hilarious skits, Lori!
What a ton of extra work to provide your readers with double the entertainment! Thank you for that! I’m sure people have no idea what it takes to film a 5 minute video clip… but I do! It’s expensive and very time consuming!
You and Lisa are very, very funny together. Can’t wait to see how your weird friendship progresses! Is she really like that? I can’t imagine she could be… too funny! It’s a small, small world…
SteveOn June 5, 2010
The skits are hilarious! I’m hooked. Keep ‘em comin’!
Tracey StephensonOn June 5, 2010
Dear Lori,
I went on your website to leave you a compliment and I’m stunned to read the feedback from Jim in Castlegar! If anyone could use a dose of your positive spin on things it’s him, so I’m glad he’s reading you even though you’re writing “drivel”. LOL. The most ludicrous comment he made was that you should have been charged with child abandonment and neglect. Was he there with you watching? What a foolish man. He should watch your skits – he’s definitely the Lisa character, except meaner.
Obviously I didn’t read your recent article in the same way that he did. I related to your frustration with the long line-ups in Disneyland just to go on a ride that would be over within minutes. Tripling that frustration was standing in those long line-ups with our can’t-stand-still children! Jim should babysit some little ones for a day in the happiest place on earth and see how happy he is.
I’m looking forward to your next column and skit! Ignore the critics and keep on doing what you’re doing. I love your stuff and I know tons of other people who do as well. It’s definitely not “drivel’!
And thank goodness your little girl is okay! Life can end in a blink of an eye and I appreciated your reminder of that. We usually take life and health for granted until it’s taken away. Like you said, life is precious.
Tracey
(ps: did you really cut your hair?!)
TimOn June 5, 2010
Good skit girls. I only travel through my in-laws adventures, because when in a different place like Cuba, Thailand, or Disneyland, I would sooner sit on a boat quietly fishing and leave the excitement to others lol. Unfortunate accident your daughter had. When people are tired and stressed out in a crowded situation even the most diligent person can look away for a second and that is when murphy’s law takes effect. It was a happy ending though. Keep smiling. Smile and the world smiles with you. Laugh and the world laughs at you lol.. Have a great evening.
SteveOn June 5, 2010
Wow, Jim. Why don’t you write a column you’re obviously a expert on everything. Your insight is stunning. With little to no information about her child’s accident you have deduced that Lori was entirely at fault, that her family is neglected and she should be charged with child abandonment. I suggest you take your own advice and ‘quit your bitching’.
Steve, Vancouver
Keith PetersOn June 5, 2010
Another good article! Glad that your daughter is okay. You do need to keep a close watch on them at all times don’t you? Wish I had a grandmother like yours. To spend quality time with your family must have been pretty special…at least you could bond with them while standing in line! Love the graphics too!
Jim L., Castlegar, B.C.On June 5, 2010
I read you article in the Castlegar News this morning, and if this was ment to provoke people , then you have succeeded. I suggest that you come all the way into the real world!!!! In this day and age you line up for almost everything. You line up at the Post office, Bank, Coffee shop, and even line up to park your car in a parkade. And that seems to be the way of life here in North America. Don’t go to Japan or Europe where in many cases you are competing for the space that you are standing on !!! What drivel !!. Now as for the second point. why were you not watching your little 6 year old more closely so as for her to not fall overboard. At 6 years old she should have been under your complete control and if that was so, she would not have had to suffer the trauma that she had to endure. It is a wonder that you were not charged with child abandonment as well as child neglect for your lack of control. So quit your Bitching and get with it before something more serious happens to you and your neglected family
Jim L., Castlegar B.C.
Chris SatterthwaiteOn May 31, 2010
Great column Lori, I think you are posting enough on Facebook. Remember its better to have quality posts over quantity.
Charlie SmithOn May 31, 2010
Lori,
Excellent column – very well said. I also use Facebook inclusively and have been reprimanded for it. As far as I’m concerned, social media is a great networking and advertising tool for us and shouldn’t be just used for gossiping with friends. Loved your skit too! I watched them all actually – wow! You and Lisa are ridiculous, but very FUNNY! Can’t wait for more!
TimOn May 31, 2010
Like you I can’t keep up with all the stuff on Facebook, but just do whatever when time let’s. lol .. good story Lori, and skit Lisa and Lori
TheoOn May 31, 2010
Great column Lori, as usual! I myself haven’t taken the plunge into the world of facebook yet, however after reading this article I understand that I need not worry about including everyone as my friend. I expect I will be more like your dad’s dance instructor as a facebook user when I do join, at least in the beginning. Thanks for informing me about the difference between the two.
As an aside, is your column available as a podcast yet? I think it would work well if it were. I regularly subscribe to an array of other podcasts which I listen to daily. All the best…and keep up the good work.
Hi Lori, great column…. shoot, forgot what I was going to write?….. I cant believe how often this happens thank you , it is nice to know I am not alone….
Len ReirsonOn May 25, 2010
Dear Lori,
I had no idea about these skits that you were doing. I read your column all the time – but my paper has never made mention of them which is a real shame if you ask me. Luckily I noticed your coffee time icon and curiosity got the best of me when I came on to send you a message. First of all, I just wanted to tell you how much I enjoy your writing and your perspective. Secondly, your videos are quite hilarious! I’m so glad I found them. They’re very professional – you and your grumpy co-hort should be proud of your accomplishments. Not many people put so much effort into making their readers smile like you do. And you do it with unique sincerity – how lovely. Keep up the good work, Lori and Lisa. I look forward to reading and watching you next week!
Len
Linda FrancoOn May 24, 2010
Lori,
Is this about you or me? Too funny!
And these skits you’re doing are a fantastic addition! It reminds me of British humour.
I look forward to your column and skits every week!
Keep up the great work! You’re a breath of fresh (and funny) air! And so is Lisa!
Linda
Since my name starts with an “L” too, could I be in one of your skits? haha
Jim WatsonOn May 24, 2010
That’s funny, I just bought the exact same Snuggie at that store in the mall a few weeks ago. Love the vids.
Heather MOn May 24, 2010
hahaha this is soooo me. i still write stuff on my hand like i used to in high school
TimOn May 24, 2010
Made my morning, my wife’s sister has that forgetful thing, went to work with a shoe of each kind. I have to show this to my son because he has toenails like lisa roflmao. Keep the funnies coming. Thanks for the morning smile… must be a lot of people watching I couldn’t open the page until today. Too busy website said. TT
DanaOn May 24, 2010
OMG!!! This one is hysterical! HOW did she do that with the mustard??!!! Keep it up ladies!!!
Norm SandvikOn May 23, 2010
Hi Lori
Another great column! Bring Lisa out to one of our meetings that should get her perky and raise her cup to at least half full.
Keep it up, love the video to go with the column, really nice touch.
Norm
LucyOn May 23, 2010
I hear you sister! After reading your column I pressed play on your latest video, saw that coffee time logo and thought oh yes, I’ll have a coffee. Paused the video, got up to get a cup from the coffee maker and walked by the glass of juice I had poured for myself before I sat down at the computer 5 minutes earlier. I don’t know if I have teflon brain or peri-menopausal ADD. Thanks for letting me know I’m not alone!
Love it Lori, Thank you for speaking out for all of us who are positive, funny and love to keep things light to those who are unhappy, frustrated and just plain old negative!
Loved your funnies with this grumpy person who not only did not realized that you were donating your precious time to a cause but also providing $50 of your hard earned money! Kudos for keeping it light.
By the way…here’s an awesome trick of mine…smile and smile away and in your mind tell them everything you really want to say to them, praise them, thank them and walk away knowing you are a funny, gracious, happy individual true to all those around you. Let Karma do its work.
keep that chin high, and keep that awesome smile of yours on…life is too short to let others drain our cup.
Ariane
Terry HansonOn May 16, 2010
Lori,
I can’t tell you how many times I haven’t had a comeback until hours later and let a grumpy person like that ruin my mood. Good for you for not letting her get to you and coming up with a “clean” comeback that could make you and your friend laugh instead of perpetuate anger. Hopefully the next time the comeback comes quicker and you can use it on the person. They won’t think it’s funny – but who cares! As long as you do!
I have to tell you too, your skits are very refreshing. You and Lisa make a terrific pair!
Terry Hanson
Tim CarlsonOn May 16, 2010
Keep up the funny skits! The title was there… I can’t believe people wouldn’t get the message that you were acting to turn on their light bulb, especially the kids. lol. But I have met two personalities in extreme and also the collector lol. Mom she is 91 and is getting as bad as me for on the spot humor. I think it is great to have quick wit humor in the world. When I was hauling logs, the manager would come out sometimes to see what comments I would make “so he said”. Funny addresses people not position, but some stuffies are so locked up in not looking for anything amusing in the world that they are a real “JOY” to be around… and on and on. But you ladies keep bringing on the comedy. Hope you branch out and make your dreams come true. You are a blessing for those who love humor and will maybe suck a smile out of those locked in their little worlds. May the “Angels” keep you loaded with ideas and your hearts full of love… even Lisa. lol. Just joking “get it” ha ha ha he he hee. I have 3 sisters, thank God we are all older now.
Jennifer ParkerOn May 12, 2010
Lori,
Your column is really wonderful. I’ve been hooked on it for months! And these videos are truly priceless! Please keep doing them – they’re funnier than many of the so-called comedies I’ve seen in the theatres. You two should be making a movie. I’d love to watch the hilarious team of Lori and Lisa for much longer than just a few minutes! Great job – thanks for the laughs!
Jennifer Parker
JeremieOn May 11, 2010
You know I am a big fan – insightful stuff as always. Your videos with Lisa are very amusing… just catching up on them. I relate to you both as my cup is usually half full, but half empty can be pretty interesting too. Love you Sis! – Jer
CarolynOn May 11, 2010
Way to go Lori! I love your column and look forward to reading it every week – love the videos too!! CONGRATULATIONS!
Wayne PetersonOn May 10, 2010
Lori,
This was one of my favourites! What parent hasn’t gone through this exact same thing! And your skit with Lisa was priceless! What friend of a parent hasn’t gone through that exact same thing? Well, maybe not quite that bad! Keep up the great work – it’s always a treat!
Hilarious blooper reels too by the way – just discovered those! Please keep doing those too!
Wayne Peterson
You two are hilarious, keep on doing what you’re doing!
Jayne BrettonOn May 9, 2010
Great mother’s day column! I’ve been caught throwing out my kids art work as well – but what can you do? You can’t keep everything! Hilarious video too!!! I”m still laughing!!!
TimOn May 9, 2010
ha ha been there done that. lol
E and POn May 9, 2010
Lori….
What a welcome breath of unclothed humor you have served us !!
To reveal the reason for our delight with your column. As for me, I was exposed (sic) to the dangers of nudism at an early age, when I was reported by passersby as bathing in my city’s swift-flowing river at the age of five, happy and – in the buff ! Later in life, at 18 and already a fitness addict I took myself off to a Naturist (read Nudist) Camp. This vacation opened my eyes, (no pun intended) to the healthful benefits of shucking one’s clothes as occasion demanded. With a wife and four children that followed, it proved to be the right approach to nudity. You will see the reason why we enjoyed your article. And the tailors never fooled me (The Emperor).
We have already sampled your column, Lori and look forward to more-er-exposure.
E and P
Teresa SmithsonOn May 6, 2010
Oh my god, Lori and Lisa make quite the pair!
I love your column, Lori… and I love these new videos that I finally had a chance to watch! I won’t want to miss these – they’re absolutely hilarious!!!!!! Keep up the great work!
John (Jackie)On May 6, 2010
Hey Lori…
Funny stuff, good to see you having fun. My daughter used to say how unfair it was, especially in summer and in the pool. that “boys don’t have to wear a top but girls do.”
I hope it’s OK for me to say this… I remember sleeping over at your place back in our younger years and I guess your dad forgot I had slept over and didn’t know I was an early riser. I saw his bare legs coming down the stairs and so I said hello from the pool table – he was visible bouncing down the stairs from his toes to his torso and did a quick about-face and ran back to up the stairs. I must have spoiled his early morning skinny dip.
As for topless women in Europe, they come in all sizes and ages. I was cycling in a park in Vienna only to turn a corner to see a shriveled, and sagging buck-naked granny cycling by, free as the breeze. On the other side of the park I had passed a whole group of seniors standing around socializing in the same attire or lack there of. This was followed by a bunch of young men in g-string bikini’s playing volleyball… and around another corner to see a well endowed woman turned sunny side up. I guess you could say there was something for everyone…
I was in my early 20′s and in Austria to hear a missionary from China speak. Funny how some images impact and stay with you. This is especially true for men so they say.
Cal GrantOn May 6, 2010
LOVE the latest video!! VERY FUNNY!! I love how Lisa gives you the “talk to tha’ hand thing” I still think those two characters NEED each other. There is Balance IN THAT. I ALSO noticed the “EYE THING” going on with you. Very important. As that was a reference to the last video. (Continuity) Thanx for the laughs!! Your pal, Cal.
LucyOn May 3, 2010
Hi Lori,
Got a kick out of your naked truth article this week and wanted to share a story with you. A friend of mine with a daughters told me about a morning when her youngest walked into their ensuite while dad was stepping out of the shower. She seemed fairly blase about what she saw. Later when she was alone with her mom she said “Mommy, Dad’s vagina is disgusting!
On another note, while on vacation last year we went to a topless beach and I felt extremely over dressed in my one piece. Most women were topless and many men were nude. Oddly enough I’ve been to the nude beach in Kelowna and have done nude modeling for local art classes, but for some reason was feeling self-conscious about my body.
Lucy
Debra DotschkatOn May 3, 2010
Love the skit, you start the topless movement, I will be right behind you!!!
David GreenOn May 3, 2010
Lori,
I seriously can’t get over you! And these videos you’re doing now are so funny! I don’t know where you found that Lisa girl – but she’s a real character! You play off each other very well! Keep up the great work! (Hilarious cartoon by the way! Next time skip the shrubs!)
tim carlsonOn May 1, 2010
Well there you go again. I finished my coffee before watching..roflmao. But in Scandinavia apparently families bath together in their birthday suits.
CarolynOn May 1, 2010
Too funny! You made me smile : )
TimOn May 1, 2010
I should know better than to try drinking a cup of coffee watching you two! Lucky my lovely wife knows CPR. LOL Only she was laughing so hard she would have been no use! LOL
Richard LeaskOn May 1, 2010
Lori,
I finally checked out these skits… they’re HILARIOUS!!!!!!!!! I was already a big fan of your column, but you’ve just taken things to a whole other level of entertainment! Thank you! I can’t wait to see what you come up with next week and the weeks after that! Lisa’s a scream… you two are perfect together!
Karen McNeillOn May 1, 2010
Going topless feels good too!
Enjoy your week Lori. Karen
Norm SandvikOn May 1, 2010
Hi Lori
Just sitting here with a cold, feeling crappy. I watched your videos and that cheered me up! You made me laugh and I feel much better now. You are so right, it’s always better to have the glass half full and put a smile on your face. Keep at it, you are doing a great job. Look forward to your column every week.
NikolOn April 27, 2010
Dear Lori,
The article about networking in a sea of strangers is great and very timely! I am at an HR Association conference next week, and will use this technique to get over that initial shyness and hope to hear the “click” and meet some great people by bonding over common ground…thanks for the encouragement and inspiration from a naturally less outgoing perspective!!
ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS!
xoxo
fRida
Sam BakerOn April 27, 2010
Lori (and Lisa),
These videos are hilarious! You two are the perfect odd couple! What a great idea pairing these with your columns which I absolutely love! I hope you keep them coming – I look forward to seeing what you’ll come up with next!
Sam
DebOn April 27, 2010
Hi Lori. Thanks for putting together this little skit. Sure made me chuckle! Keep up with your positive and refreshing stories about life. I really look forward to your articles.
Chad EdwardsOn April 26, 2010
Dear Lori,
I really like the quote on your home page about shyness just boiling down to being worried about how he or she appears to others. I’ve heard shyness being described as narcissistic because of that. If shy people heard it described that way, they would probably make more of an effort to break out of their shells like you did at that conference and dance competition, etc etc! Good job putting yourself out of your comfort zone once again. You inspire me to do the same.
(PS: I love your column and your hilarious new videos! I think I’m half Lori and half Lisa… but I’m trying to be a little more Lori! No offense to Lisa… even thought she’s ridiculously offensive!!)
TimOn April 26, 2010
Great story Lori. Hummm poet and don’t know it. lol.
Yes, the internet family of Facebook, etc is definitely helping world wide, so people see other people in a new light. Sometimes the media has a way of showing the worst of cultures. But on internet friend sites we understand the similarities of all people. Well, unless they are the politician or terrorist news makers. There are so many peace loving people in the world, we should all get together and put the nuts on an island by themselves so they could duke it out. Mind you the island would have to get bigger every day looking at the news lol. But that was a great article.
I can really relate to this experience Lori. I have been in that situation a number of times. It is hard to step outside your box sometimes, but the rewards if you do are too numerous to tell.
Videos are too cute, too funny!! Great balance in characters. Thanx for the laughs, love your column. It’s great to see something positive in the newspaper! Keep up the good work
Hi Lori,
I just wanted to say: keep dreaming big and accept what you wish for. When I first came to Kelowna from England via China I was told that there is NO JAZZ SCENE in Kelowna, that it has to be attached to Blues or NO ONE will come. Hard work and a good attitude draws like-minded people together. I read the feedback from your column and having met you I see clearly….”whatever Lori wants, Lori gets.” Keep dreaming BIG lovely lady and continue writing these wonderful ‘brighter notes’ to inspire.
George LarsonOn April 20, 2010
Happy Birthday On a Brighter Note!
I hope to enjoy reading you for many more birthdays to come!
Deanna ChildOn April 20, 2010
Dear Lori,
I looked up your cartoonist’s website – wow! I can see why you thought he was out of your league. I’ve been admiring his work for months now, but I had no idea!
You know what, though? He’s not out of your league. You’re perfect together and as you continue expanding your syndication and gaining more and more readers, I’ll bet he’s happy with all the extra exposure too.
Great job on your first year. outstanding really! Reading your column every week has made you feel like a friend to me and I’m sure others as well. Thanks for that! It’s been awhile since I felt a connection like that to a writer.
Great new videos too by the way! Too funny!
Jonica van RikxoortOn April 20, 2010
Congrats on one year Lori, here’s to many, many, many more years to come! My husband always says “Dreams never die, just the dreamers.” So you should be go to go until the big guy gives you an assignment in the sky! lol
Life is for living and sharing and that is what you are doing here! It is fun to watch your progress! I only met you a few months ago and there was an electricity in the air that came from you when you walked by which brings me to the name of your column ‘On a Brighter Note’ (lightbulb going off, electric “ding”) it is beyond fitting lol! Keep up the great work girlie….I am so happy for you and your success!
Dear Lori,
I read your column every week in the Capital News, and have done so ever since April 19, 2009. Happy Anniversary!
I, too have a dream, and it’s a bit whacky. I have a fruitcake business here in Kelowna, and also write a blog on my site about life around here. Please see my site, http://www.fruitcake.ca, and check out this week’s blog at http://www.fruitcake.ca/newsletter/?p=152. (if bored).
Thanks for writing – you inspire me!
Moni
(a.k.a. Canada’s Fruitcake Queen. So-named by the radio show, Sounds Like Canada.)
Brenda HuntingOn April 20, 2010
Congrats on year one Lori!! I LOVE your column and have had fun just watching your videos!! Good for you for taking the plunge and ignoring what those around you were saying last year! Yours is the first place I go to each Sunday in the Capital News! Keep up the great work and keep smiling!! I agree with you about the difference it makes when you’re always smiling and keeping that glass half full! Take care!
Bob DetwillerOn April 18, 2010
Congrats Lori !!! I remember meeting you at Starbucks and you telling me about this column. A year sure goes by quick as it seemed like only last week. All the best in the future and I wish you many years of success !!
Marichu EtchartOn April 18, 2010
Lori – I completely agree with all of your statements! You have done so much in such a short time and any naysayers are just jealous that they don’t have the belief in themselves to shoot for the stars! I just don’t see how discouraging another person from their dreams helps anyone?!? You Go Girl! Proud to know you and excited to have been following you from your very first “by accident” article on the “Extreme Makeover”. I am looking forward to reading all of your articles to come.
Simon LeeOn April 18, 2010
Congratulations! Not only for your first year, but also for pursuing your dreams. There are many who don’t, but you serve as an inspiration to many of us mere mortals. And, I do agree that Jim Hunt is a brilliant cartoonist… it looks like your teeth in a big grin on the end of a birthday cake with a single pencil, and a small flame burning from the eraser. Very clever! Keep smiling!
Michael RutiglianoOn April 18, 2010
Terrific column and video, very fun, and real…. Happy Anniversary and congratulations on living your dream, most wish it, you are doing it!
Bob MasonOn April 17, 2010
I wanna shake your hand – when we meet at O.B.E. next week. Congratulations, Lori, on your amazing first year.
KatOn April 17, 2010
Congratulations on a killer year!
Tim CarlsonOn April 17, 2010
Just like a forest fire it always starts from a spark , I think you have a lot of people rooting for you. And a good pat on your husbands back for supporting you too. I know my wife lights up every time I urge her along on her ventures and tell her to jump in with both feet. If you sink, you get your feet wet, but you learn something. If you walk on water, shake hands with Jesus for me. If you feel inspired it’s gotta be right… lol.
I just watched your video clips. Looks like you could give Jacki and I some pointers on dancing. Good Job great articles keep em coming.
DanOn April 17, 2010
Great article Lori! How was your trip to Florida?
ChantelleOn April 17, 2010
Happy Birthday!
Robert G. LynchOn April 17, 2010
You’re Learnin’
Susan MacNeilOn April 16, 2010
I read your “Smile, You’re on Lisa’s camera” on April 11, 2010. The timing of your article could not have been better. The day prior, i had spoken to my 13 year old daughter about the fact that she looked unhappy all the time. She denied the fact, so I suggested that if she smiled once in awhile she would likely find people responsive. I left the conversation at that point. The following day, when you article arrived, i asked that she read the article. She turned to me and without me uttering a word said “you’re right Mom” I need to smile more. So thank you for that. It is always easier when your kids hear that kind of stuff from others and not just Mom and Dad.
Carol LettnerOn April 15, 2010
Lori,
I’ve been reading your column for ages and I just had to reach out when I read this one! I have a sullen teenager, so this one in particular hit home. She also reads your column and didn’t say a word after reading it the other day. But I could see it made a difference because she’s making an effort to now smile if you can believe it! We got a good laugh out of that video too. Funny stuff! Keep up the good work – you’re always such a pleasure!
Jonica van RikxoortOn April 15, 2010
WOW, WOW, WOW YOU CAN DANCE! I smiled throughout the entire performance, and I teared cause I know how hard you had to make this happen and you achieved it with flying colours! Lil mam you’re the best!!!!!!
Bob DetwillerOn April 11, 2010
I just watched your Swinging with the Stars video clip – absolutely fantastic Lori !!! You simply continue to amaze me with your talent in many facets of your life. Dancing with the Stars must be next on your agenda. Cheers !!!—Bob Detwiller
Greg DaviesOn April 11, 2010
Neat article! I love your line: “before puberty stole my personality,” how true. By the way, I believe the cup is ALWAYS half full, never half empty.
TinkerTimOn April 11, 2010
I saw that video and had a good laugh. This is a great article and very true, people respond to what they are greeted with. Action begets reaction. LOL. I have been in a few tense meetings in my life where the opposition gave me the response that I was out of their league. My action to break the smiles was. I looked around at the grim faces and said “Are the voices in my head bothering you?” The meeting turned to a better light pronto. LOL. Thanks for giving me a laugh with the video, and a memory from your great article. You are a very talented brain, and not shy about putting yourself out there. TinkerTim
Bob DetwillerOn April 9, 2010
Another great read Lori !! Can’t wait for the clip. I’ll be able to say ”I knew you when.” Keep up the great work!
Dave MannsOn April 6, 2010
Anyone can learn to dance? Well, my two left feet would probably disagree. But you and Warren were definitely the crowd favorites that night!!! And if the voting was left up to the three judges who all gave you the best marks by far, there was no question you should have won that event hands down. Keep dancing and keep writing, girl. Your friends were very proud of you for going outside your comfort zone and entertaining us the way you did! Good job for all that money you raised for Hospice too!
Gail Lovig, Edmonton, ABOn April 5, 2010
I’m so impressed Lori! Good for you! It reminds me of the story told to me by an older couple who took dance lessons while dating and the man, who started out so backwards and shy, ended up becoming a dance instructor with his wife. He said he relunctantly took those first dance lessons because he loved her and was so surprised when he ended up loving to dance too.
Michael RutiglianoOn April 4, 2010
Anyone can learn to do just about anything – no experience required. What a great story and so true…. I look forward to seeing the video, well done Lori, terrific work…
Jill HawskinsOn April 4, 2010
Dear Lori,
One of the things I like to do is ask people how they ended up in the marriage or career they’re in. Sometimes, as with the case of your dance instructor, their story is laced with fate. It confirms for me how we need to keep our eyes open for opportunities, because you just never know. Thank you for sharing. I look forward to seeing that clip of your dance!
Jill Hawskins
KatOn April 4, 2010
Great retelling of his story Lori!
Tim CarlsonOn April 4, 2010
Good story. I stumbled across an ad something like that when I was a young fella. But another job came up – escort. Just kidding. I went to work in a plywood mill. But confidence can help you achieve.
Robert G. LynchOn April 4, 2010
Hi there. I enjoy reading your column every week. I don’t go to coffee shops, I pay my bills when I get them, and I couldn’t afford to see you dance in person. I wait for the clip, (with bated breath), I’m sure you did great. Maybe sit down with all your family for a Priority Check… just a thought. It’s hard to stay ‘Focused’ in this life; but if one can believe your weekly reports ,you seem to be doing OK, most of the time. I’m certainly not one to be giving advice, so I won’t. We won’t compare columnists, but you’re cuter than Charlie, anyway. B.Lynch.
S.B. - LangleyOn March 30, 2010
Regarding your column in The Langley Times of March 19, 2010. My theory is that prostitutes started the nonsense of shaving in order to appease men’s innate programming for very young women. Men naturally seek the most fertile women which they believe means youth. By shaving legs, armpits and, most likely, pubic hair, prostitutes fulfilled the illusion. This practice flowed through to the general female population. Men came to expect it. Alert companies created products. Thus we became trapped. It doesn’t help that it is enforced through the media, the most recent example was an episode of NCIS where Tony was attracted to a female park ranger until he spotted her unshaven gams; the look on his face said it all. The only positive reference to the unshaven was the movie Mrs. Doubtfire, where the bus driver noticed the legs of the disguised Robin Williams and commented that he liked the European look.
I haven’t done any actual research to support my theory, just a long time pondering the practise everytime I submit to it. Then I kind of believe we are all prostitutes in some manner….
David SmithOn March 29, 2010
Another good light hearted article, but with a serious side to it. I read the feedback from Anna and agree that we all need to think of ways to conserve H2O at every opportunity. I recall years ago when working on the tug boats as a young deckhand, and taking my normal lengthy shower. I’m not sure how small our water tank was, but I had drained it completely. The skipper was not pleased! To this day whenever I have a shower, I first soak my body under the shower head, then turn it off and suds up, and once that is done I turn the water back on and rinse off. It’s amazing how much your water consumption will decrease if try.
Oh, and by the way, Anna’s friend who made the remark about your big lake in Kelowna is mistaken to think that it can be used indiscriminately. I recall a news cast recently stating that if the water level were depleted, it would be take a long time to fill back up again.
Tim CarlsonOn March 29, 2010
Great story, That’s what happens when we choose to live in a high speed lifestyle. lol.
My mind always drifts back to the simple life on the farm years ago when there were no power bills or water bills, but we pumped water from the well. Probably why people are out of shape now is they just turn a tap to get water versus the exercise from walking to the well and pumping water for the animals and household. Aw, the good old farm life. What ever happened to “Green Acres”?
Lori,
I don’t think you are alone in this experience, I know lots of people who have done this, ourselves included, and it has often been a topic of conversation at get togethers. They do charge $100 to reconnect and everytime. That should be a deterent, but it appears for me, to only last a few years.
However, on the up side, perhaps, like me, you have just delegated or at least shared the responsibility to make sure that bill is paid with your spouse with reminders from the kids who also enjoy the benefit of water from a tap.
FYI – This strategy worked very well with taking the garbage out also, keeping the laundry up to date for clean towels, and ensuring we do not run out of important grocery items for lunches.
I would say it is freeing personally to know my world can run without me if it had to.
Great article, I always enjoy each one you write.
Anna JacyszynOn March 28, 2010
Hi Lori,
I just read your article about the ‘water bill’ (On a Brighter Note, Capital News, Sunday March 28th, 2010) and understand so completely the perils of forgetting to pay bills and having to pay penalties. One point that you made in your article is the one that I want to address and that is when you had to get water from a neighbor in a bucket and were reminded of being a villager in Africa. We take our water for granted.
It’s just there for us any time we want it and whatever temperature we want it at.
For 4 years I lived in China and even though the first two years were spent in 5 star luxuries, western standard style, the last 2 were spent luxury style, Chinese standard. I had running tap water but no hot water. I had to boil my water from a kettle to wash dishes then boil more to rinse. When I wanted to wash my clothes, only cold water ran through my very old fashioned washing machine that I had to plug into the sink faucet. The shower was the only time I could use the hot water as it was attached to a gas heating system – but only in the shower room. I had to use boiled or bottled water to brush my teeth because the water from the tap was not sanitary enough to rinse with.
All these daily lessons of what pollution and portion control for our life resources have taught me lessons beyond belief. Now in Canada, when I am visiting someone’s house and I see them run the tap and walk away from it just because they want to rinse a carrot or bowl and they use up gallons of precious water, it makes me cringe. I mean really cringe. It bothers me so much that all of us take for granted the accessibility of water and act so spoiled that it’s their right to waste it if they choose to.
In the same paper that your column was published, there was a big article about how much we waste water. I am truly hoping that Kelowna and the Okanagan start realizing how much we waste and take this education to heart and put it into practice.
Someone from my own family, when I confronted them about wasting water said…”Anna, water is still relatively free and we have a lake full of it. If I lived in China then I would take your comments in consideration but I live here, it’s no big deal”. Yet in the same breath when I left a light on in the kitchen and went back to watch TV, I was reprimanded for wasting electricity because that costs money. I seriously had to bite my tongue and be respectful, but I really didn’t want to!
My point is that we, ALL HUMANS, need to start being respectful of the natural resources that we have taken for granted for so many years! Rather than waste them, “because we can afford it” or just because “We can” is not cool anymore. Its cool to save our environment, its cool to recycle, its cool to not waste food, its cool to eat healthy, etc. Let’s make it cool to not waste water, and embarrass those who do.
If we could just leave the taps off and take two minute less showers and not wash our clothes just because they fell on the floor and aren’t even dirty we would have enough water to irrigate our lawns and garden. Honestly people: THINK!
Anna Jacyszyn
FredOn March 28, 2010
Lori,
Living on a deserted island for a year would do us all a world of good. We might be hairier and less groomed – but we’d get back to the bare basics of survival and stop relying on our looks. Write a column about that! Better yet – I’d like to see you try it out yourself!
Fred
Tina R.On March 28, 2010
Dear Lori,
In my opinion men are getting as bad as women when it comes to aesthetics. It’s all about looks these day – I find it sad. My son shaves his body, gets his eyebrows waxed, gets manicures and spends hours in the gym everyday. He tells me all his friends do it too and he’s not unusual. When is the madness going to end I wonder?
ChantelleOn March 23, 2010
Look forward to your column – thank you for having it emailed to me. You are a treasure and am proud to know you.
Good one kiddo! I remember reading years ago that, although most men complain about having to shave every day, very few would pay to have any treatment (regardless of the cost!) that would result in them not ever needing to shave again. After all it is a manly thing to do in our society. In Europe it is for many men a turn on…the hairy female armpit I mean! Interesting, but you again manage to make another topic humorous.
Jan LeaskOn March 21, 2010
Haha – Is that supposed to be your hubby in the cartoon? It’s hilarious!!!!!!
I was really grossed out by Monique and her hairy legs – but who am I to judge? As you point out, it’s a pretty stupid rule we ladies are expected to follow when the men sure don’t!
Love your column, Lori. I never know what you’re going to come out with next!
Jan
Susan TaylorOn March 21, 2010
Personally, I think hairy legs, arms, armpits or anything on a woman is disgusting – even if the hair is light. But, you’re right, it seems to be okay for a guy. What a double standard! The makeup, too. I don’t think I could be brave enough to stop waxing and wearing makeup, but I think I might be less judgmental against those who are. Good for them!
Tim Carlson /TinkerTimOn March 21, 2010
Great story. My wife does not use makeup and looks great, she used rouge on her cheeks when I met her, but I said if you want rosy cheeks I will just embarrass you with a joke or something lol.
My mother didn’t grow hair on her legs and her sisters are all envious of her.
Actually, I think my wife mentioned her mother didn’t have hairy leg growth either. Make up is a waste of time. Men don’t want paint on their shirts and face from coming into contact with painted ladies lol.
Lee WilliamsonOn March 21, 2010
Too funny! Reminds me of my daughter who always has her tongue sticking out a little whenever she’s concentrating on something. Don’t worry about anything except having a great time! It takes guts to do what you and the other contestants are doing. Anyone who sits in judgement of your performance should be willing to trade places with you. I hope your fundraiser is a huge success and everyone there has a fabulous time! Break a leg!
CeliaOn March 21, 2010
I set goals… then miss them. Then I set goals… and miss them. Then I set goals… and miss only some of them. Then I get fed up and think I’ll never get anywhere – not noticing that I AM getting “somewhere” … Then I set goals…
This seems to be the story of my life. And I don’t have challenges like some of the paralympics or olympics athletes… no excuse except for poor confidence in myself which is an excuse not a reason. I’m starting again and not quitting.” alt=”" />I set goals… then miss them. Then I set goals… and miss them. Then I set goals… and miss only some of them. Then I get fed up and think I’ll never get anywhere – not noticing that I AM getting “somewhere” … Then I set goals…
This seems to be the story of my life. And I don’t have challenges like some of the paralympics or olympics athletes… no excuse except for poor confidence in myself which is an excuse not a reason. I’m starting again and not quitting.
Ernie LalondeOn March 21, 2010
Well Lori, another great reflection on life, well done!
Cheryl GrantOn March 15, 2010
I am privileged to know someone like you that is doing something for such a worthy cause. Good on you. You are a winner no matter what…
Kelly N.On March 14, 2010
Lori,
I think you will do a great job! You are correct that this is for a good cause.
Best of luck on Mar 26/10.
PS: Love your columns!
Tracy CampbellOn March 14, 2010
Lori,
It takes real courage to get up in front of a big crowd and do something you’re not an expert at – good for you for having the guts! I hope you enjoy the experience as much as you should. It’s certainly not going to be about your performance – everyone in that room will be pulling for you and the other brave contestants! Bravo for all your fine efforts! And thanks for the hilarious story – your poor instructor! Just kidding!
Tracy Campbell
Kate OlsonOn March 14, 2010
I don’t think I could do what you are with these dance lessons, I get nervous just reading about it. But judging by your column, I’m sure you’ll be successful with this as well! Keep on trucking…or I guess, that should be DANCING!
Michelle SmithOn March 13, 2010
Dear Lori,
My husband and I receive and read several newspapers every day of the week..
We are addicted to newspapers….
But news can be so depressing and it was so refreshing to read On a Brighter Note…
I was able to connect with what you are talking about…
We seem to be be living our lives on a treadmill… and something has to give….
I imagine “On a Brighter Note” becoming a huge success in Canada and the US…
Can’t wait to get it delivered direct to my email addy….
MickeyOn March 13, 2010
Hey Lori,
Your column is great…. I identified with several of them, especially the Coffee break one… and the lost key as well…
I now limit myself to one Venti Pike a day with the odd afternoon wet cappuccino… If I miss a morning stop at Starbucks, because I could not find my car key I feel out of sorts and not my usual happy self. On those days, by by 9:30, my co-workers are begging me to do a coffee run…
Looking forward to more of your “brighter notes” as I’ve signed up for a home delivery…
Sitting here with Linda Santema (Muri) at Whistler having a glass of wine and she mentioned your site–what a great article and so “been there, done that!”. Will read more later!
Cheers,
Carolyn Sluis (Arthur’s cousin)
Mike HammOn March 11, 2010
So, so true. But lots of things add up over a lifetime! For those poor souls still smoking, the math should be more than enough reason to quit! You seem to outdo yourself every week, Lori. Maybe an everyday column in the works?
Nikita RotiOn March 11, 2010
I can SO relate!!! when I worked in the city, it was my daily ‘treat’ to indulge with a maple scone and a grande, triple shot, no-foam soy latte…sometime twice a day. One day my husband challenge my spending by asking “HOW much do you think you give to Starbucks each and every year?”
..now, I do Starbucks maybe twice a month. I find I can buy more shoes;-)
Tim Carlson, CranbrookOn March 9, 2010
As a rule I don’t pay much attention to articles in the newspaper but one day I was drawn to read your article. I think it was about children being… well… I forgot. I just read the one on coffee and I find you to be a very interesting and readable writer with a pleasant sense of humor. Keep up the interesting articles. I don’t want to say work, because if you enjoy what you are doing you never do a days work in your life lol.. TinkerTim
Bob DetwillerOn March 8, 2010
Lori—In my opinion your absolute best column to date , I don’t even want to begin calculating my costs at Starbucks !!! Sometomes it’s good not to dig too deep. Keep up the good work.
Kevin O, SurreyOn March 8, 2010
Great column! After doing the math, I guess I’m between you and your grandmothers age, but as far as buying a coffee, I think I’m more like granny. Keep up the good work, I for one always enjoy your writing.
GammyOn March 8, 2010
Whoopee! I did hit Gold!! Coming from a generation where buying a coffee for .25 cents was extravagant I still picture dollars being poured down the gullet. When one considers the money spent,deposited in an interest bearing account, the rewards are huge.
My apologies to Tim Horton’s and; Starbucks. Do you think they will still allow me in for a monthly treat? Great column, Lori!
HUGS!
Gord P.On March 8, 2010
I just read the news – congratulations on getting the Chamber of Commerce Arts and Cultural Award! I have loved your column since it’s inception. It is so deserving that you have been recognized for your fantastic work!
Gail Lovig, Edmonton, ABOn March 8, 2010
Oh you make me laugh – at your column and at myself as I too have bought a lot of frivolous coffee over time. My Mom has been horrified at the price of fancy coffees and that did help me cut back on the daily quota and instead, have my latte as an occasional treat. Thanks for the reminder of just how smart my Mom and your Grandmother are.
Gordon WiebeOn March 8, 2010
Lori,
Love the logic and your grandmother’s wisdom.
We tend to think about daily expenditures vs the costs to us over a lifetime.
Think, for a moment, beyond Starbucks and consider other companies whose shares you could own and whose products you use: Coca-Cola, Procter & Gamble (makers of Tide Laundry Detergent, Crest toothpaste, etc), Wal-Mart, Canadian Charter Banks (think bank fees, ATM fees, mortgage interest payments, mutual fund fees, etc.), Shaw or Roger’s (Cable and Cel phone providers).
Great column. Keep it up!
Gordon Wiebe
Dave Baker, Victoria, BCOn March 8, 2010
Dear Lori,
Thanks for sharing your experience. I can’t tell you how many times I have talked to my older children about this very thing and they look at me like I’m a cheapskate. Your article actually got them figuring out how much they could save if they make different choices for themselves. Not just about coffee, but all sorts of frivolous things that none of us really need. Here’s hoping they don’t forget by tomorrow. Just in case, I put your article up on the fridge. They’re not the only ones who could use the reminder. We all look forward to drinking some home brew tomorrow morning and saving whatever we don’t spend in our own little piggy banks. Thanks again. You’re always a great read!
so so so TRUE! It’s just one of those things, though, for me ~ I HAVE TO have my Starbucks!!! And it even tastes better, when you drink it with a wonderful friend!
Rheta WhiteOn March 7, 2010
What a thought provoking column, Lori. I read somewhere that when the economy is bad the coffee shops still do alright because it is an “affordable” treat. Your figuring challenges that thinking. Even going to a local shop will add up.
Anyone want to quit coffee cold-turkey with me?
Debra LottOn March 7, 2010
I loved it – so true! Keep up the great columns.
Debra
Freddie L. Sirmans, Sr.On March 7, 2010
I enjoyed visiting your blog.
Kelly McMillanOn March 7, 2010
I just got out my calculator and was horrified to see that I’ve spend just as much as you! Oh what i could do with that $60,000 right now!
Angela MoserOn March 7, 2010
Good Afternoon Lori!
I thought I’d let you know how much I enjoy your column!
Coffee, tear or financially free is one of my favourites, maybe because so many people, including myself, can relate to it. I went to school downtown Vancouver for a while, and that’s where I got hooked… along with the 20 other girls I went to class with. While we’re spending over $18,000 on a one year Diploma (most of us on student loans) we seem to be able to justify our Starbucks treat as just that, a treat. Something we feel we deserve, yet where is this money coming from?
Now every time I want a coffee but I don’t purchase one I put what I would have spent ($4) into a savings account. Generally this doesn’t work, so instead of going to such a large company such as Starbucks, I go to Bean Scene, or any locally owned coffee shop to help support local businesses… It truly is an addiction isn’t it?!
Hope all is well, and I look forward to your next column!
Angela Moser
Jay H.On March 7, 2010
Lori,
To think like a champion is the most rewarding way to live life! Kudos to you for acknowledging that and putting it into a relatable and timely comparison. We can’t always control what comes our way – but we can control our mindset and how we choose to deal with anything and everything. Keep going for gold, girl! I have no doubts you’ll succeed just like those Olympian athletes you admire.
Jay H.
Dean ChapmanOn March 3, 2010
Dear Lori,
How true that it’s the little decision we make each and every day that make our dreams a reality. Too many of us are brave enough to make that big initial decision to put us on the right path, but lack the perseverance to follow through to the end. Thanks for the inspiring words. I really like the comparison to an Olympic athlete. Makes me want to go for the gold!
Dean Chapman
Cheryl GrantOn March 3, 2010
Inspiring words. Makes you think.
Stacey WildeOn February 25, 2010
Lori,
I love your column! This one made me laugh (I’m like a cat watching TV when there’s sport on too!) and cry (when your son asked why that young luger had to die).
Even though the Olympics is just a skytrain away I was avoiding it. Since reading you I’ve made the short trip into Vancouver for the day and the energy was electric! I didn’t get to see any events, but just being there was an experience I’ll never forget. Thank you for inspiring me to do that! I’m sure I would have regretted it if I hadn’t gone. I hope you got that chance too.
Stacey Wilde
Jonica van RikxoortOn February 23, 2010
I really haven’t seen any of the sites downtown, and you have made me want to get at least one day in before it is just a smouldering puff of smoke in the distance! Reading your son’s comment of the young luger made me see it as it is thru his young minds eye ‘unfair’, a sad memory of a young boy called Nodar who came to Canada to live his dream…unfair for sure!
From my home I can see the fireworks every night and hear them when I am laying in my bed, yet until now I had no burning desire to take the sea bus and see what was on the other side….!
The flame has burned bright, and yet it did not call my name lol but I will go now!! Thanks to your family and you for awakening me the Canada spirit!
K OsmachenkoOn February 21, 2010
Great article. I had tears in my eyes as well both watching the event on TV, and towards the end of your column.
Dear Lori,
Great column! I look forward to whatever you’re about to say next and enjoy your spin on the everyday and the ordinary.
I relate to your stories, this one in particular! Too funny!
Keep up the great work!
Jenelle BrandonOn February 15, 2010
Hi Lori,
I’ve been reading your column for months and I have to say it’s my favourite thing in the paper. I always look for the cartoon first (they’re fabulous!) and your smiling face second, and then I set in for an enjoyable read over a cup of coffee. I save the paper for my daughter who has also been reading you faithfully – thank you for that! She’s never taken an interest in the paper before and now she’s flipping through it for the first time. She’s 15 – so good for you for being able to snag such a wide demographic.
Keep ‘em coming!
Jenelle Brandon
Jim NeumannOn February 15, 2010
Dear Lori
You sound exactly like me except I’m always losing my readers. It’s constant. I want a homing devise for those things! I even bought 3 extra pairs and it still didn’t help! Thanks for the laugh, it’s good to hear this happens to other people too!
Bob DetwillerOn February 15, 2010
Lori
I just got back from Indio, Ca. ( Palm Springs ) area and it was so nice to get your columns on my laptop while laying beside the pool. Keep up the good work and all the best to you and your family!!!
Bob Detwiller
RoseOn February 15, 2010
Look forward to Sunday’s paper and your column. Thanks!
Lori,
I think I need to read this every day! Thanks for reminding me how much I have to be grateful for. It’s so true that we don’t know how lucky we are to have something until it’s gone.
Dave MannsOn February 13, 2010
I’m glad you’re feeling better. Now get “Dancing” and be thankful for each day!!!! I loved the illustration!!
Your chiropractor, Dave Manns
Jennifer TysonOn February 10, 2010
Lori
Your column is like going for coffee with a friend! I feel like I know you I’ve read you so much!
Keep ‘em coming!!!!!!
Mike HoldenOn February 8, 2010
Great column and reminder, Lori. Every week I look forward to your insightful spin on the everyday . This week, a ‘pain in the neck’ turns itself into gratitude!
Laura SmallwoodOn February 7, 2010
Your column make me feel good. It’s always the first thing I read when I open the paper and sometimes it’s the only thing. I’ve even cut quite a few of your articles out and put them on my fridge. This will be another one to save. You inspire me to live a better life. A life of of gratitude, love, acceptance and peace. Thank you for sharing another wonderful experience. It’s an effective reminder to live in the moment and appreciate what we have. You are a gift to our community.
Gratitude is something we all take for granted. How ironic is that, hey? We all need to take a moment to ourselves everyday to be grateful for everything our bodies do for us every moment of the day…its one thing I try to teach to my participants…the 60 minutes they spend in class with me, not everyone can do so and for some it’s not by choice. Thank you for sharing your experience with all of us.
K OsmachenkoOn February 7, 2010
How true. I for one am guilty of taking my good health for granted. It does make you think. Thank you for that.
Hmm, counting our blessings is certainly a habit of extraordinary people. It is much easier to focus on the negative and let the difficulties outweigh the blessings.
Thanks for the spirited reminder.
Jamie MeyersOn February 7, 2010
Good luck with the potty training! It’s harder with two puppies, I can tell you that much! Thanks for the reminder to treat animals with love and respect. Like with our children and spouses, it’s so easy to lose patience with them and treat them worse than we would treat anyone else.
Harold Hakesley (Beryl)On February 7, 2010
Hi Lori…My wife and I started dancing at age 18, we ar now 78 and still dancing. We have slowed down somewhat but we keep moving. Our very favourite dance is the English Slow Foxtrot. Here are a few qoutes to keep you dancing…Cha Cha Cha H and B…
Kids: they dance before they learn there is anything that isn’t music. ~William Stafford
How can we know the dancer from the dance? ~William Butler Yeats
There is a bit of insanity in dancing that does everybody a great deal of good. ~Edwin Denby
Please send me your last pair of shoes, worn out with dancing as you mentioned in your letter, so that I might have something to press against my heart. ~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
I would believe only in a God that knows how to dance. ~Friedrich Nietzsche
Never trust spiritual leader who cannot dance. ~Mr. Miyagi, The Next Karate Kid, 1994
We’re fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well dance. ~Japanese Proverb
On with the dance! let joy be unconfined;
No sleep till morn, when Youth and Pleasure meet
To chase the glowing hours with flying feet.
~George Gordon, Lord Byron, Childe Harold’s Pilgrimage
Nobody cares if you can’t dance well. Just get up and dance. ~Dave Barry
Dancing is like dreaming with your feet! ~Constanze
The truest expression of a people is in its dance and in its music. Bodies never lie. ~Agnes de Mille
Dancing faces you towards Heaven, whichever direction you turn. ~Sweetpea Tyler
Dancers are the messengers of the gods. ~Martha Graham
Dancing is wonderful training for girls, it’s the first way you learn to guess what a man is going to do before he does it. ~Christopher Morley, Kitty Foyle
You can dance anywhere, even if only in your heart. ~Author Unknown
Dancing: the vertical expression of a horizontal desire legalized by music. ~George Bernard Shaw
Dancing in all its forms cannot be excluded from the curriculum of all noble education; dancing with the feet, with ideas, with words, and, need I add that one must also be able to dance with the pen? ~Friedrich Nietzsche
Dance is the only art of which we ourselves are the stuff of which it is made. ~Ted Shawn, Time, 25 July 1955
Dancers are instruments, like a piano the choreographer plays. ~George Balanchine
There are short-cuts to happiness, and dancing is one of them. ~Vicki Baum
To dance is to be out of yourself. Larger, more beautiful, more powerful. ~Agnes De Mille
Remember, Ginger Rogers did everything Fred Astaire did, but backwards and in high heels. ~Faith Whittlesey
Dancing with the feet is one thing, but dancing with the heart is another. ~Author Unknown
Dance till the stars come down from the rafters
Dance, Dance, Dance till you drop.
~W.H. Auden
It is of course possible to dance a prayer. ~Glade Byron Addams
In a dancer, there is a reverence for such forgotten things as the miracle of the small beautiful bones and their delicate strength. ~Martha Graham
It takes an athlete to dance, but an artist to be a dancer. ~Shanna LaFleur
I don’t want people who want to dance, I want people who have to dance. ~George Balanchine
Dancing can reveal all the mystery that music conceals. ~Charles Baudelaire
Dance first. Think later. It’s the natural order. ~Samuel Beckett
Stifling an urge to dance is bad for your health – it rusts your spirit and your hips. ~Adabella Radici
I am a dancer. I believe that we learn by practice. Whether it means to learn to dance by practicing dancing or to learn to live by practicing living…. In each it is the performance of a dedicated precise set of acts, physical or intellectual, from which comes shape of achievement, a sense of one’s being, a satisfaction of spirit. One becomes in some area an athlete of God. ~Martha Graham, c.1953
Let us dance in the sun, wearing wild flowers in our hair… ~Susan Polis Shutz
Dancing is the poetry of the foot. ~John Dryden
Dancing is the loftiest, the most moving, the most beautiful of the arts, because it is not mere translation or abstraction from life; it is life itself. ~Havelock Ellis
Dance is the hidden language of the soul. ~Martha Graham
Dancing is moving to the music without stepping on anyone’s toes, pretty much the same as life. ~Robert Brault, http://www.robertbrault.com
Dancing is just discovery, discovery, discovery. ~Martha Graham
Through dancing many maidens have been unmaidened, whereby I may say it is the storehouse and nursery of bastardy. ~John Northbrooke
Shake it ’til the moon becomes the sun. ~Vada Nobles, Carl Sturken, Evan Rogers, and Alisha Brooks, “Pon de Replay,” performed by Rihanna
Movement never lies. It is a barometer telling the state of the soul’s weather to all who can read it. ~Martha Graham
Dance is a song of the body. Either of joy or pain. ~Martha Graham
The dance is a poem of which each movement is a word. ~Mata Hari
We ought to dance with rapture that we might be alive… and part of the living, incarnate cosmos. ~D.H. Lawrence
Next time you’re mad, try dancing out your anger. ~Sweetpea Tyler
Dancing is the world’s favorite metaphor. ~ Kristy Nilsson
And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music. ~Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche
I do not know what the spirit of a philosopher could more wish to be than a good dancer. For the dance is his ideal. ~Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche
Light quirks of music, broken and uneven,
Make the soul dance upon a jig to Heav’n.
~Alexander Pope, Moral Essays
Do you think dyslexic people have difficulty dancing to “Y.M.C.A.”? ~Dave Sokolowski
Music begins to atrophy when it departs too far from the dance. ~Ezra Pound
I see dance being used as communication between body and soul, to express what it too deep to find for words. ~Ruth St. Denis
Talk about dance? Dance is not something to talk about. Dance is to dance. ~Peter Saint James
Dance, even if you have nowhere to do it but your living room. ~Kurt Vonnegut
Poetry is to prose as dancing is to walking. ~John Wain
To watch us dance is to hear our hearts speak. ~Hopi Indian Saying
They who love dancing too much seem to have more brains in their feet than in their head. ~Terence
Dance is a delicate balance between perfection and beauty. ~Author Unknown
Socrates learned to dance when he was seventy because he felt that an essential part of himself had been neglected. ~Source Unknown
Anyone who says sunshine brings happiness has never danced in the rain. ~Author Unknown
Common sense and a sense of humor are the same thing, moving at different speeds. A sense of humor is just common sense, dancing. ~William James
Darcy LeeOn February 2, 2010
Lori,
As the owner of a funny little 11 year old scoundrel that we consider one of our cherished 4 legged children, I’ll tell you what I’ve learned about piddles and poops in the house: they never really stop! This isn’t my favourite part about having a dog – but I blame myself for not being as scheduled and tuned in as I could be. Your mother in law is right – dogs are a lot of work – but so is anything worth having. That’s why we have children and families. And dogs are special in their own way. Who else is going to greet us with so much excitement and love – even if we were just out of the room for a few minutes? Thanks for the laugh!
Dorothy BrownOn February 2, 2010
Dear Lori,
Thank you for putting yourself out there for this lovely cause. I have had some personal experience with hospice house, so this article hit home for me. Some of my fondest memories in life, some of the things I’m most proud of, are the times I ventured out of my comfort zone as you are doing now. Allthough I never did it so publicly, I applaud you and your competitors. Good luck and remember to have fun, life is too short not to. I certainly hope the event raises lots of money.If I could write you a big cheque I would. I look forward to reading your next story, I never know what to expect.
Dorothy
Karen CurrieOn February 2, 2010
Hey Lori, Great story, great cause! I know you’ll do well. Wish we could be there in person to cheer you on…hopefully Paul will take a video of the whole thing? Can’t wait to see the gold shoes!!
Gordon P.On January 29, 2010
What a wonderful cause to break out of your comfort zone for. More people should let go of their inhibitions and take advantage of opportunities to express themselves in all facets of their lives and hopefully not wait for a “great cause” to come their way. Next time there is an opportunity to “dance” I will be sure to grab it. Thanks for sharing and inspiring me. Great article Lori.
KymOn January 25, 2010
I have to say that you have more guts than I do. I would be so scared that I would probably fall on my face.
But as you said, it is for a great cause. So I wish you and all the people involved the best of luck.
Kudos!
June SaylesOn January 25, 2010
Hello Lori,
There are some big differences between Dancing with the Stars and Swinging with the Stars! Most notably, the celebrity advantage. Something tells me that the competitors in this competition aren’t practicing every day, all day for months on end. But great job on having the guts to do it anyways! Hopefully you won’t be too embarrassing. (kidding)
My dear aunt passed away in hospice a few years ago and they provided a really beautiful and loving environment for people to spend their last few days. This is a worthy cause you’re donating your time and efforts to and I applaud you and everyone involved for giving of yourself in that way.
I wish I could be there to cheer you and the other dancers on! I hope you raise lots of money for hospice and have a ton of fun in the process!
As one of the judges last year I can tell you it was not a easy task, everyone was so wonderful. the energy in the room was electric, and the benefit for Hospice so important… good luck and I just purchased two tickets. I look forward to meeting you – save me a dance.
Michael RutiglianoOn January 24, 2010
Hi Lori, what a great piece and so true. The older we get the more reserved we become. Kudos to you for stepping up to the plate, getting out of your comfort zone, challenging yourself, and most importantly giving back to your community. I look forward to reading updates on your training program and of course, from the event itself…. how can we support you and the hospice?
Doug T.On January 22, 2010
Lori,
Halitosis is a serious problem for some. Please keep that in mind the next time you offer someone a piece of gum and “insist” they take it.
K. OsmachenkoOn January 22, 2010
Your article is great. I can relate with your friend.
I do look forward to each of your articles. Thanks for the laugh.
Nancy LyonsOn January 18, 2010
Hi Lori,
I have had dealings with several people in my life with terrible breath and have never been able to work up the gumption to tell them. I’ve offered them gum – but I never insisted like you did. Good idea – I’ll try that. But sometimes I wonder if they know (how can they not smell themselves?) and just don’t care.
Nancy
KennyOn January 18, 2010
Hilarious article Lori! Is it possible that when your friend gave you the formula for a home made mouth wash, she was giving you a hint? Just a question! Keep the writing coming.
Sylvia WrightOn January 17, 2010
Hello Lori,
I can’t remember the last time I wrote in a journal, but you’re quite right when you say it’s cleansing! It really is! Thanks for inspiring me to start writing again. I remember you making mention of a gratitude journal in a previous article and I meant to buy one then but didn’t. I now have a beautiful new one and have even scheduled time in my day timer each day to do it over a cup of coffee.
Sylvia
John MooreOn January 12, 2010
Dear Miss Welbourne,
I just read your article and completely agree with your friend’s approach to cleansing his mind once a day. Good for you for listening to an old fellow. It’s good to know that we’re still heard in our senior years!
I can pinpoint different times in my life where I was more productive and happier, and it was all due to the power of the pen and my ability to clear through the junk and focus in on what I really wanted.
I can also see that there were many dark times when I abandoned this healthy way of dealing with life to instead drink too much, which made my “crummy” situation even worse. Through counseling, I was encouraged to journal frequently, especially when feeling depressed or out of control.
I don’t drink anymore, but I still need to write, You’ve reminded me of that. I set my alarm clock for 1/2 an hour earlier tomorrow so I can start my day off right!
John Moore
Mary M.On January 11, 2010
I have always thought that keeping a journal would be interesting but carrying through with my great intentions repeatedly fizzled out after a few days. A close friend of mine could relive memories that happened 40 years before. A special writing gift if you can do it!
Well said Lori…too many people forget about being grateful….as simple as it is the fact that one can wake up every morning and open their eyes to see the alarm clock…that alone is something to journal….
AriWell said Lori…too many people forget about being grateful….as simple as it is the fact that one can wake up every morning and open their eyes to see the alarm clock…that alone is something to journal….
Ari
Michael RutiglianoOn January 10, 2010
Terrific advice Lori, starting each day with “thank you’s and gratitude” sets the stage for a positive day,adding some additional mind time to yourself is a terrific addition that I will try to live by, if not in writing, but at least in thought …
Mental decluttering and a daily renewal of focus & contribution is one of life’s best kept secrets to being ‘fully alive’.
What a “great reflection and intention” article.
Jean FarrellOn January 8, 2010
Lori,
I just read your column in the Langley Times. Did your husband really say that?! I hope you grounded him and took away his allowance for the week!
I just wanted to let you know that I’ve enjoyed reading your columns. I love this kind of writing – regular everyday life stuff. And thanks for keeping it positive. There’s enough negativity – we don’t need more. As I always tell my kids, positive attracts more of the same!
I love all the cartoons on your website too! They work well with your stories! Keep up the great work!
Jean
Mary BucknaOn January 5, 2010
Hello Lori…………….just discovered your column in our local Kootenay News……………..just the kind of reading I enjoy……. the adventures of life …raising a family………..et al
Your story about the adventures of your puppy was brilliantly described………..I am an animal lover also.. the antics in my life are from my ginger haired cat “Mikey” whose asdventures brighten up my life. He arrived as a kitten shortly after I became widowed. First adventure was his contact with a skunk !!!! ……..what to do? I put him in my deep bathtub… rubbed some shampoo and turned on the shower spray above…what an ordeal… trying to shampoo and rinse !!! A giant leap and he was out of the tub and racing around the house soaking wet !!!! Both of us survived…whew… Ever try to ciip a cat’s toenails?? Another adventure…….. and then there are the presents he brings to my patio door !!!! A mouse !!!
Thanks for brightening up my day……….
A Senior Fan………..
Susan AllanOn January 5, 2010
Dear Lori,
I have to admit, the cartoon is what caught my attention first… but the story was terrific. I don’t have a dog anymore, but we did when the kids were young and we had some pretty amusing rescue scenes that I’m fondly remembering now. Almost makes me want to get a pet again. Almost…
Thanks for the smiles. I hope I see another story from you soon.
Susan
Dave MannsOn January 3, 2010
I had a good chuckle especially thinking of Paul with the hacksaw!!! And recalling when our dog did the same thing, and later on when one of our son’s did the same thing. Thanks for the laugh!
Rheta WhiteOn January 3, 2010
I loved this story, Lori. Thanks for sharing. The Ben Williams’ quote is great.
Rheta
Hi Lori, What a fun and cute story…not such a fun experience for the puppy though. Loved it….and I could relate because I have a dog and your right to me he’s my little boy but to the rest of the world he’s a dog. Keep up the fun articles Ariane
Barbara RossOn January 3, 2010
Dear Lori,
I really liked this article. It’s never occurred to me to truly think of each new day as fresh start and a new beginning and make THAT my new years resolution. I agree – it could be life transforming! It’s interesting how the most common sense ideas seem like new inventions, even when you’ve heard them all your life.
I’ve clipped your column out of the paper and saved it as a future reminder – which I’m sure I’ll need.
Thanks for this and all your stories. I look forward to them every week and love the cartoons too! They’re perfect together. Good luck with your goals this year!
Barbara Ross
Jim FullerOn December 30, 2009
Eleven years ago I made a resolution to quit smoking, and it worked, as I haven’t had a cigarette since. If anyone asks, I tell them that it was easy to quit, I did it hundreds of times! Those previous hundreds of unsuccessful attempts were not failures for me, but necessary steps to reach the final smoke free goal. I love your idea for you number one resolution, I think I’ll adopt it.
Laura ChristiansonOn December 29, 2009
Lori,
Thank you you for writing such an inspiring article about New Years resolutions. I have often made them with the best of intentions only to fail completely and feel like a giant failure, vowing to never make them again. This year, I will be making them once again, but this time, like you, I won’t be pressuring myself to accomplish them without some set backs. If I falter, I’ll just pick myself up again and restart another little race! Once again you’ve given me a different way of looking at something – thank you!
Laura
Every day is a new opportunity to begin again. This very moment is a great time to leave the previous moments behind and start afresh. How fascinating.
Happy New Beginnings to all.
Marichu EtchartOn December 29, 2009
Excellent take on the New Year Lori – I like that you included Sam and Daisy in it and because of reading that, I will be talking to my girls about making resolutions this year… thanks for cheering up my night and adding some hope to the year ahead. Keep up your great work with your column. I really enjoy it!
Jeffrey DiamondOn December 29, 2009
“There is a big difference between the man who says he is a failure and the man who says he has failed ten times.” Nice post Lori. Happy new year.
Mary StewartOn December 28, 2009
Lori,
It’s funny how much I relate to your columns – I feel like I know you and we’ve been friends for years.
Cousins were the best part about Christmas for me as well and they’re what my children look forward to the most too.
I hope you had a great Christmas with your family. I’ve had my fill of festivities and relatives and am now looking forward to the new year and getting back to normal. I’m also looking forward to your next column – keep up the great work… and happy new year!
Mary Stewart
Hi Lori
A great column that reminds me of my Christmas’
Merry Christmas to you and your family
Karen Boies
Bob DetwillerOn December 20, 2009
Lori.
Another great column , always enjoy them. Wishing you , Paul , Sam and Daisy all the VERY best this festive season and a wonderful Happy 2010 !!!
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Another great column , always enjoy them. Wishing you , Paul , Sam and Daisy all the VERY best this festive season and a wonderful Happy 2010 !!!
Bob
Lillian FriendOn December 20, 2009
Dear Lori,
I had to laugh at the reference to being scared of Santa and this cartoon! Our experience with Santa is always the same and I’ve had to give up wanting that perfect Santa picture like other people seem to get until my little ones are older. I’m sure, like you and your family, we’ll look back on these photos of our crying kids with affection. Actually, I already am! You have a great ability to share the ordinary and make life feel extraordinary. Kudos! Can’t wait to read your next one… I never know what to expect – except that I’ll feel good after reading it. Merry Christmas and God bless.
Lillian Friend
Bonnie BryantOn December 20, 2009
Lori,
I’m sure enjoying your column! I love the cartoons too. Today’s was priceless!
Funny, Christmas is about the only time we seem to see the cousins and much of the family as well. It’s too bad really – but we all lead such busy hectic lives. Thank goodness for Christmas for forcing our little visits! I know it’s the only thing I really remember about Christmas when I was a kid and probably what my kids will remember the most as well.
Thanks for bringing back some fun memories for me and making me feel a little less grumpy about the holidays!
Have a great Christmas and New Years with your family and cousins if you still see them. Thanks for your great articles!
Bonnie Bryant
Ena RibchesterOn December 20, 2009
I enjoyed “relax its just xmas” so much. It is such a hype & so much pressure. Lovely when you have small kids, but each year it gets more commercial & all about $$$. Keep up the good work, enjoy your column.
Tom AndersonOn December 20, 2009
Loved your column as always. It again reminded me, albeit in a humorous way, what it is that is trury important in life. I wish you a Very Merry Christmas to you and your entire family, and look forward to your future writings.
Connie MahoneyOn December 20, 2009
Hi Lori,
“That’s why they call it puppy love” brought back all the happy times when my children were young. My family was one husband, two children and a number of cats and dogs throught the years, each one was the favorite! Families that don’t have four legged children, don’t know what they are missing! My house was full of fun, laughter and love and the happiest time of my life.
Thanks for the laughs and tears,
Connie
John WidingOn December 19, 2009
Dear Lori,
I read and enjoy your column all the time, but I just had to comment on this one. I can’t agree more with the whole idea of simplifying Christmas. I hope people will take your advice if they’re feeling stressed or overwhelmed. I know my wife and I will. Thanks for your fresh outlook. You’re consistently entertaining and informative.
John
Just read your “Opinion” piece in the Langley Times!!! Thank you! Lori!!!
I am with you! I sent a letter to the editor commenting on it!
Great stuff, great sense of what is important!
Barbara Boldt http://www.barbaraboldt.com
Danielle YoungOn December 14, 2009
Dear Ms. Welbourne,
I love Christmas and hate Christmas at the same time. The reason I love it is the spending time with family and friends. The reason I hate it is exactly the things you wrote about – the stress and overspending. Oh, the overspending! Believe it or not, I start Christmas shopping a year in advance… so I end up buying way more presents than I mean to.
Thanks for sharing your perspective. It’s interesting to me that someone has gone through the exact same thing and actually did something about it to make the holidays more enjoyable. Good for you! I’ll be trying that out myself in the year 2010. It’s a little too late for me this year!
Danielle Young
Allan TaylorOn December 14, 2009
Lori,
I read your column and I agree that there is too much pressure on the season. My answer to the question…”Are you ready for Christmas”?… is…Yes, I’m ready for it to be over. Don’t let myself get caught up in the hype. I celebrate December as my “birthday month”! lol
Cheers,
The Birthday boy
Caroline JamesonOn December 14, 2009
Hello Lori,
I discovered your website through a column I read online with the Langley Times. I have to tell you, I really loved it. So much so that I wrote their editor.
It’s rare to read something about pets that is so lovingly and sincerely written. And with so many of us adoring our pets, I’m sure there were tons of people out there who enjoyed reading about your experience. I’ve read through some of your other columns and have thoroughly enjoyed them as well. I look forward to reading more – past and future. Keep up the great work. I love your positive energy and outlook!
Chris MohrOn December 14, 2009
Really liked your article in the Victoria Times Colonist today! Thanks.
Jackie BourchierOn December 14, 2009
I loved this article.
I am a Martha Stewart lover and have a big list of things I love to do. I agree with your attitude…as soon as I grumble I say to myself…hey you wanted to do this. And this year I have had to cut out a few things as we change and the kids get older.
I agree friends and family is what the holidays are about.
Cheers Jax
Jim ThompsonOn December 13, 2009
Great message to put less importance on things and more importance on loved ones. It’s a good reminder for the entire year and not just at Christmas. It seems so simple, yet it’s a constant struggle for most of us in this materialistic society of ours. What we’ll remember at the end of our lives is the people we’ve loved, not the things we’ve bought. Thanks for the story. Keep them coming – I’ve enjoyed everyone I’ve read so far.
Lydia CharlesOn December 13, 2009
Lori,
I’m one of those people who wish the whole month of December away. I hadn’t really looked at it that way – but it’s exactly what I do, and I can’t really remember a time I enjoyed the Christmas holidays. I guess there’s a different way to look at the season though. I’ll try your list idea and start crossing off all the stuff that I resent and start adding things I know will bring me and my family more joy.
Thanks for sharing your experience and perspective. I truly love your column!
Louise KnellerOn December 13, 2009
Great reminder of the Magic of Christmas, Thanks Lori
The Magic of the Christmas Season for me is the spirit of giving that erupts from each person during the month of December. Whether it’s a gift to someone else or a gift to yourself, this season evokes feelings of tenderness that inspire us to give to ourselves or to give of ourselves to others.
Even in the chaos, regardless of your belief system or your traditions more people give during the month of December.
I am fascinated and awed by the Christmas spirit of giving that occurs each December and the impact it has on the world. Isn’t that Santa, really? The little elf inside of us that thinks of what to give others and feels so joyous and grateful for what they also receive?
Time to bake cookies for your child’s classroom, thoughtful homemade cards, sweaters you knit for your family. ….or more realistically, money in the Salvation Army donation box at the liquor store, a can of beans in the food bank box at the school concert, a large screen TV for your husband,a box of chocolates for the mailman or just giving to yourself the enjoyment of time spent with family and friends while fighting the crowds at Future Shop on Boxing day.
December forces people to pause, look around them, and appreciate the people in their lives and recognize there are other people in the world that need attention including themselves and we respond by giving and that to me is the Magic of Christmas.
May the Joy of the Spirit of Christmas touch your lives and all your Family and Friends.
Melody CazesOn December 9, 2009
Love the article Lori. I have just recently lost a dog that our family loved for 13 years. I have a new love now, a pug called Kaea. Dogs bring such joy and laughter to a family.
Cynthia RyderOn December 8, 2009
Great article Lori!
It’s fantastic how much love we can have for our animals isn’t it? Your kids are very lucky that they’ll grow up knowing this special kind of love. Unfortunately our daughter is allergic. It’s a real shame – she would have been a great “mother” as well. Thanks for sharing your story “grandma!”
Walter MorelOn December 8, 2009
Good article this weekend.
I know exactly how that all came to be.
Your life will never be the same now.
You know who will be taking those dogs out or walks and brushing them
though??
Well if it’s the same as my house.
It will be your hubby.
So you better warn him now.
He will deny, as I, but we men are suckers for that unconditional love.
Dale SaliOn December 7, 2009
Awesome.
Another smile on my face.
Keep up the good work.
Dale Sali
Allegra Print & Imaging.
Lynn McKeatingOn December 7, 2009
Hi Lori, Just want to let you know that I look forward to your article every Sunday and I have enjoyed each one but I especially enjoyed your recent article Puppy Love. It brought back great memories for me. Already looking forward to next weeks article. Thanks!
Tammy JonesOn December 7, 2009
Dear Lori,
What a wonderful article – thank you. We just lost our pet a few weeks ago. She was such an important part of our family for almost 10 years and she was tragically hit by a car right outside our home. We have been completely devastated by her untimely loss. People who have never had a dog have a hard time understanding how painful this loss can be, but those of us who have had a pet that’s important to us understand well. I’m not sure if we’re up to a puppy (let alone two!!), but we would like to get another dog soon. Like you said, they bring more love to your home.
I enjoy your column very much and look forward to reading it more than anything else. Neat website too!
Tammy Jones
Ron MannsOn December 7, 2009
On those days when you might feel like you haven’t a friend left in the world you need only to go home where there is someone(s) that has been eagerly waiting for your return, even if you only left 5 minutes ago. Someone who loves you on a level that is maybe poorly understood and often easily abused, but is so full of warmth that you both benefit immediately even if it’s just the mere anticipation of being in the other’s presence.
Dogs are very social animals and for the short time that they are in our lives bring us an almost immeasurable amount of joy, frustration, elation and provide some of the fondest memories of all time.
Don RichmondOn December 1, 2009
Insightful, I feel that this kind of article is a bit of a reality check of all of us. If makes a poignant statement about attitudes and self-centeredness. Good work. I’ll have to sell my big jacked up truck and quit tailgating!
Deb and Bruce PritschauOn December 1, 2009
Hi Lori:
Thanks for the great article in the Cap News yesterday! We are currently on a campaign to slow down the speeding in our area of Springvalley. It is very nice to see an article that addresses this very pervasive problem in Kelowna. A lot of drivers here seem to think it is their right to speed and the faster they go the more aggressive they get. We have people speeding through our neighborhood at well over 100 km every day and night. We have a copy of a study done by the city and ICBC that shows the speeds that people are traveling through here daily and it is scary. This has got to be stopped before more people are killed by these idiots!
Great job!
Deb and Bruce
Springvalley Concerned Residents’ Committee
Lorraine RichmondOn November 30, 2009
Great article Lori. It’s a great reminder that driving safe is a very unselfish thing to do.
Upward & onward….
Debra DotschkatOn November 30, 2009
Awesome, it is a very good reminder as I just had an accident myself and thank God we all came away safely.
Tiffany SunOn November 30, 2009
Hi Lori!!
I wanted to let you know that I have been reading your columns over the past few months and I absolutely LOVE them!
You make me laugh and cry and smile and, and, and…
I just wanted to tell you that I appreciate your words! You are inspiring to me and always so real! It’s an amazing thing to have that kind of impact on people =)
~Have a great Day~
Lisa FreemanOn November 29, 2009
Dear Lori,
I’ve often wished I could turn into a cop myself when I see people driving so dangerously. How terrific to actually see it happen! I’ll bet that cop loved being a cop in that moment! I enjoyed the other part of your story too. Interesting perspective to have when getting a ticket. Every time I’ve gotten a ticket I’ve bitched and whined about it. Maybe if it happens again I’ll see it as the reminder that you do, because you’re right, causing an accident would be a million times worse!
Bob DetwillerOn November 29, 2009
Lori—Absolutely great article !!! I have experienced the same typical drivers you are describing and have made my own mistakes as well. The only constructive thing one can do is to learn from them and try to become a better driver and person as well.
Also Lori, your billboard is GREAT !!!! Had my son-in-law with me this morning as we drove by it and he noticed the sea of blue that is so noticeable along with your photo. Keep up the good work and keep those columns coming.
Bob Detwiller
Gerry GoumansOn November 29, 2009
Lori, I enjoy reading your column. It has real life issues and makes me laugh. It’s like Tom Hanks said: “Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what your going to get”. Keep writing, your column makes my week. Thanks
Paul HergottOn November 29, 2009
Nicely done, Lori. Really nice. Only you can turn getting a ticket into something positive…with a strong message of safe driving..
Mike ThurstanOn November 27, 2009
Hey Lori! Loved the article. I wonder how many of us have ever done that growing up. Thanks for the trip down memory lane.
Cheers,
Mike
Tony (and Tigger too)On November 24, 2009
Love it! My favourite characters in the world. Thanks for bringing back the innocent wonder of a child into our day-to-day lives.
Kelly PearsonOn November 24, 2009
Dear Miss Welbourne,
I never know what to expect with you, and to be honest, I didn’t really like that initially. Sometimes you write about sensitive serious issues, and other times you write about fluff. I’m more into the news. But, like my sister predicted, you’ve grown on me and I find myself turning to your column every week before anything else. Thanks for staying positive with each article. There’s no sarcasm or bite to your words. I read enough of that, so it’s nice to read something different for a change. Keep up the good work – I think your attitude is contagious.
KatOn November 23, 2009
Great read, Lori. Disgusting, but enjoyable.
Ken WhiteOn November 22, 2009
Your poor parents! If I had a kid like you who chewed ABC (already been chewed) gum, I think my hair would have turned grey on the spot. Oh well, you seemed to have turned out okay anyway, and it is a good story. By the way, I like gum but my wife doesn’t. Does that mean opposites attract?
Paul HergottOn November 22, 2009
Oh Lori!! Thank you…thank you for sharing that very intimate piece of your childhood with us…I laughed out loud, and feel comforted about my own disgusting habits (childhood, of course).
Ben JamesonOn November 22, 2009
A story about chewing gum? What could be next I wonder!
I hate gum – always have… but somehow I still enjoyed your story. You have a gift for making the ordinary more interesting, and for making me remember things in my own life that I otherwise would have forgotten about. Today I’m remembering the dramatic day I had to cut gum out of my daughter’s hair and the results weren’t pretty. My wife wasn’t too pleased with me either. Apparently peanut butter would have done the trick.
Like I said, I hate gum… but I really enjoy your column. Keep your stories coming!
Ben
AliceOn November 22, 2009
I also love chewing gum but have almost given up the habit because most gums have aspartame in them. Aspartame gives me a headache; it is really a poison. Check it out on the net.
Anyway, I really enjoyed reading your story, thanks.
David ElliottOn November 20, 2009
Lori…that is so funny! Just a couple of days after reading your article I was at London Drugs at a kiosk in their photo department ordering a few prints from my memory card. There were at least a dozen stations (none being used) in a line side by side and I intentionally took one at the very end on the left. Needless to say (because I’m writing to you)a nice looking young lady, with a big purse, came along and sat directly beside me to my right. As she placed her purse on the stool to her right her stool moved even closer to me! As I am an older guy, I didn’t find this offensive in the least, but rather hoped it was my animal magnetism finally kicking in. I opened a conversation with her about the benefits of digital cameras and being able to pick only the best pictures before paying to have them printed, etc, etc. We had a nice, normal, conversation, and she finished up quickly and moved on. I never did find out why she chose to sit so closely when there were many other choices…but truth be known, I’m happy to just imagine why!
ps Love your column!
Linda KukOn November 16, 2009
Dear Lori,
I’d ask you where you come up with your story ideas – but I already know – my life! And everyone elses including your own I would guess! Thanks for another good chuckle. It got me remembering all sorts of similar incidents. Keep up the good work!
Daynna AlexanderOn November 16, 2009
I just love reading your articles ~ they are great!
BTW: I think your gal at the coffee shop – The “close sitter” may have had Asperger’s Syndrome (on the Autism Spectrum) Often ASD kids/adults are unaware of other peoples space and personal boundaries. They want to make friends, but are unsure how. So they can plunk themselves into situations where they feel they are participating in a conversation and can feel rewarded by that interaction – even if they aren’t participating…..
Take care… looking forward to your next article ~ Daynna
Ernie LOn November 16, 2009
Loved the story Lori! so true on many levels and we have all had these experiences!
Erica AubinOn November 15, 2009
HA HA HA! Funny and so so true! Why DO people do the things they do? I LOVE this one Lori! Thanks for making me smile ~ AGAIN :
Tina JamesOn November 15, 2009
I’ve had some recent experiences with close talkers, so your article really hit a chord with me and made me laugh. Thanks! I’m glad I’m not the only magnetic one. I think I’ll buy a measuring tape and hand it to the next one who invades my space!
MikeOn November 15, 2009
Hi Lori,
I get your column here in Kelowna. (Close encounters for a third time – Sunday November 15)
The behavior your speaking of I believe is the same sort of thing I see here in Kelowna. In Kelowna, you will see 4 by 4 black jacked up trucks zooming up to the next stop light at speeds of 50 to 60 miles an hour. The trucks all come with barking German Shepards in the back of them. I believe that this sort of ignorant behavior is based on a need for attention and a need to feel important.
I see it again and again here in Kelowna. I see it with the cell phones which people are using while inside their cars when they are making left hand turns. My dad calls this “The need to be noticed!”. We live in a society where people now need attention from other people on a minute by minute basis.
A good example is my neighbour who lives next to me, and owns a small poddle, which barks continually on a daily basis. I’ll see him outside all the time with the dog in tow, talking to anyone he can, all for the apparent need to be noticed!! This town thrives on ignorance. People here have a special pride in being ignorant in terms on manners or anything else, and wear this ignorance like a badge of honor!!!
Cheers!!
Byron TraskOn November 11, 2009
Hi Lori:
I read your article over breakfast this morning and found it most thoughtful and thought provoking… . . I have only responded to one newspaper article ever, so this e-mail to you today I must qualify by saying it was very significant and much worthy of comment.
Keep up the good writing and storytelling – I’m sure you will hear from others!
Dave ThompsonOn November 11, 2009
It’s so easy to talk behind people’s backs and it never serves a purpose except to create friction and resentment between people. Bertha was blessed to have known this, and the people in her life were blessed to have her around to remind them. Thank you for sharing with the rest of us.
Lynette MannsOn November 11, 2009
What a wonderful story and yes very wise words to live by. She was my grandmother in-law I guess you could call her. She was the most wonderful and amazing lady I’ve ever known. We all need to take a lesson from her!
Bo SkapskiOn November 11, 2009
I think Rick Hansen would agree with Bertha. Who you are isn’t the body you’re in, it’s who’s in the body.
I try not to get pissed about things or judge. It doesn’t always work, but that just gives me another goal to improve.
I’ve read Ruiz too. A bit of a hard read, but the sentiments are good.
Mike RutiglianoOn November 9, 2009
Terrific inspiring piece on the importance of integrity and positive energy. I really enjoyed Grammy and her attitude and principles. And your unplanned voice mail, we have all committed this sin. Your column is a powerful lesson to remind us not to say anything privately that we wouldn’t say publicly, and to ensure we think and act with the best of intentions to all…. well done Lori
Debra KeuhlOn November 9, 2009
Good article Lori. Great reminder of how our tongues can waggle. I have been guilty of this as have so many others. I will use this reminder and story in my day. I am now in the hunt for the book you mentioned.
Lorraine RichmondOn November 9, 2009
Thanks for the reminder. Integrity matters especially when you think no one is watching. How can one measure such a gift. It is priceless.
Don BryantOn November 9, 2009
Lori,
We live in a world of trash talkers unfortunately. And the internet is making it worse. People are too brave and mean spirited when they’re behind a computer and hiding behind fake names. I’m surprised you didn’t mention that in this article, but maybe that’s an article in itself.
Judy WhitingOn November 9, 2009
This picture kills me! I finally checked out your website after reading you in the paper so many times and I’m glad I did. There were quite a few I had missed and this was one of them. The cartoons are so perfect for the stories -what a good idea to pair them up like that. Thanks for the breath of fresh you’re providing our newspaper! Keep ‘em coming!
Dave MannsOn November 8, 2009
“Wise words to live by”…..Thanks for the kind words. My Grandmother would have had a big smile on her face. Congrats on your column being syndicated!!!! I’m very excited for you!!
Sarah BurrowsOn November 6, 2009
Dear Lori, I really enjoyed this story and how you mixed your memories of trick or treating with your current experience now that you’re a mother. It made me think about my halloweens as a kid in comparison to how they are for my kids. Halloween has changed in some ways, but it’s still magical for our kids isn’t it?
Jacki Gorday-WlodarczykOn November 6, 2009
Love it, you made me reminisce and call my brother.
Laurel BeatonOn November 6, 2009
Hey Lori, love your columns and look forward to seeing the next one…keep up the great work!
Gail Lovig, Edmonton ABOn October 30, 2009
In regards to “Getting in touch with humanity”.
By chance, I met author and motivational speaker Leo Buscaglia at a U.S. book show as he was walking down an aisle. He was well known for his warm hugs and sure enough, he immediately gave me a huge hug. I had read several of his books, including Living, Loving and Learning and was so impressed with him. The first time I’d heard him was during a television interview. The interviewer was asking him, “So why are there so many wars and so much hatred in the world? Why are horrible things done to children?” and Leo answered, “How the hell do I know? All I do know is that love does make the difference so just love each other, as much as you can.” It’s such a shame that Leo died several years ago. He was a great man who has left so much with us.
Sallie RitcheyOn October 28, 2009
Lori,
I love this article – “A balanced boy in more ways than one.” Its simplicity of how to overcome a challenge is an inspiration to us all. Thanks for the reminder!
Rodney JamesOn October 28, 2009
Loved your article about Sam and the unicycle (A balanced boy in more ways than one). Congratulations to him, there aren’t many people that can actually ride one of those things, and he can do anything he sets his mind to. Just stand back, apply a little encouragement, a dash of praise, and enjoy the pride!
Jan BartnickOn October 28, 2009
Hi Lori. I often tell your husband how much I loved your articles and thought I should tell you myself. I look forward to reading them every week. In fact, its sometimes the only thing (besides the obits) that I read… Your articles are inspiring, funny, human and honest. Kudos to you girlfriend – you are very talented!!!! PS Who every knew Paul cooked?
Jan Bartnick (co-worker to your hubby)
June PetersonOn October 26, 2009
Dear Lori,
This is the first time I’ve ever written a stranger, but I read your column so often that you don’t feel like a stranger to me anymore.
I’ve really enjoyed reading you. You’re easy to read and easy to relate to. But this week’s article (A balanced boy in more ways than one) really hit home for me. I felt exactly the way you did the first time my daughter did a cartwheel after hours and hours of practice. Now she’s back flipping all over the place like it’s nothing. It’s wonderful how our children can make us see things with a fresher perspective and appreciate their vast capabilities. Let’s hope they keep hold of their courage and continue to make things happen!
June
Auntie KendiOn October 26, 2009
I loved this! (A balanced boy in more ways than one) Given the distance between our houses your column provides a glimmer into what is going on with you guys when we’re not together! Way to go Sam, lots of love to all!
Joe MacielOn October 26, 2009
Delightful column (A balance boy in more ways than one). Had the priviledge of reading it over lunch today.
Mike RutiglianoOn October 26, 2009
Wonderful column Lori! (A balanced boy in more ways than one). It really resonated with me. The joy you felt with your son on the unicycle will be repeated many times as they grow and develop their unique gifts.
Chantelle FunkOn October 20, 2009
Thank you for your energy and timeliness, always a joy to read!
Shirley HigginsOn October 19, 2009
Wow…what a gift you have…such a flair for writing! I just read a few of your columns…you are GOOD! Well done…love the piece on Jean Pare.
Lorene WilliamsonOn October 18, 2009
What an amazing woman! I never really thought about the author behind these cookbooks – but now that I know more about her I love the cookbooks even more! What an incredibly story of determination and will! I can’t imagine how anyone wouldn’t find her an inspiration. I’m going to save this article and read it the next time I’m feeling deflated and like I can’t do it. She’s living proof to never give up and that where there’s a will there’s a way. Thanks for sharing her story. I love all your columns… but this one really hit home. Maybe because, unlike you, I CAN cook. LOL! Keep up the good work Lori. Fantastic illustrations too! This one was hilarious!
Helen HoltonOn October 18, 2009
What a wonderful story!
Jacki WlodarcykOn October 18, 2009
Such a great article Lori!!! I never realized there was a story behind the cook books that line my shelves.
Katrina GlenOn October 18, 2009
Loved this weeks column Lori….it was very inspirational…just what I needed…if she can do it so can I right!!!!
AnonymousOn October 18, 2009
I’m a Globe And Mail home delivery subscriber…and spend about an hour a day reading it ‘cover to cover’
I’m a reader of the Kelowna Capital News (your columns, Judie Steeves and others) and a few other newspapers available in hard copy locally…once in a long while we get our hands on a Sunday New York Times…takes ’til Thursday to read it all and love it…LOL !
Also receive via Email subscription: news summaries focusing on our interest areas – sources are: from newspapers, wire services, monitored web sites, blogs and other information aggregation services and sources world wide…
When traveling anywhere….I make a point of getting local community newspapers… they provide valuable insights into what’s happening in those communities…after road trips I usually wind up with the bottom of my suitcases filled with the local community papers I’ve collected along the way…sometimes I’ll follow up with reporters or columnists by Email after a trip and try to stay in touch – one example is reporter and columnist with “The Astorian”…a good source of watershed news…
I sympathize with the experience you describe about your “unaware” friends…there’s a lot of that going on now – more than what you might imagine !!…especially with the focus on the truly trivial of the Twitterers, the Facebookers and the other “social” networkingphiles…each seem to derive their interest topics from The Enquirer, The Globe and their ilk eg: FOX “News”, ET, TMZ, etc…it seems to us, if Paris Hilton as much as farts or wears a different shade of lipstick…it results in a million “hits” on Twitter and other similar services, letting the “connected” universe know about these and other equally earth shattering and momentous events…Good Grief!
We’ve come to the reluctant conclusion since moving here …by and large, with a few notable, surprising and pleasant exceptions, the general population of Kelowna we’ve encountered, is: clubby, close-minded, cliquey, churchy, and cloistered – news events, like those you describe in your 30AUG09 column, don’t seem to register in main-stream consciousness that often…again reluctantly we have been driven to our opinions slowly – > for example: women we’ve met here seem to have as their primary conversation focus: hair, nails and tans…I know that’s grossly unfair…but there you have it none-the-less
Your columns and those of several of your KCN colleagues are refreshing.
Keep up the good work
Thank you…
Lisa SandersonOn October 12, 2009
Thank you so much for writing “A thankful heart is the greatest virtue”. My friend and her sister were killed in a tragic car crash many years ago when we were still in our teens and it had a profound affect on me and our whole community. I think seeing the flowers at the scene long after the accident was helpful in the sense that other people would be reminded to drive safely, but I don’t think the family was able to reach out and share their story the way the Walker’s have. I’m not sure if I would be able to do what the Walkers are doing either, but I hope that I could find the strength. They’re doing some real good in our world and my heart goes out to them. My heart goes out to anyone who loses their child. There could be nothing more painful.
Lisa
Maureen DetwillerOn October 12, 2009
Hi Lori. After reading “A thankful heart is the greatest virtue” I wanted to thank you for sharing the Walker’s story. Losing a child is every parent’s worst nightmare. Your article was written with deep compassion & respect, while also educating and calling your readers to take action (whether that action is getting involved with Smartrisk or living life with a thankful heart).
Your article was very well done. Thank-you.
Lorraine RichmondOn October 12, 2009
What a powerful subject. Thank you for the renewed reminder that life itself is a precious, precious gift.
Bob DetwillerOn October 12, 2009
Another good, albeit sad column. Hopefully lots of good will come from this program. This last summer I had to catch up to a car on Buchanan Road and stop some teens from doing the same thing, as I caught up to them they were just getting ready to turn onto #97 N and go up Drought Hill. Hopefully they listened to what I had to say and didn’t continue later.
Have a Happy Thanksgiving Lori.
Bob
Bob DetwillerOn October 6, 2009
Lori
Great column. Got some dental work done there last Jan. at a fraction of the cost by the way. Overall your columns, in my opinion are extremely well written, precise and to the point.
Lorraine RichmondOn October 6, 2009
Absolutely astounding. I love the bright ‘other perspective’. I find myself with a delighted smile after every read. And it’s true, I am a faithful reader of a “On a Brighter Note”
Cindy GibsonOn October 4, 2009
Lori, I often forget names and I never want to ask because I don’t want them to know I’ve forgotten. But I’ve never forgotten meeting someone 10 times! You must be pretty boring and forgettable! LOL
Thanks for making me feel better about just forgetting names… I don’t feel so bad anymore and won’t mind asking them to remind me. At least I remembered them, right? I’ll try your trick for remembering names too. Even if it doesn’t work it sounds funny. Thanks for your articles, I always enjoy reading them!
Mary TerwegOn October 4, 2009
Every week brings a new and interesting topic! I have found your last few columns particularly interesting and thought provoking. I’m still wondering which Pooh I am. You have made me realize that I can build memories every single day and that it is up to me the kind of memories I want in my storehouse. Thanks Lori.
Steve WardOn October 1, 2009
I just read your column and got a real kick out of it. I just had the same conversation with someone yesterday. I was complaining about a couple of people I’ve met numerous times and they never remember that we’ve met before. It kind of makes you feel that you must be boring. I may not be the most memorable person in the world and God knows there are people that I’ve spoken with and don’t recall meeting. But not people I’ve met multiple times. I think those folks are just a little slow … or self-absorbed.
I’ll have to try your technique though as, like you, I’m good with the face but sometimes not the name.
Liz WinklerOn September 24, 2009
OMG! I saw this exact same woman walking down the hall at work once! How embarrassing! LOVE the cartoon and LOVE the article!
Peter RadinskyOn September 24, 2009
I love every column I’ve read – but this column about the Winnie the Pooh characters was by far my fave. I’d never thought about comparing people to those characters before – but now I can’t stop! Too funny! Thanks for making me think in a different way!
Donna LaPlanteOn September 24, 2009
Hi Lori. I really enjoyed your column “Which Pooh are you?” I’ve always looked at people as being ‘colors’- you know, the blue people are the soft hearted, emotional ones…the green people are the hard cored motivated ‘wall street’ types, etc…So now I can look at people as those lovable little WTP types!! My son used to watch the show when he was growing up– that darn Eeyore used to drive me nuts! I’ve had many a teacher with that monotone, unenthusiastic voice…
Paul HergottOn September 20, 2009
Very thoughtful column, Lori…which will hopefully cause the rest of us to think…
Brad LeibelOn September 15, 2009
Just wanted to say how much my wife and I enjoy your column every week. I have to admit that the column is the first thing I turn to when the Capital News arrives on our doorstep.
With all the “bad news” in newspapers usually dominating the headlines, it is nice to have a “feel good” piece in the paper to brighten things up….not enough of those.
RhetaOn September 15, 2009
I’m enjoy reading your insights into life. They are thought-provoking, true to life, and entertaining. Often I laugh out loud when reading them. Thanks.
Leanne FriesenOn September 13, 2009
I laughed when I read this. My mom used to say that very thing all the time as I was growing up and I never understood it until I had kids of my own. Now the years pass by so quickly it’s frightening! Thanks for your suggestions on how to slow things down in a good way. Sometimes it’s hard to take the time to just breathe it all in, but it’s important and will provide us with the moments we’ll cherish later on. Thanks for your column, Lori! I look forward to reading it every week!
Jackie BourchierOn September 10, 2009
I look forward to your column every Sunday. I love how bright and easy it is to find in the newspaper. It makes me read the paper when I used to just pull out the flyers and look up the movie listings. Your coloumns are easy to relate to and enjoyable to read. I look forward to reaching out and touching someone after reading “Getting in touch with humanity” lol. Thanks Lori for making my week brighter!
Mike ThurstanOn September 9, 2009
I love your column. It constantly hits home with me as it’s always in touch with real life. I love the thought that goes into each one. It’s like a written version of Seinfeld. Makes me think & smile every time I read them….
Keep up the great work! Can’t wait for the next one.
Paul HergottOn September 9, 2009
Goodness…what a fabulous ray of sunshine! Thank you, Lori, and please keep it up!
Vanessa BrewerOn September 9, 2009
I love reading the weekly articles! Lori graces her readers with small glances at her own life, sharing something she has learned that week. She is a gifted, eloquent writer.
Especially during these times, it is a rare and valuable gift to be able to bring hope and joy to others. And Lori’s article does that every week. She also encouraging us to do the same with those around us. You are an inspiration Lori! Have you thought about writing a book?
Life is about being positive and finally someone is putting it out their in a light hearted, warm and funny column. There is too much doom and gloom in the media and life in general, so it is enlightening to see a rose between the thorns. Keep up the great writing…you have a fan for life!
Ron MannsOn September 8, 2009
Good article! Human touch is essential. You convey your heart-felt sincerity, your compassion to a friend or stranger, your symptathy, and your desire to assist or help out in a situation. People who avoid touch are decidely empty and have no idea what they’re missing. Some of us even earn our living through touch.
Sharon ErtnerOn September 8, 2009
Lori, I have been reading your columns and they are great. Reading “Eternal gratitude is eternally yours” really makes you appreciate what you have and what could have happened. Keep up the good work with the column. You’re a marvelous writer.
Kelly SimpsonOn August 30, 2009
Lori, just wanted to let you know how much I enjoy reading your column. It’s a nice change from all the doom and gloom and other columnists trying to tell us how to live our lives. I particularly enjoyed the “Cougar” column. I’ve got to know though, did Daisy call her grandparents to ask them if they still had sex??? I almost peed my pants!
K.WhiteOn August 26, 2009
Wow… this topic sure brings back a lot of memories for me. I’m a senior now, but my younger brother reminded me just the other day about the time I started to dig a hole in our back yard to China! I abandoned the project after only two feet of hard labour. (I hadn’t thought of it for 50 years, but he had, and the memory was still there for me, with just a small nudge…I wonder if that hole is still there?). Look forward to the next topic.
Is any of Lori’s work available as a podcast? My nephew has helped me to set up a list of my favorite newscasts as podcasts, (several regular BBC shows, The Bill Good show, Michael Campbell’s Money Talks, Shell Busey, Stuff You Should Know, Stuff You Missed in History Class, the Vinyl Cafe, etc, etc.) which I subscribe to. This way I never miss an episode! I would love to subscribe to something lighter like this if it were available as a podcast…to BRIGHTEN MY DAY!
I’ve NEVER been a newspaper reader…EVER! A friend showed me this column one day, and I have been HOOKED since! I can’t wait to get my Sunday paper now! I grab it, shuffle through it, (past all the politics and negative news), till I see the BRIGHT, HAPPY, SUNSHINE ~ I sit with a coffee in my hand, and a smile on my face, read this fabulous column ~ and then recycle my paper! (I used to recycle it BEFORE even opening it Thank you Lori! You make me smile! You’ve got an amazing gift! Thank you for sharing! ~xo
Amber CoyleOn August 16, 2009
In reading your column in the paper I always sit with a funny little grin on my face – one that I didn’t even notice was there until it was pointed out to me by a good friend. Too often, many of us forget to smile, to look at the positive things in life… even when it doesn’t look quite so positive when it’s happening to us. Your column has reminded me to smile, to think of the positive in each and every situation. It takes “One day, we are going to look back at this and laugh” to a more immediate time frame – why should it be “One Day” and not today? Shouldn’t we all be living for today?
You have accomplished what so many have tried to do and you’re sharing your secret with the rest of us. In a witty, humorous, inspirational story, you teach us how to take a breath, laugh when we want to cry, and to put a different spin on each and every situation we encounter. With the billions of dollars spent annually on “self-help” books, your column should be in every city, town, village and hamlet throughout North America.
Your column is about real life, real situations that we all can relate to. It brings to me a sense of community, camaraderie and a sense of relief from the day-to-day stresses in life.
I look forward to reading your next installment and would love to see one daily just to keep that silly little grin on my face.
Amber CoyleOn August 16, 2009
In reading your column in the paper I always sit with a funny little grin on my face – one that I didn’t even notice was there until it was pointed out to me by a good friend. Too often, many of us forget to smile, to look at the positive things in life… even when it doesn’t look quite so positive when it’s happening to us. Your column has reminded me to smile, to think of the positive in each and every situation. It takes “One day, we are going to look back at this and laugh” to a more immediate time frame – why should it be “One Day” and not today? Shouldn’t we all be living for today?
You have accomplished what so many have tried to do and you’re sharing your secret with the rest of us. In a witty, humorous, inspirational story, you teach us how to take a breath, laugh when we want to cry, and to put a different spin on each and every situation we encounter. With the billions of dollars spent annually on “self-help” books, your column should be in every city, town, village and hamlet throughout North America.
Your column is about real life, real situations that we all can relate to. It brings to me a sense of community, camaraderie and a sense of relief from the day-to-day stresses in life.
I look forward to reading your next installment and would love to see one daily just to keep that silly little grin on my face.
Ken BlackOn August 15, 2009
Wow! These columns deserve a five star rating. I’ve been a subscriber to this site for close to two months now, and find myself checking my email daily, hoping to find a new installment. I have often fancied myself to be a writer capable of publication, but realize after reading these fascinatingly witty stories, that I could never produce such eloquent prose (see what I mean?). I’m intrigued by the uniquely easy style of the writing. In any event I am thankful that I have found this series, and look forward to reading many more. It’s nice to know that the news need not be so serious all the time, and I can count on these to always be “On `A Brighter Note.” Thank you so much Lori! (p.s. – would you consider adopting a nice man?).
Ernie LalondeOn August 13, 2009
Great articles and column. I truly enjoy the positive slant you bring to life and life’s lessons. Media has long made the negative sensational, when truthfully, it’s the positive things in life that are sensational as they always takes more effort to complete. Keep it coming!
Teresa Huscroft-BrownOn August 10, 2009
How refreshing to read something and come away feeling good, and with a smile on my face. I like that you take the everyday, look at it a little differently, and put a positive and uplifting spin on it. It’s nice to know there is still ‘good news’ out there amongst the gloom and doom of the typical daily news reporting. I’m looking forward to reading more as your family grows and your column evolves. Thanks!
Gloria MeederOn August 7, 2009
Love your website!…bright, exciting, living colours!… I enjoy your column….keep up the great work SUPER MOM…
I find it fun reading, as I am relating to when my two boys “hung around” asking all sorts of things in their younger years.
I am always impressed when some one I know exhibits strengths and skills that I didn’t know about. Even more fun is when they step out in a different direction, expressing themselves in ways that were not expected.
Congratulations to you and Keith to bringing something new, uplifting and fun.
I look forward to seeing how you will brighten up my day!!
Dan PearsonOn July 28, 2009
In this era of media sensationalism dwelling on the negatives of this world we live in, it is refreshing to read such a positive and humourous column. I look forward to opening up my morning paper on Sundays and reading this even before the sports pages which I used to go to first. Keep up the fine work!
Dave MannsOn July 24, 2009
Too often we spend wasted time dwelling on the negative, the destructive and tend to be too reactive, when we should be more positive, creative and pro-active. Each day we take a lot for granted and all of us should be eternally grateful for enjoying good health, good friends and especially family. I think it would do us all well to live a little more, laugh a little more and love alot more too. I think if we can accomplish that we’ll succeed in whatever we choose to do.
I enjoy your articles, you put a spin on them that’s often overlooked. Keep up the good work, and thanks for reminding us what is important.
Cindy RossOn July 16, 2009
Thank you for this article.
I love your “zest”. Why follow all these rules that have no bearing on our morality, ethicity (as in ethical) or legality. They are random rules that some (guy?) came up with that make no sense.
I too am in my 40’s, 46 to be exact. I too have no problem sharing my age with the world. Proud of it to be honest.
I say wear all the daisies you want, sport the long hair ‘till it doesn’t work for you any more and I will happily do the same.
Thank you for the breath of fresh air. Sometimes I forget that I am me and it is ok to be silly and dance in the car still.
It is good to hear from others that being yourself is not only OK but it is the only way.
Again, thanks!
ps. I always thought cougars were older women, “prowling” for young men. Not just because we are a certain age. I think I will rebuttle to those that call me a cougar with something along the lines of them being a rabbit.. you know what cougars do to rabbits, it isn’t have sex with them. LOL
Cindy Ross
46 and still rockin in the car
with my long hair and dog (blinged) necklace
sportin some funky earings that may just be to old for me.
Sheri JacksonOn July 10, 2009
I would actually like to say that not only is your column well written, it is also funny and leaves me feeling uplifted. I haven’t missed a column yet and find myself actually waiting for it so I can read the feel-good story. As a working mother of three, I can certainly relate to each and every article. Making people smile must be a rewarding feeling and congratulations on doing just that, Lori. More papers should run articles like this, in order to break up the hum drum of most of the other stories that we often find ourselves reading and thinking ” oh that’s too bad” and “isn’t that awful”. As we read On A Brighter Note, we find ourselves laughing and saying “oh that’s a good one” or “finally an uplifting story”. Inspirational really. I even find my 16 year old daughter reading it which is the first time any of my 3 kids have even looked at a newspaper. That says it all. Good Job.
Lauren ForsythOn July 8, 2009
Dear Lori,
I wanted to congratulate you on your column in the Cap. News. It is well written and very interesting; I look forward to reading them.
You go, girl!
Lauren Forsyth
Glen BakerOn July 6, 2009
Lori,
With all the coverage of Michael Jackson’s death, thank you for writing this article so personally. It doesn’t matter if you’re a Michael Jackson fan or an Elvis fan to understand the message here. Everyone’s a fan of someone and everyone feels a sense of loss when they die, even if they’ve never met. You put that into perspective. Thank you.
Linda SchauerOn June 28, 2009
Good day,
After just reading your article about Kid’s Day I just had to respond.
My husband and I are the happy parents of four children. The time has passed so quickly, as we were always warned, and they are now 23, 21, 19 and 14 years old.
As they were growing up, we had often heard the response, “Every day is kid’s day” and we decided to do something different.
Each year we attempted to celebrate “Kid’s Day” following these guidelines: our children did not know ahead of time when it would be, it would have to be on a school day (whereby Mom would phone the school excusing the children for personal reasons) and we would have to go somewhere they had not been before. Over the years these impromptu trips took us to places like Old McDonald’s Farm, Too Much Fun and the Enchanted Forest. As they grew older we continued further to Kamloops, Vancouver and Vancouver Island, to name a few.
It is surprising how many times our children have looked back and recalled those times with each other!
Just thought I would share that with you….
p.s. Enjoy August 2nd – your “Kid’s Day!”
Sincerely,
Linda Schauer
Sharon DavidOn June 17, 2009
I enjoyed reading this article about the Punch Bugs. My daughters had a twist to that. After saying “Punch bug no return” they would say “Can’t talk until someone says your name”. Then the next while was spent tricking or cajoling someone [or they might forget] to say your name. My oldest daughter and her friend also counted volkswagons and keep track [1,234 1,235 etc] . Fun things to remember now my girls are grown-up and have children of their own. Sharon David
Laurel RichardsOn June 8, 2009
I just read “”If we could only name ourselves”. If we could, i would have stuck with my given name – which just so happens to be Laurel! Too funny that I always loved it too! Most of my friends hated their names, especially if they were too ordinary or too different… so I guess I’m the unusual one. Thanks for the article! It’s posted on my fridge and I’ve had a few friends call me about it already. One of them is calling me Lola now…
Leslie Joy PlaisanceOn May 25, 2009
Hi Lori,
Just a quick note to say that I love your column!!!!!
People need to feel that spirit so desperately.
I just read “Feeling like a sausage is no piece of cake”
I’m big on promoting fun and if you want to play like in the days of old, you might enjoy a type of dance that I teach.
It’s new in Kelowna, but popular elsewhere.
It’s called Bhangra – Indian folk dancing. I will attach some youtubes for you to check out.
Part of the dance is smiling.
Cheers.
Leslie Joy Plaisance
Sue WaltersOn May 24, 2009
Hi Lori,
I was reading your article in the Capital News and I have to tell you what happened to me. I turned 42 and for my birthday this April I asked for money only, so that I could do a nutritional cleanse.( I have a good habit of walking and was watching my eating, but I had only managed to yo yo at 3lbs lost.) I thought I could lose 8lbs(I didn’t think my prepregnancy weight was attainable because of my age). I had watched a friend lose 35lbs last year and keep it off with this cleanse, so I thought I’d try it.
I did a 30 day nutritional cleanse, meaning I drank 2 nutritional shakes a day and ate one sensible meal, and cleansed once a week. In 30days I lost 16lbs and 22.5 inches but more than that I am sleeping so good and I feel younger!!
I am sure you get strange emails all the time, but I just felt like I needed to tell you. Our chiropractor, who looked into it for us to see if it was safe, was absolutely amazed at the high quality ingredients and how nutritionally sound it is. There also are lots of utube videos, one is a TV news clip. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k5RVuHOWzo4 I could tell you a huge number of stories of the 21 people who decided to try it with me and all of their success! My brother has lost 22lbs, my sister in law 13lbs, my hairdresser 18lbs….and I am on week 4 of maintaining and am exactly the weight I was when I finished my 30 days!
I bought my first ever bikini yesterday(Purple, not yellow). Thanks for taking the time to read this, I am sure you are very busy. If it’s something you want to look into further I’d love to help you, feel free to email me back
Sue Walters
Rick SewellOn May 5, 2009
Dear Lori,
I was also a stay at home dad for many years when my kids were small. I was fortunate enough to be able to get ample time with both my kids when they were a young age. I now work full time and both kids are full time in school, but I must say I’d go back to doing it again in a heartbeat, if we could afford to do so.
I was so fulfilled with the job. It was the best job I ever had. Both my kids are well behaved, happy and very full of life. They are bright and funny and I believe their upbringing was crucial to their happiness and security.
I appreciated this article very much and am glad to know there are other men out there capable of caring for their kids and their home. I too was always proud to say I stayed home with the kids.
My wife loved the days when she came home to dinner on the table and the knowledge of knowing her kids were be well taken care of.
The biggest compliment I ever got was from my wife, who is a terrific mother and person. She said, “you’re better at this than I am.” She was referring to the stay at home routine. I’ll always remember that comment. It wasn’t a slight towards herself either, she just enjoyed working and getting out of the house more than I did.
Anyway, thanks again for that.
Rick Sewell
Hi Lori;
I enjoyed your column today. I had a very similar experience when I froze on stage during a final presentation of an acting class. Just me in the middle of my piece completely lost on stage. Looking out at the faces I saw cringes and hands to faces, wide gaping eyes. It was funny in retrospect. I did find my way just like Daisy. The best thing wasn’t exactly conquering the feat it was knowing that even the worst thing hapening really wasn’t a big deal. Ask daisy if that makes sense. It’s so ok to mess up or forget where we are. We make too much of a deal out of trying to be perfect. It’s great when we are so not perfect and nothing bad happens. We walk away just fine! I hope Daisy got the same message as I did.
All the best,
Susan
just a note to say how much I’ve enjoyed reading your column and watching your videos. they are truly so funny!
Thank you for sharing your talent with us…and keeping us healthier! because it’s true…laughter is the best medicine!
Hi Lori, just watched your video on Get out and Vote, gutsy effort. Well done and thank god Ms.Neis had a personality eh,
John .
Out of the 46/47 all but 3 of the deaths were children. If the link does not work, one can look up the fatalities at the National Canine Research Council under dog bites.
Most of the child deaths were unsupervised children around unsocialized dogs or free roaming pack dogs.
It has been said the dog bit before. Where was the owner and why did the visitors NOT know this particular dog was unstable? Calgary, Alberta has the lowest bite statistics in the whole of North American per capita. They also have the highest licensing compliance rates.
Onus should always be on ownership rather than type of dog as not a one of the 44 children killed in Canada would have been saved if “pit bull” type dogs alone were taken to task.
http://nationalcanineresearchcouncil.com/uploaded_files/tinymce/DBRF-Canada-Copy-for-website.pdf
part of the problem with pitbull owners is, they are often people that shouldnt own any pets at all.
so this notion of making dog owners more accountable is hogwash,most dog owners are responsible
people when dealing with their animals.
Nice, very nice re: 911 this 10th anniversary. Brought a tear to my eye hearing those little kids speak…thanks!
Defining the Pit Bull Problem:
Pit Bull type dogs kill, maim and seriously injure more people each year than all other type dogs combined. This means that one type dog that makes up about 5% of the dog population kills more than 60% of all people who die in dog attack related fatalities.
Pit Bull type dogs are notorious for actions unique to these type dogs.
Pit Bulls once they start an attack will not stop even when subjected to intense pain in many cases.
Pit Bull type dogs attack in the manner of many wild animals in that they grab, hold and shake the victim to do even more damage similar to the way large cats, sharks and other predators do.
There have been several studies done over several decades and while the opinions of the authors may differ the numbers are generally consistent in proving that Pit Bulls kill more than all other type dogs.
Another unique trait of Pit Bulls is that they are the only type dog known to attack adults as often as children. An example is the “Mortality, Mauling & Maiming by Vicious Dogs” study, published in April 2011 in the Annals of Surgery. Where it shows that in the age group 21 to 54 Pit Bulls were responsible for 82% of the deaths.
Let me close by saying that this is a serious and persistent issue that must be addressed. We have to find ways to stop the senseless and vicious maiming, mauling, and killing of our children and others by these animals. These attacks and deaths are preventable and we as a society must act to prevent them.
Pit Bull Dangers Part 2
These Attacks are Preventable
I want to discuss the most sensible and effective solutions, and why we need them. Because discussing any problem without discussing a solution is counterproductive. Most will agree we definitely have a problem though they may disagree on exactly what the problem is.
While no solution to any problem is ever 100% effective. Proper laws, and effective controls properly enforced will prevent the vast majority of attacks, injuries and deaths caused by these animals today.
Many people will say laws do not work, if that is so then why do we have laws? Because they do work, not everyone will obey them but most will and those that do not will eventually wind up in court or in jail.
Many will say we have existing laws and enforcing them will solve the problem. Again this is not true. Since existing laws are reactive not proactive and provide little punishment for the owners in these attacks, they are ineffective where it matters the most. Preventing these attacks and the resultant maiming, mauling, permanently life altering injuries, disfiguring, dismemberment, disabling and deadly effects should be our number 1 priority.
You can return a child killed to its parents after an attack, you cannot give back what is lost to a victim after a hand arm or leg has been amputated. You cannot hide or cure the effects of permanently disfiguring scars that so many suffer from the rest of their lives. We have to stop these attacks and we have to do it now.
Pit Bull Dangers Part 3
The Solutions
I feel that the steps listed below are the most sensible and effective solution possible for this issue.
1. Making sure all animals are registered and assessing stiff penalties for not doing so in a timely manner or violating other restrictions placed upon the animals and their owners.
2. Requiring proof of shots, micro-chipping and a minimum of $100,000 liability insurance for any dog weighing 30 pounds or more.
3. Requiring that an annual up to date photo of the animal is provided to animal control at the time of registration.
4. Requiring proper fencing and or kenneling is provided for animals not living in the house or home of the owner. This fencing or kenneling should meet minimum standards to ensure the safety of the public from the animal and the safety of the animal from the public.
5. All dogs weighing 30 pounds or more must be on a 4 foot chain link leash and have either a muzzle or a halter in use whenever outside the dogs fencing or home.
6. Passing a law that makes dog owners responsible for their animal’s actions and liable both civilly and criminally, yet making sure that the law is clearly written and does provide protections for animals defending the owner, family or property.
7. Passing a law making it illegal to allow anyone under the age of 18 to be in control of or be allowed to take out for a walk any dog weighing 30 pounds or more outside of its home or kennel without adult supervision.
8. Mandatory spay neuter laws are very effective, but would need to allow for exemptions some cases.
9. Preventing the owners of these animals from taking them to places frequented by children, such as schools, day cares, church, playgrounds, etc.
10. Strict regulation of breeders, pet stores, shelters and rescues.
Pit Bull Dangers Part 3A
Necessary Legislation
Dog owners must be held accountable for the actions of their animals. This should be done in the same way drivers are held culpable in areas such as drunk driving.
The fines for the regulations listed in part 3 must be heavy enough to actually motivate people not to violate them. Repeatedly violating the steps should end in jail time for offender.
We must recognize that people and human life come first, everything else comes after. Thus we have to act to stop these attacks, the injuries and deaths they cause.
Pit Bull Dangers Part 4
Myths and Misinformation Part 1 of 2
Most people can find a ton of information online easily about Pit Bulls and Dangerous Dogs. The problem is the vast majority of this information is not cited, sourced or accurate. Even when it is sourced most sources are just other sites spreading the same opinions, rumors, or misinformation. This leads many well meaning people to repeat these statements as if they are fact when in truth they are not.
Myth: Temperament testing by the ATTS proves pits are less dangerous, less aggressive etc.
Truth: The temperament test was developed by Alfons Ertelt in 1977. Mr Ertelt was not an animal behaviorist, he worked in the print industry but his passion was dogs and he was involved in schutzhund. (schutzhund is a dog sport that mirrors the training of police dog work and it is dominated by german shepherds) The ATTS test was initially intended to test working dogs for jobs such as police work. When looking at its scoring system you realize that it rewards aggressive dogs and penalizes timid or calm dogs meaning it in no way tests for the suitability of these dogs to be around people or be pets at all.
Myth: Pit Bulls have been called the Nanny Dog
Truth: This myth was started by statements made by two people. Mrs. Lilian Rant, President, Staffordshire Bull Terrier Club of America, magazine editor said they are referred to as a nursemaid dog in an interview published in the New York Times in 1971. Second in 1987 Toronto Star article where Breeder Kathy Thomas, president of the Staffordshire Bull Terrier Association said “In England, our Staffies were called the nanny-dog”. No sources or evidence just two heavily vested and bias people’s statements started this whole myth.
Pit Bull Dangers Part 5
Myths and Misinformation Part 2 of 2
Most people can find a ton of information online easily about Pit Bulls and Dangerous Dogs. The problem is the vast majority of this information is not cited, sourced or accurate. Even when it is sourced most sources are just other sites spreading the same opinions, rumors, or misinformation. This leads many well meaning people to repeat these statements as if they are fact when in truth they are not.
Myth: It is always the owner never the dog
Truth: While the owner can make a difference no amount of training, nurture or socializing an animal can change its nature, genetic heritage or instinctual behavior. Pointers will point, retrievers will retrieve, fighting dogs will fight, and this is true without training or even after being trained not to. Humans can choose to act upon instinct or not act upon it; dogs do not have that choice. Many type dogs are owned by the same type people as pit bulls, are abused like pit bulls, and are trained to fight like pit bulls. Many of these type dogs out number pit bulls yet pit bulls maim, maul and kill more people than all other dogs combined. This proves that it is not just the owner or treatment of the animal that makes them so dangerous.
Myth: BSL and Laws do not work
Truth: If laws do not work then why do we have them? Because they do work, while some may not obey the law most people do. Most of those people who do not will eventually wind up in court or in jail as it right. Thus laws do work and are needed in many areas especially in protecting human life from dangerous animals and their irresponsible owners.
Douglas Wolfe
PitBullDangers.com
07/28/2011
I love dogs and we own a dog. We are not great dog owners and unfortunately our dog has nipped a few people in our home. While that is not acceptable he is 15 pounds and really can’t do any damage. However, it is an entirely different situation with a large and powerful animal. There is a reason why is not legal to attempt to keep and domesticate large animals like bears, tigers, etc. I agree with the people who say that the majority of the ‘blame’ goes to the owner but we know that there are plenty of bad owners and people who are tremendously irresponsible. It’s kind of like that trite saying; ‘Guns don’t kill people, people kill people’. Well it’s a lot harder to shoot someone if you don’t have a gun and it’s lot less likely a small child will be injured by a powerful animal if people are not allowed to own and keep large, powerful and potentially dangerous animals. I agree that there needs to be better restrictions on owning and maintaining large animals of any type.
the incident ocurred over by the valley6 theaters in auburn,while i was out on a sunday walk.
this huge wall of muscle and teeth ran up on me so fast, i didnt have hardly time to respond.
it was with another pitbull in their yard, with no fence i might add.luckily the idiot that owned these two killing machines,came out after hearing me screaming profanities.i am carrying mace from now on, and i will spray and ask questions later…
In my view if a pet is killed or more than three stitches are needed in a human, the attacker should be put down and the owner forbidden to keep a dog for at least five years.
Gotta agree with the sign!
Actually there are very few other dogs killed by pit bull type dogs. The term pit bull describes a type of dog… not a breed. There are over 20 breeds of dogs that people will call a pit bull.. this is underscored by the woman that was killed in Pacificia. The reported pit bull weight was 125 pounds. The American Pit Bull Terrier, Staffordshire Terrier or American Staffordshire Terrier at the most weigh 80 pounds.. yet they are the breeds of dogs that will take the blunt of the blame. Most dogs that are called pit bulls are just big headed muscular dogs with no specifice breed. So when you talk about extinction of these types of dogs you must want to get rid of any big headed muscular dog… may be like a labrador or boxer.. that pretty much fits the description
As a true lover of human beings AND animals, I extend my sympathy to your friend’s family.
Pit bull promoters contribute to many injuries and deaths, both of pits, other pets and humans. They want so much to believe that pit bulls are “normal” dogs that they have convinced themselves. They tell the public that misinformation, and naive people acquire pit puppies, and more homeless/dying pits is the tragic result.
Pits are THE choice of dog fighters because of their fighting abilities and instincts created by humans thru centuries of breeding. Now that dog fighting is illegal, no one benefits from these skills. Let them gradually become extinct thru free, mandatory, spay/neuter microchipping.
“fanatical animal protectors ”
Tragically, they are not animal protectors. The daily news reports (and how many do not get reported) of other dogs/animals being killed by pit bulls would make true “animal protectors” want to work to reduce the killings.
The “pit bull promoters” or “pit bull pushers” are more accurate names.
Well said. It is never the dog’s fault as dogs do not have morals and do not understand human laws. Dogs have no control in regards to their breeding/heritage (pit bulls were created to kill), their management (off leash, flimsy fences) or their sexual status (intact dogs attack more). That means it is society’s responsibility to address these predictable attacks.
Pit bulls suffer disproportionately from severe abuse, neglect, abandonment, young death (euthanasia and otherwise).
Even if pit bulls only killed other dogs (they are the best at that), why would anyone who truly loves dogs, and wants dogs to live long happy lives, be opposed to letting pit bull breeds gradually become extinct?
Free mandatory spay/neuter microchipping for all pits and pit mixes. Everybody wins, including this handicapped breed.
And when I say “since ive met her” I mean she has never bit anyone, ever, including since ive met her which was 5 years ago.
we need to initiate ownership/handling training just like we do with other dangerous good. How many dogs who bite have had ANY training, or guidance at all? How many people are aware of dog communication/language, which is a difficult thing to read in some cases. There are videos that can be shown to kids to help them learn to read a dog’s signals of uneasiness or nervousness. I say yes, we need stricter dog laws, but we need SOME OWNER laws and public eduction. Dogs can be a wonderful addition to a life but they are animals and as such are in need of GOOD human management. I will try to find you a good video if you want to see it. Just cannot locate it at the moment.
PS. I have a friend who goes to schools to show videos and educate children about dog body language. We should have that here. Here is the link:
http://www.dogscatskids.com/index.html
As for people blaming the mother??? WTF its not her fault it rest only on the dogs owners and not supervising the kids.
- Response from Lori: The stricter dog laws would obviously apply to the owners of the dogs.
If someone has an attack dog, any person that enters that house should at the very least be informed that the dog is dangerous and that dog should wear a muzzle if it is. I can’t imagine how taking that stand could be the least big disappointing to anyone who values human life.
Dear Lori,
This is a reply to your column, “Stricter Dog Laws Needed”.
I, unfortunately, did not read your entire column as I’ve never seen the paper in our house (we just moved to Kelowna). My Dad happened to leave the latest, and what seems like, the last part of your column on our kitchen counter this evening (August 20th, 2011). I read it and didn’t understand it. My Dad briefed me on the story on how the boy startled the Pit Bull while it was sleeping.
The dog did nothing wrong.
You never disturb a sleeping dog. ANY dog would do exactly what the Pit Bull did if they were startled when sleeping. It is a natural defense because, in the dog’s mind, it thinks it’s being attacked. When a dog’s sleeping they are the most vulnerable.
Stricter dog laws are not needed in Kelowna, Pentictin, Peach Land, Kamloops, the Okanagan or anywhere in general, because the dog did what it would do naturally.
The ones that were to blame in this whole story are the parents for not educating the kid to not disturb a dog when they’re sleeping.
There is no such thing as a bad dog, only a bad owner. If the owners do not know how to train their dogs (or educate people on the dos and don’ts of being around a dog), then they shouldn’t be dog owners.
These are my thoughts.
Response from Lori: I encourage you to read the entire column. CLICK HERE if you’d like to.
I don’t know if the dog was asleep or awake when the child pet him. He says it was awake and the owner says it was asleep. To me that’s irrelevant. I disagree with you that any dog would do exactly the same thing. I have two dogs who have been woken up when we pet them and even startled awake and they certainly didn’t bite our faces off. Stricter dog laws are for the owners of the dogs and this incident is a prime example of how much we do need them. This was a dog that had already attacked another child and dog, yet the family of the boy wasn’t informed of that or even of it’s existence in the home. I do agree with you that if the owners don’t know how to train their dogs or educate people on the do’s and don’ts of being around a dog that they shouldn’t be dog owners. Perhaps stricter dog laws could enforce that through a license of some kind.
Response from Greta: I personally believe that it’s how you approach a dog that should also be taken into consideration. Maybe the boy pulled its fur accidentally when he went to pet the dog? Maybe he accidentally leaned too far forward and accidentally knelt some on the dog’s paw or tail? There could be a number of factors that are hidden from anyone’s view that we can’t know about.
However, I do agree that maybe dog education classes or something may be required if you’re a first-time dog owner so that you know how to raise a dog properly if you haven’t already owned one. The course could also be available for seasoned owners that want new information or just because. It’d be at a reasonable rate but that way you’re prepared and know what to do…just like baby classes for new parents
Andy Campbell I read somewhere that a pregnant woman was killed in SF recently by a pitbull so something clearly needs to be done; whether it’s the owner’s fault or not if you’ve got a potentially lethal weapon there needs to be limits put on it!
Lori Welbourne: The pregnant woman getting killed happened in California – I refer to that in the article. A four year old girl just lost her life in Melbourne from a Pit Bull attack. The reports never stop…
Chintu Parikh Lori, Thanks for writing this article. Also, last week, NPR SF had a good discussion on this topic. I was not ever about the extent to which Pit Bulls could cause the harm to humans especially the little ones. Needless to say but the owners have a biased view on this topic.
Anne Gray-Schroeder: I can see part of this article being very applicable, and as well there is always 2-sides to every incident. However most often than not its not the animals most of the time it’s the Dog, Cat, pet of any kind Its the owners. Sometimes the adult or child as well as they think all pets are ok to pet rech out and touch and so on. I am not playing what happened down in anyway, howevwer the owners are the biggest at fault, or somwetimes the parent when you say don’t reach for a dog when you don’t know it and especially when a owner tels them not to pet or reach for a strange dog, some rules are absolutely needed, but so is common sence and caustion for any animale. If your totally unaware of the animals behaviour stay clear unless the owner says its ok, and then still be very careful. I know it happens, but not all pitbull are bad and uncontrollable, I have seen more sweet tempered than not So we all need to be educated and aware that pets of all kinds are all different and it is how they are trained and treated that makes the difference to avoid this type of insident from happening.I hope the little guy is healerd in all ways, and he losses his fear of dogs, as there is alot of good thing for him to enjoy with a pet.
Lee Paluck: people need to be ALOT MORE responsible for thier pets and thier pets actions….why kill the animal when it is not the animals fault but the idiot owners ? …. there will always be an incident but there would be so many less attacks and such if a pets owner was more responsible…it seems pit bull owners have these dogs plus a few other breeds for the sheer “look at my cool dog” factor and not have the tact or responsibility it takes to own one of these dogs, ive seen these breeds with good owners that are not at all vicious or wanting to attack everything in sight, if you need a license to drive and even catch a fish then surely we need to have a license with a training course of some kind to raise and keep a dog of this kind
Darin Thomas West: shoot the owner, poodles bite too…. To all the owners of stupid dogs, a dog is only as smart as the person that trained it……
Kathy Scott: Darin – you say it best … T-R-A-I-N-I-N-G. Get CONTROL of your pet…be it a bird, cat, dog, horse, goat…just do it and be responsible for the actions of your choice of pet. It’s a tough job but anyone should know that, going in – something like … kids???7 hours ago · Like
Andy Campbell: To me this seems simple enough. Why don’t people have to muzzle this particular breed, it clearly has violent tendencies and lethal consequences. In the privacy of your own home or closed off yard then the dog can run free. How hard is this?!?!? To me this is a weapon in the wrong hands. There are gun law so why aren’t there pitbull laws too. A poodle is the equivalent more or less of a water gun, german sheperd a water cannon and a pit bull an oozy
In most all cases it was the fault of the owner.
In the case you reported it could have all been prevented by simply removing the dog to a safe area( NOT CHAINING IT UP) or strict supervising of the dog while people outside the family were on the property.
The dog has already indicated from a previous incident it was not happy with what it thought was a stranger on the property.
Although it’s easy to say stricter laws are needed it is also important that the right laws are asked for.
Multnomah County in Oregon http://www.multcopets.org has a very good example of a workable law to control dangerous dogs yet is fair to the owner, dog and victim.
Calgary in Alberta also has a very good dangerous dog law which again is fair.
It’s important there is not a third time for the same dog.
I’m not suggesting the dog should be put to sleep but certain strict control orders need to be placed on both the owner and dog. At least until such time it can be proven the dogs behaviour has changed.
Thank you.
Jan Eachus – Chief Inspector RSPCA (Retired)
Canine Welfare & Legislation Specialist
Helping the needs of Dogs through Legislation
I just read your wonderful (and sad) piece about the Okanagan family who tried to organize to get better laws (http://www.pnwlocalnews.com/south_king/aub/opinion/127952843.html). I just wrote a piece about this that I think this mother will find useful. She needed to have turned commenting OFF on the Facebook page. It’s very difficult with so many of the pro-pit bull crowd being the ages 18-24. They’re highly organized online and many person’s like this poor mother are derailed by them. Here is the post: How to Pass a Local Pit Bull Ordinance (http://blog.dogsbite.org/2011/08/how-to-pass-local-pit-bull-ordinance.html)
Colleen Lynn
Founder of DogsBite.org
Oh ya, love the tone of the article and the little insight you share Lori.
Following is a letter of apology from Tim Kwong, a rioter, who turned himself in to the Police. Following this is an awesome response from a nurse working the E.R. at St. Paul’s: A Letter of Appoligy to Vancouver and Family and Friends Hey Everyone ! The status is : I Turned myself in to the VPD today at 12pm I am now being charged on 4 counts. I am Truly Sorry for what i have done !!! I have no excuse for my actions during the Riot. To my Friends, Family, Coworkers, and of course all of Vancouver and BC i am SORRY for what i have done. I would like to say on my behalf that I LOVE VANCOUVER ! I’ve been Born n Raised here all my life !! and that This Town means everything to me !!! again i understand that my actions caused did not show any of that ! But i hope you one day see that i do care about this town and my friends n family and this is NOT like me !! I am ashamed at what i have done, I know i may never gain the respect of this town again. But I PROMISE that i will do whatever i can to make this up !! I am a big believer in Cleaning up your mess !! I WILL DO WHATEVER IT TAKES to make things right ! I hope this will insite some of the other rioters to do the right thing and turn themselves in !!!! I will do whatever it takes to help out and clean this town up and do what i can to prevent actions like this from ever happening in our town again. I know I deserve all the hate ! but please be respectful and don’t hate on any of my friends or family or co workers since these actions are only caused by ME and ME only !!!! Again SORRY VANCOUVER ! SORRY BC !! The below letter by Nurse J.J. was in response to Tim Kwong’s apology: Tim, Just because you can string an apologetic sentence together does not mean you are sorry. Perhaps I should make you aware of the consequences of your action. To you, it’s just an overturned car that you set on fire. To me, it’s walking into an overflowing ER and helping treat a girl with a severe asthma attack because she was exposed to the noxious, acrid smoke of a burning vehicle. To her, it was just a chance to be a part of a group cheering for her team. Little did she know that later on, we were thinking of sticking a breathing tube down her throat if her condition did not improve. To you (yes, I am lumping you with all the douche bag rioters in the ER that night) it’s a chance to congregate in the ER waiting room, pounding on the triage window demanding to be seen for teargas exposure and cuts from looting and fighting, while posturing and bragging about how you kicked the crap out of somebody and smashed shit up. To me, it’s taking my time away from the little old quiet lady having chest pain or taking time away from the person you “shit-kicked” for trying to stop the looting. To you, it’s just a fight. To me, it’s the ER social worker looking for a teddy bear to console a 4 year old girl because she just witnessed her dad get a broken nose as he was trying to get his daughter out of the hot zone. To you, it’s writing a letter saying “you will do whatever it takes to help clean the city.” To me, it’s walking home after a long shift and seeing all these people at 7:30 in the morning armed with garbage bags cleaning up YOUR mess and realizing that these people have more class in their pinky finger than you could ever muster in your whole life. To me, it’s getting home to shower, only to have my elderly neighbour knock on my door and ask me if he should make an appointment with his doctor because he was experiencing shortness of breath which later turned to chest pain in the morning. He did not think about leaving his window open as he went to bed at 9 o’clock. The smoke from all the burning cars made it to our building, into his room and triggered his asthma, which then raised his heart rate, which then became a small heart attack. I asked him why he didn’t go to the ER, and he answered, “I turned on the tv this morning and saw the rioting, I did not want to be a burden.” To you, it’s just an overturned car that you set on fire. Why am I blaming you for all this? Because you are the instigator. You ask people to leave your family, friends and co-workers alone?! I think they need to know how much of a colossal douche you are. Remember that your parents worked themselves to the bone so they can move to this country and give you your god-given right to flip cars over and set them on fire. You, Tim Kwong, are a douchtard. Apology not accepted. — from a E.R. nurse
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Thank you for sharing
Ari
Bo
On a personal note, have you purchased a blue tooth yet? You should be setting an example for others you know and not using a hand held device while driving! There is a reason why it is illegal!
cheers,
This just couldn’t have been more timely than today for me!
Cheers Helen
LORI: Yes – Tami lodged a formal complaint.
that’s the only way, this business knows, of their employees bad behaviors
all business’ should be reported, if they are doing unethical behaviors
I’m with you…doesn’t matter if it’s Mom, Dad, or Gramma who is home with the kids, as long as the kids know they are loved.
They still do all that in Arizona! No charge for buggies and bags, and the clerks pack your groceries (often putting only 1-2 items in each bag) and ask how your day is while doing it.
When are you coming to visit? We could have a cougars’ night out on the town! Susan
I enjoy your column Marie
Hope none were two way mirrors
Lori, back when I was your age… well never mind, it doesn’t matter. NOW matters.
Last year I started, along with the Humane Society, giving out dog food for the pets of low income and homeless families, since we learned that they were feeding their pets from their own meals. That harms people and pets. This year we gave out roughly 3800 pounds of dog food, all courtesy of Valley Humane Society & Walmart. A lot of happy pets and I enjoy Christmas much more.
PS…Hope your doggie is doing better.
Deb
Hi Lori,
I’m very disappointed to see you advertising on the billboards the west side. I support the idea of boycotting all the businesses who are supporting this visual pollution. It’s such a shame when our natural scenery is so beautiful. We can’t stop the billboards because they are on native land and we know they don’t care and play by their own rules but we can speak with our pocket book.
Wish she was around to meet the great grand-kids. As for The Price Is Right you would have stolen the show though, jumping around and getting laughed at by Lisa and anyone you knew who got to see the show when it aired
Oh, and I love your last line too!
It really shows kids what Christmas is all about, my kids get 3 gifts each, just as Jesus recieved 3 gifts from the wisemen, puts it in perspective.
Janie
I was really good friends with a lady for several years. We talked on the phone every day, went to dances and even vacationed together. We were really good friends. We celebrated birthdays together and had so much fun and laughter.
Then, one day she was mad at me and I still don’t know why. She told my husband that he could come in but she said that bitch cannot. We were both stunned. She was very angry at me and has not spoken to me in years. I have no idea why. I did nothing wrong. I never once said anything bad or anything and I was very hurt for quite awhile.
I tried phoning her but she would not answer my calls and never returned messages.
Finally, I decided that it was her problem and just gave it a rest.
I may never know what it was but I feel she is the loser because I am a really nice person and have some very good friends and she is missing all that.
Maybe it is also time for you to just move on without that person in your life. I’ve had to.
I find your column and your Lori and Lisa videos inspirational, fun and refreshingly honest. Keep it up Ms. Welbourne! And keep ‘em coming!
Have a great day!
Cheers,
Ronda
Photographer
Port Alberni, BC
I’ve ever had it. And, when I think of the money I’ve saved, that’s an extra bonus each month. I found that with the white hair, I look good in colors (especially bright ones) that I never really wore before.
The one thing that I do appreciate about my hair is that it’s a really pretty silvery white, not the mousey grey that I see so many women have. That mousey grey can really make someone look drab and older. The only time I ever took offence to being automatically given the senior citizens discount was one morning at McDonalds, when my coffee was free and my husband (who is older than I but had very little grey hair) had to pay for his. We still laugh about that. Also, I have discovered that with white hair, I get more doors opened for me, allowed to get in line first, and so forth. I’ll take all of that nice treatment that I can get.
I enjoyed your article and look forward to next ones.
I dye my hair with differnt colours because it is more fun. And, yes to help me look younger too.
I am not giving up dyeing my hair either…it is the best invention of all time.
I dont look that good without dyeing my hair, as there is grey in my temples and around my part line, but I would give it up if my hair was completely grey.
hope you are well,
regards
Ernie
Another great column. Took me back to when I used to have a dog when I was much younger. Just keep doing what you are doing, it is awesome every week and I always look forward to your columns.
I totally know what you mean when you see some people and you assume they have a charmed life. I’m Lisa’s second cousin (or something like that) but i’ve only met her briefly a couple times when we were really young. Growing up our families were never close no one had family reunions (on the Popplewell/Lind) side anyway. But I always thought Lisa and her sister had it made, great parents, great life and had no real problems. I was shocked to read the article and learn of all the hard ships she has endured in the past few months. Shes very encouraging though! I started running last May and hope to do at least a half marathon by next year.
Keep up the good work ladies!
Always enjoy your column and your wonderful humour at loriandlisa.com – you two always brighten my day
Cheers
R.
And also as I just lost my job it does put things in perspective.
Thank you.
Lisa, you’re obviously hanging with a pretty special lady in Lori, and for that I say bravo. Keep your head up, and thank you for sharing your personal side. I hope it’s therapeutic for you and I’m sure over time things will get better and better for you.
I don’t know you and Lisa personally, but I feel like I’ve known you both for ages. I hope to meet you both in person one day, but until such time I’ll keep reading your articles and watching your clips. You both brighten my day when I catch the clips. Nothing makes me laugh more than that face Lisa makes. Anyway, another great read Lori. Keep up the great work.
Rick
Thanks for a good read……..
p.s.I’m a foodie have you ever consider posting a really good recipe of the day on your site???? I would love to be your food guide consultant-Have you ever watched “Diners,Drivethrughs and Dives??? Fabulous show I would like to contact the Food Network and get my own show-
warmly-
Christine
And thank you for your blogs on loriandlisa.com which I have just discovered – they’re amazing and so, so real. You two are a gift to us all!
Lisa: congratulations on completing the Ironman and all you’ve accomplished in such a short amount of time. If you can turn your life around, I can too!
Bob ( sent from Bulgaria)
I sure enjoy reading your column every week… this one the most.
I never figured out what I wanted to be when I grew up and I regret that now because I’ve been working the same job for the last 21 years and it’s a job I’ve never liked. I’m always waiting for the weekend to arrive and always depressed on Sundays because I dread going back to work. What a life, eh? I’m not going to give up hope though. If you can figure out what you want to be in your 40′s I should be able to as well! Life’s too short to be miserable. Thanks for being such a consistent ray of sunshine, girl!
Denny
Leanne
Excellent article – The worst advice always starts with “I hate to tell you but…” which means they really want to tell you. How about, “you look like a wonderful mother” – you can never hear that too much
Rheta
My husband and oldest daughter really needed to read this! Not sure if i’ll help, but they both liked your article and agreed with what you said. Thanks for sharing your story and putting yourself in a vulnerable position again. You’re a brave lady to publicly admit your flaws. You’re brave to be doing those videos too! Very funny – loved the botox bruise comment and your friend yelling at those little kids. Who would do such a thing? Looking forward to more!
Cathy
Love your new logo, and your latest skit was hilarious too, especially the last few scenes of Lisa. Tinkerbell is kinda cute too!
I also work from home and am having a challenge doing that with my kids out of school. Summer camp – GREAT idea! Have a fabulous summer holidays.
Thanks for continuing to share your family experiences with us. I always look forward to them and feel like I know you guys. Hope you have a fabulous summer! Love your new website and skits too by the way! Looks like you’re having too much fun!
Ginger
By the way, I had a look at your new website loiandlisa.com, COOL, and congratulations to you both!
My wife’s always losing stuff in her purse – I call it the “black hole!”.
Just checked out your new lori and lisa website – wow! Loved it, loved the latest skit and loved the interview! You girls are too funny!
Dean
PS: My wife bought me a “murse” years ago. It’s still in the closet with it’s original stuffing.
- Joey Peanuts
Cheers
Crazy.
I just wanted to tell you how extremely funny your skits are! I’ve been really enjoying your column, but your skits are something else! People take life way too seriously – thanks for not being one of them! My husband and I love your message… keep spreading it and ignore the critics.
Debbie
PS: some people don’t have a sense of humor, it’s obvious Lori and Lisa do!
Such a cool thing your doing. Glad you are having such a good time with it.
What a contrast to your early teens. Hee Hee. Im kidding.
Just wanted to give a small bit of feed back. Hope life other than your column is treating you well.
Wylie
Your column is absolutely fantastic. I look forward to reading it each week. Every one is thought provoking. They always remind me of or make me think of similiar experiences in my life. I laugh, reminisce and sometimes even shed a tear or two. Really…isn’t that what good writing is all about…provoking thought and eliciting emotion ?
Keep up it up and know that your gallery is full of fans and very few peanuts.
Mr. Nuts pea off (just joking) lol What do you do in life that is contributing to making people smile? You need to come out of your shell cause I’ll bet you are a closet actor, why don’t you send in a tape of your own funny video!!!
Anyways each to their own and everyone has the right to their own opinion! I am glad Lori and Lisa you welcome all comments and didn’t let it get you down!
Controversy makes the peanut bowl go round! lol Well I love what you two do! Keep up the good work – you make me smile! Well, I’ve put my two peanutz worth in!!! That’s it in a nut shell from me! LOL
Never viewed your skits, so today I watched the whole one.
My thought…if you watched just one or two episodes of Seinfeld and
didn’t get into the characters then you wouldn’t have enjoyed it.
Watch a few episodes and get into the characters and it became really
funny.
As you know Seinfeld became a national hit for many years.
Keep it up. You may become a hit!
Cheers,
Phillip Beswick
People are quick to criticize – ironically about things they would never have the courage to do themselves. Good for you and Lisa for not letting people bring you down! Keep up the funny and insightful work!
Cheers
Lana (the other L name)
There are so many things the North American culture takes for granted and I don’t think people even realize how many millions are suffering in this world without the bare basics starting with water. We should be thanking our lucky stars every day! Of course, we forget quickly and gripe about not having as big a home as so and so or as much money in the bank as someone else. It’s pathetic.
Thanks for the terrific reminder and thanks for the funny video too! I loved it when that girl called your article drivel and Lisa agreed. Very funny! And the “where were you last night?” rant was priceless!
David Dhaliwal
Your friend Mark is right about how desensitized we are by the horrible poverty suffered by other nations around the world. It comes on the TV and we immediately turn the channel instead of being glued to it as you were when you were a child. It’s a hard thing to relate to in our easy existence. We think we have hardships and suffer – but we suffer nothing in comparison to how most of the world lives. Thanks for that reminder! I feel grateful for all I have and I sometimes forget how lucky I am. I sure love your column! Keep writing and inspiring is with your stories. You’re always a pleasant and thought provoking read.
Tina C.
Dean Carson
Great column and video once again this week. Not sure how you manage to keep the material interesting and fresh every week but you manage to. Congratulations on a winning formula.
PS: I enjoyed your skit, I think I dated Lisa once!
I stood in shock for a moment at the way this was delivered and thought hmmm that is never going to happen! lol
….Two and half years later we are outside this building next to his place of work and he had to get in to this little building that I had never paid much attention to. He needed to find something (until that day I had no idea that was where it was!) I was allowed to come inside and stand by the front door whilst he went into this second door! He said wait right there I won’t be long! The suspense was really too much so I edged my way to be standing right by the second door. I peered inside and I was amazed… I had never seen so much clutter (this man is so much a tidey freak at home) he promptly turned to face me whilst I was sneaking a peek and said “You don’t need to be in here I will meet you outside, I won’t be long”. I have to tell you now all those years of imaging pi- up girls and god knows what was squashed by seeing that he just wanted a place for his own clutter and that’s all!
I do have the whole apartment, I have most of the closets for my stuff, the kitchen etc! So as you said in your article it was the man cave! Since then he has gone in and thrown out 50% of the crap! I don’t care if he has boxed all the pictures and saved them, it’s his memories and I would rather it was all there and not here! LOL
So good for you Lori for finding your own WO~MAN CAVE!
Thank you for this timely piece on work ethic and providing better service. I imagine there are employers all over hanging this up on their bulletin boards.
Our daughter read your story and actually said it’s made her look at her job differently. She’s been unhappy with her position for awhile now, not because she didn’t like it, but because she had gotten to the point where she was taking it for granted. Thanks for sharing your experience with us and providing an inspiration to feel better about what we do. We should all feel lucky to even have jobs when you really think about it.
Richard Leone
Have enjoyed many of your columns…this one in particular.
Missed you on my book launch (Define Your Own Simple Luxuries)
on the Boardroom.
Hope you’ve had a chance to get into my book and have found
it timely for all the triple-taskers in the world.
Excellent article. This story is the heart of what your work is all about. Simple everyday events with plenty of insight. Boo Boo is the common man who inspired all of us to see things on a brighter note. You are in Vegas now, so I suggest you let it ride… keep up the writing, more of the same.
Thanks for sharing your experience. I know I haven’t always given my best service or taken pride in my work either. But your dad was right – it’s not the jobs that are menial – it’s our attitudes. Thanks for the reminder… it’s so true! I’ve clipped this out for my kids who have just enetered the work force in the last couple of years.
And hilarious skits by the way! I can’t believe you can keep a straight face while filming! Nice flesh colored bra and panties for Lisa – yikes! Talk about a cold shower for that poor date of hers.
I had the exact same experience years ago. Disneyland and cruise ships are NOT places to go to relax! I’ve been enjoying your column for a long time now and just wanted you to know that. You’re injecting the world with some positive energy and the positive people out there reading you (and now watching you) appreciate it! Keep up the great work and don’t worry about the naysayers. You can’t please everyone – just make sure you please yourself! Very funny skit this week! That look in your eyes at the end there was hilarious! Loved the snap of the elastic on Lisa’s chin too. She looked VERY irritated with you! Good work.
Jayne Swanson
Thanks for the crazy skit too! You and Lisa kill me! I loved it when you snapped that elastic on her neck. Hopefully you had to do a few takes for that one! LMAO
Thanks for putting yourself out there and exposing your life honestly. Not many people would have the guts to do that – probably because of people like Jim from Castlegar! My brother-in-law was in the public eye for many years when he was on city counsel and as hard as he worked for the citizens in his community, he couldn’t please everyone and was often criticized unfairly. Some people also showed a very mean spirit in their delivery. Just remember, it’s never a reflection on the person they’re criticizing – but a reflection on themselves.
Keep up the great work. I look forward to your article and your crazy skits every week. Your message is a good one!
David
When you put yourself out there in the public eye you have to accept what comes your way. People love to find fault and yet what you are doing is just talking about your day to day experiences and being open. I think you have figured out you are at risk for outspoken people and god bless them!
Kids are great…they will always do things that look like we are not looking, you turn your head for a second and something can happen! No one wants their kid to get hurt so JIM as much as your concern is valid, Lori is sharing what can happen and not hiding it. Bad parents don’t share – they hide! I jumped off the poolside at 5 whilst my mother was standing in the water right in front of me. I sat under water for a few seconds before she realized I jumped in. lol. My mom was so over protective it wasn’t funny. Things happen – it’s called life’s experiences! If you don’t like the articles don’t read them, like they suggest for TV! BUT saying that, everyone has their right to comment!
Anyways Lori, glad to hear your daughter is unharmed and you had a fabulous holiday!
P.S Did Lisa really cut your hair? ha ha ha funny stuff!
Hugs xoo
What a ton of extra work to provide your readers with double the entertainment! Thank you for that! I’m sure people have no idea what it takes to film a 5 minute video clip… but I do! It’s expensive and very time consuming!
You and Lisa are very, very funny together. Can’t wait to see how your weird friendship progresses! Is she really like that? I can’t imagine she could be… too funny! It’s a small, small world…
I went on your website to leave you a compliment and I’m stunned to read the feedback from Jim in Castlegar! If anyone could use a dose of your positive spin on things it’s him, so I’m glad he’s reading you even though you’re writing “drivel”. LOL. The most ludicrous comment he made was that you should have been charged with child abandonment and neglect. Was he there with you watching? What a foolish man. He should watch your skits – he’s definitely the Lisa character, except meaner.
Obviously I didn’t read your recent article in the same way that he did. I related to your frustration with the long line-ups in Disneyland just to go on a ride that would be over within minutes. Tripling that frustration was standing in those long line-ups with our can’t-stand-still children! Jim should babysit some little ones for a day in the happiest place on earth and see how happy he is.
I’m looking forward to your next column and skit! Ignore the critics and keep on doing what you’re doing. I love your stuff and I know tons of other people who do as well. It’s definitely not “drivel’!
And thank goodness your little girl is okay! Life can end in a blink of an eye and I appreciated your reminder of that. We usually take life and health for granted until it’s taken away. Like you said, life is precious.
Tracey
(ps: did you really cut your hair?!)
Steve, Vancouver
Jim L., Castlegar B.C.
Excellent column – very well said. I also use Facebook inclusively and have been reprimanded for it. As far as I’m concerned, social media is a great networking and advertising tool for us and shouldn’t be just used for gossiping with friends. Loved your skit too! I watched them all actually – wow! You and Lisa are ridiculous, but very FUNNY! Can’t wait for more!
As an aside, is your column available as a podcast yet? I think it would work well if it were. I regularly subscribe to an array of other podcasts which I listen to daily. All the best…and keep up the good work.
I had no idea about these skits that you were doing. I read your column all the time – but my paper has never made mention of them which is a real shame if you ask me. Luckily I noticed your coffee time icon and curiosity got the best of me when I came on to send you a message. First of all, I just wanted to tell you how much I enjoy your writing and your perspective. Secondly, your videos are quite hilarious! I’m so glad I found them. They’re very professional – you and your grumpy co-hort should be proud of your accomplishments. Not many people put so much effort into making their readers smile like you do. And you do it with unique sincerity – how lovely. Keep up the good work, Lori and Lisa. I look forward to reading and watching you next week!
Len
Is this about you or me? Too funny!
And these skits you’re doing are a fantastic addition! It reminds me of British humour.
I look forward to your column and skits every week!
Keep up the great work! You’re a breath of fresh (and funny) air! And so is Lisa!
Linda
Since my name starts with an “L” too, could I be in one of your skits? haha
Another great column! Bring Lisa out to one of our meetings that should get her perky and raise her cup to at least half full.
Keep it up, love the video to go with the column, really nice touch.
Norm
Loved your funnies with this grumpy person who not only did not realized that you were donating your precious time to a cause but also providing $50 of your hard earned money! Kudos for keeping it light.
By the way…here’s an awesome trick of mine…smile and smile away and in your mind tell them everything you really want to say to them, praise them, thank them and walk away knowing you are a funny, gracious, happy individual true to all those around you. Let Karma do its work.
keep that chin high, and keep that awesome smile of yours on…life is too short to let others drain our cup.
Ariane
I can’t tell you how many times I haven’t had a comeback until hours later and let a grumpy person like that ruin my mood. Good for you for not letting her get to you and coming up with a “clean” comeback that could make you and your friend laugh instead of perpetuate anger. Hopefully the next time the comeback comes quicker and you can use it on the person. They won’t think it’s funny – but who cares! As long as you do!
I have to tell you too, your skits are very refreshing. You and Lisa make a terrific pair!
Terry Hanson
Your column is really wonderful. I’ve been hooked on it for months! And these videos are truly priceless! Please keep doing them – they’re funnier than many of the so-called comedies I’ve seen in the theatres. You two should be making a movie. I’d love to watch the hilarious team of Lori and Lisa for much longer than just a few minutes! Great job – thanks for the laughs!
Jennifer Parker
This was one of my favourites! What parent hasn’t gone through this exact same thing! And your skit with Lisa was priceless! What friend of a parent hasn’t gone through that exact same thing? Well, maybe not quite that bad! Keep up the great work – it’s always a treat!
Hilarious blooper reels too by the way – just discovered those! Please keep doing those too!
Wayne Peterson
What a welcome breath of unclothed humor you have served us !!
To reveal the reason for our delight with your column. As for me, I was exposed (sic) to the dangers of nudism at an early age, when I was reported by passersby as bathing in my city’s swift-flowing river at the age of five, happy and – in the buff ! Later in life, at 18 and already a fitness addict I took myself off to a Naturist (read Nudist) Camp. This vacation opened my eyes, (no pun intended) to the healthful benefits of shucking one’s clothes as occasion demanded. With a wife and four children that followed, it proved to be the right approach to nudity. You will see the reason why we enjoyed your article. And the tailors never fooled me (The Emperor).
We have already sampled your column, Lori and look forward to more-er-exposure.
E and P
I love your column, Lori… and I love these new videos that I finally had a chance to watch! I won’t want to miss these – they’re absolutely hilarious!!!!!! Keep up the great work!
Funny stuff, good to see you having fun. My daughter used to say how unfair it was, especially in summer and in the pool. that “boys don’t have to wear a top but girls do.”
I hope it’s OK for me to say this… I remember sleeping over at your place back in our younger years and I guess your dad forgot I had slept over and didn’t know I was an early riser. I saw his bare legs coming down the stairs and so I said hello from the pool table – he was visible bouncing down the stairs from his toes to his torso and did a quick about-face and ran back to up the stairs. I must have spoiled his early morning skinny dip.
As for topless women in Europe, they come in all sizes and ages. I was cycling in a park in Vienna only to turn a corner to see a shriveled, and sagging buck-naked granny cycling by, free as the breeze. On the other side of the park I had passed a whole group of seniors standing around socializing in the same attire or lack there of. This was followed by a bunch of young men in g-string bikini’s playing volleyball… and around another corner to see a well endowed woman turned sunny side up. I guess you could say there was something for everyone…
I was in my early 20′s and in Austria to hear a missionary from China speak. Funny how some images impact and stay with you. This is especially true for men so they say.
Got a kick out of your naked truth article this week and wanted to share a story with you. A friend of mine with a daughters told me about a morning when her youngest walked into their ensuite while dad was stepping out of the shower. She seemed fairly blase about what she saw. Later when she was alone with her mom she said “Mommy, Dad’s vagina is disgusting!
On another note, while on vacation last year we went to a topless beach and I felt extremely over dressed in my one piece. Most women were topless and many men were nude. Oddly enough I’ve been to the nude beach in Kelowna and have done nude modeling for local art classes, but for some reason was feeling self-conscious about my body.
Lucy
I seriously can’t get over you! And these videos you’re doing now are so funny! I don’t know where you found that Lisa girl – but she’s a real character! You play off each other very well! Keep up the great work! (Hilarious cartoon by the way! Next time skip the shrubs!)
I finally checked out these skits… they’re HILARIOUS!!!!!!!!! I was already a big fan of your column, but you’ve just taken things to a whole other level of entertainment! Thank you! I can’t wait to see what you come up with next week and the weeks after that! Lisa’s a scream… you two are perfect together!
Enjoy your week Lori. Karen
Just sitting here with a cold, feeling crappy. I watched your videos and that cheered me up! You made me laugh and I feel much better now. You are so right, it’s always better to have the glass half full and put a smile on your face. Keep at it, you are doing a great job. Look forward to your column every week.
The article about networking in a sea of strangers is great and very timely! I am at an HR Association conference next week, and will use this technique to get over that initial shyness and hope to hear the “click” and meet some great people by bonding over common ground…thanks for the encouragement and inspiration from a naturally less outgoing perspective!!
Nikol
I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS!
xoxo
fRida
These videos are hilarious! You two are the perfect odd couple! What a great idea pairing these with your columns which I absolutely love! I hope you keep them coming – I look forward to seeing what you’ll come up with next!
Sam
I really like the quote on your home page about shyness just boiling down to being worried about how he or she appears to others. I’ve heard shyness being described as narcissistic because of that. If shy people heard it described that way, they would probably make more of an effort to break out of their shells like you did at that conference and dance competition, etc etc! Good job putting yourself out of your comfort zone once again. You inspire me to do the same.
(PS: I love your column and your hilarious new videos! I think I’m half Lori and half Lisa… but I’m trying to be a little more Lori! No offense to Lisa… even thought she’s ridiculously offensive!!)
Yes, the internet family of Facebook, etc is definitely helping world wide, so people see other people in a new light. Sometimes the media has a way of showing the worst of cultures. But on internet friend sites we understand the similarities of all people. Well, unless they are the politician or terrorist news makers. There are so many peace loving people in the world, we should all get together and put the nuts on an island by themselves so they could duke it out. Mind you the island would have to get bigger every day looking at the news lol. But that was a great article.
Nice article. I totally agree! Very well said.
I just wanted to say: keep dreaming big and accept what you wish for. When I first came to Kelowna from England via China I was told that there is NO JAZZ SCENE in Kelowna, that it has to be attached to Blues or NO ONE will come. Hard work and a good attitude draws like-minded people together. I read the feedback from your column and having met you I see clearly….”whatever Lori wants, Lori gets.” Keep dreaming BIG lovely lady and continue writing these wonderful ‘brighter notes’ to inspire.
I hope to enjoy reading you for many more birthdays to come!
I looked up your cartoonist’s website – wow! I can see why you thought he was out of your league. I’ve been admiring his work for months now, but I had no idea!
You know what, though? He’s not out of your league. You’re perfect together and as you continue expanding your syndication and gaining more and more readers, I’ll bet he’s happy with all the extra exposure too.
Great job on your first year. outstanding really! Reading your column every week has made you feel like a friend to me and I’m sure others as well. Thanks for that! It’s been awhile since I felt a connection like that to a writer.
Great new videos too by the way! Too funny!
Life is for living and sharing and that is what you are doing here! It is fun to watch your progress! I only met you a few months ago and there was an electricity in the air that came from you when you walked by which brings me to the name of your column ‘On a Brighter Note’ (lightbulb going off, electric “ding”) it is beyond fitting lol! Keep up the great work girlie….I am so happy for you and your success!
Jonica van Rikxoort ~ North Vancouver
I read your column every week in the Capital News, and have done so ever since April 19, 2009. Happy Anniversary!
I, too have a dream, and it’s a bit whacky. I have a fruitcake business here in Kelowna, and also write a blog on my site about life around here. Please see my site, http://www.fruitcake.ca, and check out this week’s blog at http://www.fruitcake.ca/newsletter/?p=152. (if bored).
Thanks for writing – you inspire me!
Moni
(a.k.a. Canada’s Fruitcake Queen. So-named by the radio show, Sounds Like Canada.)
I’ve been reading your column for ages and I just had to reach out when I read this one! I have a sullen teenager, so this one in particular hit home. She also reads your column and didn’t say a word after reading it the other day. But I could see it made a difference because she’s making an effort to now smile if you can believe it! We got a good laugh out of that video too. Funny stuff! Keep up the good work – you’re always such a pleasure!
One of the things I like to do is ask people how they ended up in the marriage or career they’re in. Sometimes, as with the case of your dance instructor, their story is laced with fate. It confirms for me how we need to keep our eyes open for opportunities, because you just never know. Thank you for sharing. I look forward to seeing that clip of your dance!
Jill Hawskins
I haven’t done any actual research to support my theory, just a long time pondering the practise everytime I submit to it. Then I kind of believe we are all prostitutes in some manner….
Oh, and by the way, Anna’s friend who made the remark about your big lake in Kelowna is mistaken to think that it can be used indiscriminately. I recall a news cast recently stating that if the water level were depleted, it would be take a long time to fill back up again.
My mind always drifts back to the simple life on the farm years ago when there were no power bills or water bills, but we pumped water from the well. Probably why people are out of shape now is they just turn a tap to get water versus the exercise from walking to the well and pumping water for the animals and household. Aw, the good old farm life. What ever happened to “Green Acres”?
I don’t think you are alone in this experience, I know lots of people who have done this, ourselves included, and it has often been a topic of conversation at get togethers. They do charge $100 to reconnect and everytime. That should be a deterent, but it appears for me, to only last a few years.
However, on the up side, perhaps, like me, you have just delegated or at least shared the responsibility to make sure that bill is paid with your spouse with reminders from the kids who also enjoy the benefit of water from a tap.
FYI – This strategy worked very well with taking the garbage out also, keeping the laundry up to date for clean towels, and ensuring we do not run out of important grocery items for lunches.
I would say it is freeing personally to know my world can run without me if it had to.
Great article, I always enjoy each one you write.
I just read your article about the ‘water bill’ (On a Brighter Note, Capital News, Sunday March 28th, 2010) and understand so completely the perils of forgetting to pay bills and having to pay penalties. One point that you made in your article is the one that I want to address and that is when you had to get water from a neighbor in a bucket and were reminded of being a villager in Africa. We take our water for granted.
It’s just there for us any time we want it and whatever temperature we want it at.
For 4 years I lived in China and even though the first two years were spent in 5 star luxuries, western standard style, the last 2 were spent luxury style, Chinese standard. I had running tap water but no hot water. I had to boil my water from a kettle to wash dishes then boil more to rinse. When I wanted to wash my clothes, only cold water ran through my very old fashioned washing machine that I had to plug into the sink faucet. The shower was the only time I could use the hot water as it was attached to a gas heating system – but only in the shower room. I had to use boiled or bottled water to brush my teeth because the water from the tap was not sanitary enough to rinse with.
All these daily lessons of what pollution and portion control for our life resources have taught me lessons beyond belief. Now in Canada, when I am visiting someone’s house and I see them run the tap and walk away from it just because they want to rinse a carrot or bowl and they use up gallons of precious water, it makes me cringe. I mean really cringe. It bothers me so much that all of us take for granted the accessibility of water and act so spoiled that it’s their right to waste it if they choose to.
In the same paper that your column was published, there was a big article about how much we waste water. I am truly hoping that Kelowna and the Okanagan start realizing how much we waste and take this education to heart and put it into practice.
Someone from my own family, when I confronted them about wasting water said…”Anna, water is still relatively free and we have a lake full of it. If I lived in China then I would take your comments in consideration but I live here, it’s no big deal”. Yet in the same breath when I left a light on in the kitchen and went back to watch TV, I was reprimanded for wasting electricity because that costs money. I seriously had to bite my tongue and be respectful, but I really didn’t want to!
My point is that we, ALL HUMANS, need to start being respectful of the natural resources that we have taken for granted for so many years! Rather than waste them, “because we can afford it” or just because “We can” is not cool anymore. Its cool to save our environment, its cool to recycle, its cool to not waste food, its cool to eat healthy, etc. Let’s make it cool to not waste water, and embarrass those who do.
If we could just leave the taps off and take two minute less showers and not wash our clothes just because they fell on the floor and aren’t even dirty we would have enough water to irrigate our lawns and garden. Honestly people: THINK!
Anna Jacyszyn
Living on a deserted island for a year would do us all a world of good. We might be hairier and less groomed – but we’d get back to the bare basics of survival and stop relying on our looks. Write a column about that! Better yet – I’d like to see you try it out yourself!
Fred
In my opinion men are getting as bad as women when it comes to aesthetics. It’s all about looks these day – I find it sad. My son shaves his body, gets his eyebrows waxed, gets manicures and spends hours in the gym everyday. He tells me all his friends do it too and he’s not unusual. When is the madness going to end I wonder?
I was really grossed out by Monique and her hairy legs – but who am I to judge? As you point out, it’s a pretty stupid rule we ladies are expected to follow when the men sure don’t!
Love your column, Lori. I never know what you’re going to come out with next!
Jan
My mother didn’t grow hair on her legs and her sisters are all envious of her.
Actually, I think my wife mentioned her mother didn’t have hairy leg growth either. Make up is a waste of time. Men don’t want paint on their shirts and face from coming into contact with painted ladies lol.
This seems to be the story of my life. And I don’t have challenges like some of the paralympics or olympics athletes… no excuse except for poor confidence in myself which is an excuse not a reason. I’m starting again and not quitting.” alt=”" />I set goals… then miss them. Then I set goals… and miss them. Then I set goals… and miss only some of them. Then I get fed up and think I’ll never get anywhere – not noticing that I AM getting “somewhere” … Then I set goals…
This seems to be the story of my life. And I don’t have challenges like some of the paralympics or olympics athletes… no excuse except for poor confidence in myself which is an excuse not a reason. I’m starting again and not quitting.
I think you will do a great job! You are correct that this is for a good cause.
Best of luck on Mar 26/10.
PS: Love your columns!
It takes real courage to get up in front of a big crowd and do something you’re not an expert at – good for you for having the guts! I hope you enjoy the experience as much as you should. It’s certainly not going to be about your performance – everyone in that room will be pulling for you and the other brave contestants! Bravo for all your fine efforts! And thanks for the hilarious story – your poor instructor! Just kidding!
Tracy Campbell
My husband and I receive and read several newspapers every day of the week..
We are addicted to newspapers….
But news can be so depressing and it was so refreshing to read On a Brighter Note…
I was able to connect with what you are talking about…
We seem to be be living our lives on a treadmill… and something has to give….
I imagine “On a Brighter Note” becoming a huge success in Canada and the US…
Can’t wait to get it delivered direct to my email addy….
Your column is great…. I identified with several of them, especially the Coffee break one… and the lost key as well…
I now limit myself to one Venti Pike a day with the odd afternoon wet cappuccino… If I miss a morning stop at Starbucks, because I could not find my car key I feel out of sorts and not my usual happy self. On those days, by by 9:30, my co-workers are begging me to do a coffee run…
Looking forward to more of your “brighter notes” as I’ve signed up for a home delivery…
Sitting here with Linda Santema (Muri) at Whistler having a glass of wine and she mentioned your site–what a great article and so “been there, done that!”. Will read more later!
Cheers,
Carolyn Sluis (Arthur’s cousin)
..now, I do Starbucks maybe twice a month. I find I can buy more shoes;-)
My apologies to Tim Horton’s and; Starbucks. Do you think they will still allow me in for a monthly treat? Great column, Lori!
HUGS!
Love the logic and your grandmother’s wisdom.
We tend to think about daily expenditures vs the costs to us over a lifetime.
Think, for a moment, beyond Starbucks and consider other companies whose shares you could own and whose products you use: Coca-Cola, Procter & Gamble (makers of Tide Laundry Detergent, Crest toothpaste, etc), Wal-Mart, Canadian Charter Banks (think bank fees, ATM fees, mortgage interest payments, mutual fund fees, etc.), Shaw or Roger’s (Cable and Cel phone providers).
Great column. Keep it up!
Gordon Wiebe
Thanks for sharing your experience. I can’t tell you how many times I have talked to my older children about this very thing and they look at me like I’m a cheapskate. Your article actually got them figuring out how much they could save if they make different choices for themselves. Not just about coffee, but all sorts of frivolous things that none of us really need. Here’s hoping they don’t forget by tomorrow. Just in case, I put your article up on the fridge. They’re not the only ones who could use the reminder. We all look forward to drinking some home brew tomorrow morning and saving whatever we don’t spend in our own little piggy banks. Thanks again. You’re always a great read!
Dave Baker
(wonderful cartoons by the way!)
Anyone want to quit coffee cold-turkey with me?
Debra
I thought I’d let you know how much I enjoy your column!
Coffee, tear or financially free is one of my favourites, maybe because so many people, including myself, can relate to it. I went to school downtown Vancouver for a while, and that’s where I got hooked… along with the 20 other girls I went to class with. While we’re spending over $18,000 on a one year Diploma (most of us on student loans) we seem to be able to justify our Starbucks treat as just that, a treat. Something we feel we deserve, yet where is this money coming from?
Now every time I want a coffee but I don’t purchase one I put what I would have spent ($4) into a savings account. Generally this doesn’t work, so instead of going to such a large company such as Starbucks, I go to Bean Scene, or any locally owned coffee shop to help support local businesses… It truly is an addiction isn’t it?!
Hope all is well, and I look forward to your next column!
Angela Moser
To think like a champion is the most rewarding way to live life! Kudos to you for acknowledging that and putting it into a relatable and timely comparison. We can’t always control what comes our way – but we can control our mindset and how we choose to deal with anything and everything. Keep going for gold, girl! I have no doubts you’ll succeed just like those Olympian athletes you admire.
Jay H.
How true that it’s the little decision we make each and every day that make our dreams a reality. Too many of us are brave enough to make that big initial decision to put us on the right path, but lack the perseverance to follow through to the end. Thanks for the inspiring words. I really like the comparison to an Olympic athlete. Makes me want to go for the gold!
Dean Chapman
I love your column! This one made me laugh (I’m like a cat watching TV when there’s sport on too!) and cry (when your son asked why that young luger had to die).
Even though the Olympics is just a skytrain away I was avoiding it. Since reading you I’ve made the short trip into Vancouver for the day and the energy was electric! I didn’t get to see any events, but just being there was an experience I’ll never forget. Thank you for inspiring me to do that! I’m sure I would have regretted it if I hadn’t gone. I hope you got that chance too.
Stacey Wilde
From my home I can see the fireworks every night and hear them when I am laying in my bed, yet until now I had no burning desire to take the sea bus and see what was on the other side….!
The flame has burned bright, and yet it did not call my name lol but I will go now!! Thanks to your family and you for awakening me the Canada spirit!
Great column! I look forward to whatever you’re about to say next and enjoy your spin on the everyday and the ordinary.
I relate to your stories, this one in particular! Too funny!
Keep up the great work!
I’ve been reading your column for months and I have to say it’s my favourite thing in the paper. I always look for the cartoon first (they’re fabulous!) and your smiling face second, and then I set in for an enjoyable read over a cup of coffee. I save the paper for my daughter who has also been reading you faithfully – thank you for that! She’s never taken an interest in the paper before and now she’s flipping through it for the first time. She’s 15 – so good for you for being able to snag such a wide demographic.
Keep ‘em coming!
Jenelle Brandon
You sound exactly like me except I’m always losing my readers. It’s constant. I want a homing devise for those things! I even bought 3 extra pairs and it still didn’t help! Thanks for the laugh, it’s good to hear this happens to other people too!
I just got back from Indio, Ca. ( Palm Springs ) area and it was so nice to get your columns on my laptop while laying beside the pool. Keep up the good work and all the best to you and your family!!!
Bob Detwiller
I think I need to read this every day! Thanks for reminding me how much I have to be grateful for. It’s so true that we don’t know how lucky we are to have something until it’s gone.
Your chiropractor, Dave Manns
Your column is like going for coffee with a friend! I feel like I know you I’ve read you so much!
Keep ‘em coming!!!!!!
I hope you have recovered from your injury.
Thanks for the spirited reminder.
Kids: they dance before they learn there is anything that isn’t music. ~William Stafford
How can we know the dancer from the dance? ~William Butler Yeats
There is a bit of insanity in dancing that does everybody a great deal of good. ~Edwin Denby
Please send me your last pair of shoes, worn out with dancing as you mentioned in your letter, so that I might have something to press against my heart. ~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
I would believe only in a God that knows how to dance. ~Friedrich Nietzsche
Never trust spiritual leader who cannot dance. ~Mr. Miyagi, The Next Karate Kid, 1994
We’re fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well dance. ~Japanese Proverb
On with the dance! let joy be unconfined;
No sleep till morn, when Youth and Pleasure meet
To chase the glowing hours with flying feet.
~George Gordon, Lord Byron, Childe Harold’s Pilgrimage
Nobody cares if you can’t dance well. Just get up and dance. ~Dave Barry
Dancing is like dreaming with your feet! ~Constanze
The truest expression of a people is in its dance and in its music. Bodies never lie. ~Agnes de Mille
Dancing faces you towards Heaven, whichever direction you turn. ~Sweetpea Tyler
Dancers are the messengers of the gods. ~Martha Graham
Dancing is wonderful training for girls, it’s the first way you learn to guess what a man is going to do before he does it. ~Christopher Morley, Kitty Foyle
You can dance anywhere, even if only in your heart. ~Author Unknown
Dancing: the vertical expression of a horizontal desire legalized by music. ~George Bernard Shaw
Dancing in all its forms cannot be excluded from the curriculum of all noble education; dancing with the feet, with ideas, with words, and, need I add that one must also be able to dance with the pen? ~Friedrich Nietzsche
Dance is the only art of which we ourselves are the stuff of which it is made. ~Ted Shawn, Time, 25 July 1955
Dancers are instruments, like a piano the choreographer plays. ~George Balanchine
There are short-cuts to happiness, and dancing is one of them. ~Vicki Baum
To dance is to be out of yourself. Larger, more beautiful, more powerful. ~Agnes De Mille
Remember, Ginger Rogers did everything Fred Astaire did, but backwards and in high heels. ~Faith Whittlesey
Dancing with the feet is one thing, but dancing with the heart is another. ~Author Unknown
Dance till the stars come down from the rafters
Dance, Dance, Dance till you drop.
~W.H. Auden
It is of course possible to dance a prayer. ~Glade Byron Addams
In a dancer, there is a reverence for such forgotten things as the miracle of the small beautiful bones and their delicate strength. ~Martha Graham
It takes an athlete to dance, but an artist to be a dancer. ~Shanna LaFleur
I don’t want people who want to dance, I want people who have to dance. ~George Balanchine
Dancing can reveal all the mystery that music conceals. ~Charles Baudelaire
Dance first. Think later. It’s the natural order. ~Samuel Beckett
Stifling an urge to dance is bad for your health – it rusts your spirit and your hips. ~Adabella Radici
I am a dancer. I believe that we learn by practice. Whether it means to learn to dance by practicing dancing or to learn to live by practicing living…. In each it is the performance of a dedicated precise set of acts, physical or intellectual, from which comes shape of achievement, a sense of one’s being, a satisfaction of spirit. One becomes in some area an athlete of God. ~Martha Graham, c.1953
Let us dance in the sun, wearing wild flowers in our hair… ~Susan Polis Shutz
Dancing is the poetry of the foot. ~John Dryden
Dancing is the loftiest, the most moving, the most beautiful of the arts, because it is not mere translation or abstraction from life; it is life itself. ~Havelock Ellis
Dance is the hidden language of the soul. ~Martha Graham
Dancing is moving to the music without stepping on anyone’s toes, pretty much the same as life. ~Robert Brault, http://www.robertbrault.com
Dancing is just discovery, discovery, discovery. ~Martha Graham
Through dancing many maidens have been unmaidened, whereby I may say it is the storehouse and nursery of bastardy. ~John Northbrooke
Shake it ’til the moon becomes the sun. ~Vada Nobles, Carl Sturken, Evan Rogers, and Alisha Brooks, “Pon de Replay,” performed by Rihanna
Movement never lies. It is a barometer telling the state of the soul’s weather to all who can read it. ~Martha Graham
Dance is a song of the body. Either of joy or pain. ~Martha Graham
The dance is a poem of which each movement is a word. ~Mata Hari
We ought to dance with rapture that we might be alive… and part of the living, incarnate cosmos. ~D.H. Lawrence
Next time you’re mad, try dancing out your anger. ~Sweetpea Tyler
Dancing is the world’s favorite metaphor. ~ Kristy Nilsson
And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music. ~Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche
I do not know what the spirit of a philosopher could more wish to be than a good dancer. For the dance is his ideal. ~Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche
Light quirks of music, broken and uneven,
Make the soul dance upon a jig to Heav’n.
~Alexander Pope, Moral Essays
Do you think dyslexic people have difficulty dancing to “Y.M.C.A.”? ~Dave Sokolowski
Music begins to atrophy when it departs too far from the dance. ~Ezra Pound
I see dance being used as communication between body and soul, to express what it too deep to find for words. ~Ruth St. Denis
Talk about dance? Dance is not something to talk about. Dance is to dance. ~Peter Saint James
Dance, even if you have nowhere to do it but your living room. ~Kurt Vonnegut
Poetry is to prose as dancing is to walking. ~John Wain
To watch us dance is to hear our hearts speak. ~Hopi Indian Saying
They who love dancing too much seem to have more brains in their feet than in their head. ~Terence
Dance is a delicate balance between perfection and beauty. ~Author Unknown
Socrates learned to dance when he was seventy because he felt that an essential part of himself had been neglected. ~Source Unknown
Anyone who says sunshine brings happiness has never danced in the rain. ~Author Unknown
Common sense and a sense of humor are the same thing, moving at different speeds. A sense of humor is just common sense, dancing. ~William James
As the owner of a funny little 11 year old scoundrel that we consider one of our cherished 4 legged children, I’ll tell you what I’ve learned about piddles and poops in the house: they never really stop! This isn’t my favourite part about having a dog – but I blame myself for not being as scheduled and tuned in as I could be. Your mother in law is right – dogs are a lot of work – but so is anything worth having. That’s why we have children and families. And dogs are special in their own way. Who else is going to greet us with so much excitement and love – even if we were just out of the room for a few minutes? Thanks for the laugh!
Thank you for putting yourself out there for this lovely cause. I have had some personal experience with hospice house, so this article hit home for me. Some of my fondest memories in life, some of the things I’m most proud of, are the times I ventured out of my comfort zone as you are doing now. Allthough I never did it so publicly, I applaud you and your competitors. Good luck and remember to have fun, life is too short not to. I certainly hope the event raises lots of money.If I could write you a big cheque I would. I look forward to reading your next story, I never know what to expect.
Dorothy
But as you said, it is for a great cause. So I wish you and all the people involved the best of luck.
Kudos!
There are some big differences between Dancing with the Stars and Swinging with the Stars! Most notably, the celebrity advantage. Something tells me that the competitors in this competition aren’t practicing every day, all day for months on end. But great job on having the guts to do it anyways! Hopefully you won’t be too embarrassing. (kidding)
My dear aunt passed away in hospice a few years ago and they provided a really beautiful and loving environment for people to spend their last few days. This is a worthy cause you’re donating your time and efforts to and I applaud you and everyone involved for giving of yourself in that way.
I wish I could be there to cheer you and the other dancers on! I hope you raise lots of money for hospice and have a ton of fun in the process!
June
Halitosis is a serious problem for some. Please keep that in mind the next time you offer someone a piece of gum and “insist” they take it.
I do look forward to each of your articles. Thanks for the laugh.
I have had dealings with several people in my life with terrible breath and have never been able to work up the gumption to tell them. I’ve offered them gum – but I never insisted like you did. Good idea – I’ll try that. But sometimes I wonder if they know (how can they not smell themselves?) and just don’t care.
Nancy
I can’t remember the last time I wrote in a journal, but you’re quite right when you say it’s cleansing! It really is! Thanks for inspiring me to start writing again. I remember you making mention of a gratitude journal in a previous article and I meant to buy one then but didn’t. I now have a beautiful new one and have even scheduled time in my day timer each day to do it over a cup of coffee.
Sylvia
I just read your article and completely agree with your friend’s approach to cleansing his mind once a day. Good for you for listening to an old fellow. It’s good to know that we’re still heard in our senior years!
I can pinpoint different times in my life where I was more productive and happier, and it was all due to the power of the pen and my ability to clear through the junk and focus in on what I really wanted.
I can also see that there were many dark times when I abandoned this healthy way of dealing with life to instead drink too much, which made my “crummy” situation even worse. Through counseling, I was encouraged to journal frequently, especially when feeling depressed or out of control.
I don’t drink anymore, but I still need to write, You’ve reminded me of that. I set my alarm clock for 1/2 an hour earlier tomorrow so I can start my day off right!
John Moore
AriWell said Lori…too many people forget about being grateful….as simple as it is the fact that one can wake up every morning and open their eyes to see the alarm clock…that alone is something to journal….
Ari
What a “great reflection and intention” article.
I just read your column in the Langley Times. Did your husband really say that?! I hope you grounded him and took away his allowance for the week!
I just wanted to let you know that I’ve enjoyed reading your columns. I love this kind of writing – regular everyday life stuff. And thanks for keeping it positive. There’s enough negativity – we don’t need more. As I always tell my kids, positive attracts more of the same!
I love all the cartoons on your website too! They work well with your stories! Keep up the great work!
Jean
Your story about the adventures of your puppy was brilliantly described………..I am an animal lover also.. the antics in my life are from my ginger haired cat “Mikey” whose asdventures brighten up my life. He arrived as a kitten shortly after I became widowed. First adventure was his contact with a skunk !!!! ……..what to do? I put him in my deep bathtub… rubbed some shampoo and turned on the shower spray above…what an ordeal… trying to shampoo and rinse !!! A giant leap and he was out of the tub and racing around the house soaking wet !!!! Both of us survived…whew… Ever try to ciip a cat’s toenails?? Another adventure…….. and then there are the presents he brings to my patio door !!!! A mouse !!!
Thanks for brightening up my day……….
A Senior Fan………..
I have to admit, the cartoon is what caught my attention first… but the story was terrific. I don’t have a dog anymore, but we did when the kids were young and we had some pretty amusing rescue scenes that I’m fondly remembering now. Almost makes me want to get a pet again. Almost…
Thanks for the smiles. I hope I see another story from you soon.
Susan
Rheta
I really liked this article. It’s never occurred to me to truly think of each new day as fresh start and a new beginning and make THAT my new years resolution. I agree – it could be life transforming! It’s interesting how the most common sense ideas seem like new inventions, even when you’ve heard them all your life.
I’ve clipped your column out of the paper and saved it as a future reminder – which I’m sure I’ll need.
Thanks for this and all your stories. I look forward to them every week and love the cartoons too! They’re perfect together. Good luck with your goals this year!
Barbara Ross
Thank you you for writing such an inspiring article about New Years resolutions. I have often made them with the best of intentions only to fail completely and feel like a giant failure, vowing to never make them again. This year, I will be making them once again, but this time, like you, I won’t be pressuring myself to accomplish them without some set backs. If I falter, I’ll just pick myself up again and restart another little race! Once again you’ve given me a different way of looking at something – thank you!
Laura
Every day is a new opportunity to begin again. This very moment is a great time to leave the previous moments behind and start afresh. How fascinating.
Happy New Beginnings to all.
It’s funny how much I relate to your columns – I feel like I know you and we’ve been friends for years.
Cousins were the best part about Christmas for me as well and they’re what my children look forward to the most too.
I hope you had a great Christmas with your family. I’ve had my fill of festivities and relatives and am now looking forward to the new year and getting back to normal. I’m also looking forward to your next column – keep up the great work… and happy new year!
Mary Stewart
A great column that reminds me of my Christmas’
Merry Christmas to you and your family
Karen Boies
Another great column , always enjoy them. Wishing you , Paul , Sam and Daisy all the VERY best this festive season and a wonderful Happy 2010 !!!
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Another great column , always enjoy them. Wishing you , Paul , Sam and Daisy all the VERY best this festive season and a wonderful Happy 2010 !!!
Bob
I had to laugh at the reference to being scared of Santa and this cartoon! Our experience with Santa is always the same and I’ve had to give up wanting that perfect Santa picture like other people seem to get until my little ones are older. I’m sure, like you and your family, we’ll look back on these photos of our crying kids with affection. Actually, I already am! You have a great ability to share the ordinary and make life feel extraordinary. Kudos! Can’t wait to read your next one… I never know what to expect – except that I’ll feel good after reading it. Merry Christmas and God bless.
Lillian Friend
I’m sure enjoying your column! I love the cartoons too. Today’s was priceless!
Funny, Christmas is about the only time we seem to see the cousins and much of the family as well. It’s too bad really – but we all lead such busy hectic lives. Thank goodness for Christmas for forcing our little visits! I know it’s the only thing I really remember about Christmas when I was a kid and probably what my kids will remember the most as well.
Thanks for bringing back some fun memories for me and making me feel a little less grumpy about the holidays!
Have a great Christmas and New Years with your family and cousins if you still see them. Thanks for your great articles!
Bonnie Bryant
“That’s why they call it puppy love” brought back all the happy times when my children were young. My family was one husband, two children and a number of cats and dogs throught the years, each one was the favorite! Families that don’t have four legged children, don’t know what they are missing! My house was full of fun, laughter and love and the happiest time of my life.
Thanks for the laughs and tears,
Connie
I read and enjoy your column all the time, but I just had to comment on this one. I can’t agree more with the whole idea of simplifying Christmas. I hope people will take your advice if they’re feeling stressed or overwhelmed. I know my wife and I will. Thanks for your fresh outlook. You’re consistently entertaining and informative.
John
I am with you! I sent a letter to the editor commenting on it!
Great stuff, great sense of what is important!
Barbara Boldt
http://www.barbaraboldt.com
I love Christmas and hate Christmas at the same time. The reason I love it is the spending time with family and friends. The reason I hate it is exactly the things you wrote about – the stress and overspending. Oh, the overspending! Believe it or not, I start Christmas shopping a year in advance… so I end up buying way more presents than I mean to.
Thanks for sharing your perspective. It’s interesting to me that someone has gone through the exact same thing and actually did something about it to make the holidays more enjoyable. Good for you! I’ll be trying that out myself in the year 2010. It’s a little too late for me this year!
Danielle Young
I read your column and I agree that there is too much pressure on the season. My answer to the question…”Are you ready for Christmas”?… is…Yes, I’m ready for it to be over. Don’t let myself get caught up in the hype. I celebrate December as my “birthday month”! lol
Cheers,
The Birthday boy
I discovered your website through a column I read online with the Langley Times. I have to tell you, I really loved it. So much so that I wrote their editor.
It’s rare to read something about pets that is so lovingly and sincerely written. And with so many of us adoring our pets, I’m sure there were tons of people out there who enjoyed reading about your experience. I’ve read through some of your other columns and have thoroughly enjoyed them as well. I look forward to reading more – past and future. Keep up the great work. I love your positive energy and outlook!
I am a Martha Stewart lover and have a big list of things I love to do. I agree with your attitude…as soon as I grumble I say to myself…hey you wanted to do this. And this year I have had to cut out a few things as we change and the kids get older.
I agree friends and family is what the holidays are about.
Cheers Jax
I’m one of those people who wish the whole month of December away. I hadn’t really looked at it that way – but it’s exactly what I do, and I can’t really remember a time I enjoyed the Christmas holidays. I guess there’s a different way to look at the season though. I’ll try your list idea and start crossing off all the stuff that I resent and start adding things I know will bring me and my family more joy.
Thanks for sharing your experience and perspective. I truly love your column!
The Magic of the Christmas Season for me is the spirit of giving that erupts from each person during the month of December. Whether it’s a gift to someone else or a gift to yourself, this season evokes feelings of tenderness that inspire us to give to ourselves or to give of ourselves to others.
Even in the chaos, regardless of your belief system or your traditions more people give during the month of December.
I am fascinated and awed by the Christmas spirit of giving that occurs each December and the impact it has on the world. Isn’t that Santa, really? The little elf inside of us that thinks of what to give others and feels so joyous and grateful for what they also receive?
Time to bake cookies for your child’s classroom, thoughtful homemade cards, sweaters you knit for your family. ….or more realistically, money in the Salvation Army donation box at the liquor store, a can of beans in the food bank box at the school concert, a large screen TV for your husband,a box of chocolates for the mailman or just giving to yourself the enjoyment of time spent with family and friends while fighting the crowds at Future Shop on Boxing day.
December forces people to pause, look around them, and appreciate the people in their lives and recognize there are other people in the world that need attention including themselves and we respond by giving and that to me is the Magic of Christmas.
May the Joy of the Spirit of Christmas touch your lives and all your Family and Friends.
It’s fantastic how much love we can have for our animals isn’t it? Your kids are very lucky that they’ll grow up knowing this special kind of love. Unfortunately our daughter is allergic. It’s a real shame – she would have been a great “mother” as well. Thanks for sharing your story “grandma!”
I know exactly how that all came to be.
Your life will never be the same now.
You know who will be taking those dogs out or walks and brushing them
though??
Well if it’s the same as my house.
It will be your hubby.
So you better warn him now.
He will deny, as I, but we men are suckers for that unconditional love.
Another smile on my face.
Keep up the good work.
Dale Sali
Allegra Print & Imaging.
What a wonderful article – thank you. We just lost our pet a few weeks ago. She was such an important part of our family for almost 10 years and she was tragically hit by a car right outside our home. We have been completely devastated by her untimely loss. People who have never had a dog have a hard time understanding how painful this loss can be, but those of us who have had a pet that’s important to us understand well. I’m not sure if we’re up to a puppy (let alone two!!), but we would like to get another dog soon. Like you said, they bring more love to your home.
I enjoy your column very much and look forward to reading it more than anything else. Neat website too!
Tammy Jones
Dogs are very social animals and for the short time that they are in our lives bring us an almost immeasurable amount of joy, frustration, elation and provide some of the fondest memories of all time.
Thanks for the great article in the Cap News yesterday! We are currently on a campaign to slow down the speeding in our area of Springvalley. It is very nice to see an article that addresses this very pervasive problem in Kelowna. A lot of drivers here seem to think it is their right to speed and the faster they go the more aggressive they get. We have people speeding through our neighborhood at well over 100 km every day and night. We have a copy of a study done by the city and ICBC that shows the speeds that people are traveling through here daily and it is scary. This has got to be stopped before more people are killed by these idiots!
Great job!
Deb and Bruce
Springvalley Concerned Residents’ Committee
Upward & onward….
I wanted to let you know that I have been reading your columns over the past few months and I absolutely LOVE them!
You make me laugh and cry and smile and, and, and…
I just wanted to tell you that I appreciate your words! You are inspiring to me and always so real! It’s an amazing thing to have that kind of impact on people =)
~Have a great Day~
I’ve often wished I could turn into a cop myself when I see people driving so dangerously. How terrific to actually see it happen! I’ll bet that cop loved being a cop in that moment! I enjoyed the other part of your story too. Interesting perspective to have when getting a ticket. Every time I’ve gotten a ticket I’ve bitched and whined about it. Maybe if it happens again I’ll see it as the reminder that you do, because you’re right, causing an accident would be a million times worse!
Also Lori, your billboard is GREAT !!!! Had my son-in-law with me this morning as we drove by it and he noticed the sea of blue that is so noticeable along with your photo. Keep up the good work and keep those columns coming.
Bob Detwiller
Cheers,
Mike
I never know what to expect with you, and to be honest, I didn’t really like that initially. Sometimes you write about sensitive serious issues, and other times you write about fluff. I’m more into the news. But, like my sister predicted, you’ve grown on me and I find myself turning to your column every week before anything else. Thanks for staying positive with each article. There’s no sarcasm or bite to your words. I read enough of that, so it’s nice to read something different for a change. Keep up the good work – I think your attitude is contagious.
I hate gum – always have… but somehow I still enjoyed your story. You have a gift for making the ordinary more interesting, and for making me remember things in my own life that I otherwise would have forgotten about. Today I’m remembering the dramatic day I had to cut gum out of my daughter’s hair and the results weren’t pretty. My wife wasn’t too pleased with me either. Apparently peanut butter would have done the trick.
Like I said, I hate gum… but I really enjoy your column. Keep your stories coming!
Ben
Anyway, I really enjoyed reading your story, thanks.
ps Love your column!
I’d ask you where you come up with your story ideas – but I already know – my life! And everyone elses including your own I would guess! Thanks for another good chuckle. It got me remembering all sorts of similar incidents. Keep up the good work!
BTW: I think your gal at the coffee shop – The “close sitter” may have had Asperger’s Syndrome (on the Autism Spectrum) Often ASD kids/adults are unaware of other peoples space and personal boundaries. They want to make friends, but are unsure how. So they can plunk themselves into situations where they feel they are participating in a conversation and can feel rewarded by that interaction – even if they aren’t participating…..
Take care… looking forward to your next article ~ Daynna
I get your column here in Kelowna. (Close encounters for a third time – Sunday November 15)
The behavior your speaking of I believe is the same sort of thing I see here in Kelowna. In Kelowna, you will see 4 by 4 black jacked up trucks zooming up to the next stop light at speeds of 50 to 60 miles an hour. The trucks all come with barking German Shepards in the back of them. I believe that this sort of ignorant behavior is based on a need for attention and a need to feel important.
I see it again and again here in Kelowna. I see it with the cell phones which people are using while inside their cars when they are making left hand turns. My dad calls this “The need to be noticed!”. We live in a society where people now need attention from other people on a minute by minute basis.
A good example is my neighbour who lives next to me, and owns a small poddle, which barks continually on a daily basis. I’ll see him outside all the time with the dog in tow, talking to anyone he can, all for the apparent need to be noticed!! This town thrives on ignorance. People here have a special pride in being ignorant in terms on manners or anything else, and wear this ignorance like a badge of honor!!!
Cheers!!
I read your article over breakfast this morning and found it most thoughtful and thought provoking… . . I have only responded to one newspaper article ever, so this e-mail to you today I must qualify by saying it was very significant and much worthy of comment.
Keep up the good writing and storytelling – I’m sure you will hear from others!
I try not to get pissed about things or judge. It doesn’t always work, but that just gives me another goal to improve.
I’ve read Ruiz too. A bit of a hard read, but the sentiments are good.
We live in a world of trash talkers unfortunately. And the internet is making it worse. People are too brave and mean spirited when they’re behind a computer and hiding behind fake names. I’m surprised you didn’t mention that in this article, but maybe that’s an article in itself.
By chance, I met author and motivational speaker Leo Buscaglia at a U.S. book show as he was walking down an aisle. He was well known for his warm hugs and sure enough, he immediately gave me a huge hug. I had read several of his books, including Living, Loving and Learning and was so impressed with him. The first time I’d heard him was during a television interview. The interviewer was asking him, “So why are there so many wars and so much hatred in the world? Why are horrible things done to children?” and Leo answered, “How the hell do I know? All I do know is that love does make the difference so just love each other, as much as you can.” It’s such a shame that Leo died several years ago. He was a great man who has left so much with us.
I love this article – “A balanced boy in more ways than one.” Its simplicity of how to overcome a challenge is an inspiration to us all. Thanks for the reminder!
Jan Bartnick (co-worker to your hubby)
This is the first time I’ve ever written a stranger, but I read your column so often that you don’t feel like a stranger to me anymore.
I’ve really enjoyed reading you. You’re easy to read and easy to relate to. But this week’s article (A balanced boy in more ways than one) really hit home for me. I felt exactly the way you did the first time my daughter did a cartwheel after hours and hours of practice. Now she’s back flipping all over the place like it’s nothing. It’s wonderful how our children can make us see things with a fresher perspective and appreciate their vast capabilities. Let’s hope they keep hold of their courage and continue to make things happen!
June
I’m a reader of the Kelowna Capital News (your columns, Judie Steeves and others) and a few other newspapers available in hard copy locally…once in a long while we get our hands on a Sunday New York Times…takes ’til Thursday to read it all and love it…LOL !
Also receive via Email subscription: news summaries focusing on our interest areas – sources are: from newspapers, wire services, monitored web sites, blogs and other information aggregation services and sources world wide…
When traveling anywhere….I make a point of getting local community newspapers… they provide valuable insights into what’s happening in those communities…after road trips I usually wind up with the bottom of my suitcases filled with the local community papers I’ve collected along the way…sometimes I’ll follow up with reporters or columnists by Email after a trip and try to stay in touch – one example is reporter and columnist with “The Astorian”…a good source of watershed news…
I sympathize with the experience you describe about your “unaware” friends…there’s a lot of that going on now – more than what you might imagine !!…especially with the focus on the truly trivial of the Twitterers, the Facebookers and the other “social” networkingphiles…each seem to derive their interest topics from The Enquirer, The Globe and their ilk eg: FOX “News”, ET, TMZ, etc…it seems to us, if Paris Hilton as much as farts or wears a different shade of lipstick…it results in a million “hits” on Twitter and other similar services, letting the “connected” universe know about these and other equally earth shattering and momentous events…Good Grief!
We’ve come to the reluctant conclusion since moving here …by and large, with a few notable, surprising and pleasant exceptions, the general population of Kelowna we’ve encountered, is: clubby, close-minded, cliquey, churchy, and cloistered – news events, like those you describe in your 30AUG09 column, don’t seem to register in main-stream consciousness that often…again reluctantly we have been driven to our opinions slowly – > for example: women we’ve met here seem to have as their primary conversation focus: hair, nails and tans…I know that’s grossly unfair…but there you have it none-the-less
Your columns and those of several of your KCN colleagues are refreshing.
Keep up the good work
Thank you…
Lisa
Your article was very well done. Thank-you.
Have a Happy Thanksgiving Lori.
Bob
Great column. Got some dental work done there last Jan. at a fraction of the cost by the way. Overall your columns, in my opinion are extremely well written, precise and to the point.
Thanks for making me feel better about just forgetting names… I don’t feel so bad anymore and won’t mind asking them to remind me. At least I remembered them, right? I’ll try your trick for remembering names too. Even if it doesn’t work it sounds funny. Thanks for your articles, I always enjoy reading them!
I’ll have to try your technique though as, like you, I’m good with the face but sometimes not the name.
With all the “bad news” in newspapers usually dominating the headlines, it is nice to have a “feel good” piece in the paper to brighten things up….not enough of those.
Keep up the great work! Can’t wait for the next one.
Especially during these times, it is a rare and valuable gift to be able to bring hope and joy to others. And Lori’s article does that every week. She also encouraging us to do the same with those around us. You are an inspiration Lori! Have you thought about writing a book?
Is any of Lori’s work available as a podcast? My nephew has helped me to set up a list of my favorite newscasts as podcasts, (several regular BBC shows, The Bill Good show, Michael Campbell’s Money Talks, Shell Busey, Stuff You Should Know, Stuff You Missed in History Class, the Vinyl Cafe, etc, etc.) which I subscribe to. This way I never miss an episode! I would love to subscribe to something lighter like this if it were available as a podcast…to BRIGHTEN MY DAY!
In reading your column in the paper I always sit with a funny little grin on my face – one that I didn’t even notice was there until it was pointed out to me by a good friend. Too often, many of us forget to smile, to look at the positive things in life… even when it doesn’t look quite so positive when it’s happening to us. Your column has reminded me to smile, to think of the positive in each and every situation. It takes “One day, we are going to look back at this and laugh” to a more immediate time frame – why should it be “One Day” and not today? Shouldn’t we all be living for today?
You have accomplished what so many have tried to do and you’re sharing your secret with the rest of us. In a witty, humorous, inspirational story, you teach us how to take a breath, laugh when we want to cry, and to put a different spin on each and every situation we encounter. With the billions of dollars spent annually on “self-help” books, your column should be in every city, town, village and hamlet throughout North America.
Your column is about real life, real situations that we all can relate to. It brings to me a sense of community, camaraderie and a sense of relief from the day-to-day stresses in life.
I look forward to reading your next installment and would love to see one daily just to keep that silly little grin on my face.
You have accomplished what so many have tried to do and you’re sharing your secret with the rest of us. In a witty, humorous, inspirational story, you teach us how to take a breath, laugh when we want to cry, and to put a different spin on each and every situation we encounter. With the billions of dollars spent annually on “self-help” books, your column should be in every city, town, village and hamlet throughout North America.
Your column is about real life, real situations that we all can relate to. It brings to me a sense of community, camaraderie and a sense of relief from the day-to-day stresses in life.
I look forward to reading your next installment and would love to see one daily just to keep that silly little grin on my face.
I find it fun reading, as I am relating to when my two boys “hung around” asking all sorts of things in their younger years.
Congratulations to you and Keith to bringing something new, uplifting and fun.
I look forward to seeing how you will brighten up my day!!
I enjoy your articles, you put a spin on them that’s often overlooked. Keep up the good work, and thanks for reminding us what is important.
I love your “zest”. Why follow all these rules that have no bearing on our morality, ethicity (as in ethical) or legality. They are random rules that some (guy?) came up with that make no sense.
I too am in my 40’s, 46 to be exact. I too have no problem sharing my age with the world. Proud of it to be honest.
I say wear all the daisies you want, sport the long hair ‘till it doesn’t work for you any more and I will happily do the same.
Thank you for the breath of fresh air. Sometimes I forget that I am me and it is ok to be silly and dance in the car still.
It is good to hear from others that being yourself is not only OK but it is the only way.
Again, thanks!
ps. I always thought cougars were older women, “prowling” for young men. Not just because we are a certain age. I think I will rebuttle to those that call me a cougar with something along the lines of them being a rabbit.. you know what cougars do to rabbits, it isn’t have sex with them. LOL
Cindy Ross
46 and still rockin in the car
with my long hair and dog (blinged) necklace
sportin some funky earings that may just be to old for me.
I wanted to congratulate you on your column in the Cap. News. It is well written and very interesting; I look forward to reading them.
You go, girl!
Lauren Forsyth
With all the coverage of Michael Jackson’s death, thank you for writing this article so personally. It doesn’t matter if you’re a Michael Jackson fan or an Elvis fan to understand the message here. Everyone’s a fan of someone and everyone feels a sense of loss when they die, even if they’ve never met. You put that into perspective. Thank you.
After just reading your article about Kid’s Day I just had to respond.
My husband and I are the happy parents of four children. The time has passed so quickly, as we were always warned, and they are now 23, 21, 19 and 14 years old.
As they were growing up, we had often heard the response, “Every day is kid’s day” and we decided to do something different.
Each year we attempted to celebrate “Kid’s Day” following these guidelines: our children did not know ahead of time when it would be, it would have to be on a school day (whereby Mom would phone the school excusing the children for personal reasons) and we would have to go somewhere they had not been before. Over the years these impromptu trips took us to places like Old McDonald’s Farm, Too Much Fun and the Enchanted Forest. As they grew older we continued further to Kamloops, Vancouver and Vancouver Island, to name a few.
It is surprising how many times our children have looked back and recalled those times with each other!
Just thought I would share that with you….
p.s. Enjoy August 2nd – your “Kid’s Day!”
Sincerely,
Linda Schauer
Just a quick note to say that I love your column!!!!!
People need to feel that spirit so desperately.
I just read “Feeling like a sausage is no piece of cake”
I’m big on promoting fun and if you want to play like in the days of old, you might enjoy a type of dance that I teach.
It’s new in Kelowna, but popular elsewhere.
It’s called Bhangra – Indian folk dancing. I will attach some youtubes for you to check out.
Part of the dance is smiling.
Cheers.
Leslie Joy Plaisance
I was reading your article in the Capital News and I have to tell you what happened to me. I turned 42 and for my birthday this April I asked for money only, so that I could do a nutritional cleanse.( I have a good habit of walking and was watching my eating, but I had only managed to yo yo at 3lbs lost.) I thought I could lose 8lbs(I didn’t think my prepregnancy weight was attainable because of my age). I had watched a friend lose 35lbs last year and keep it off with this cleanse, so I thought I’d try it.
I did a 30 day nutritional cleanse, meaning I drank 2 nutritional shakes a day and ate one sensible meal, and cleansed once a week. In 30days I lost 16lbs and 22.5 inches but more than that I am sleeping so good and I feel younger!!
I am sure you get strange emails all the time, but I just felt like I needed to tell you. Our chiropractor, who looked into it for us to see if it was safe, was absolutely amazed at the high quality ingredients and how nutritionally sound it is. There also are lots of utube videos, one is a TV news clip. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k5RVuHOWzo4 I could tell you a huge number of stories of the 21 people who decided to try it with me and all of their success! My brother has lost 22lbs, my sister in law 13lbs, my hairdresser 18lbs….and I am on week 4 of maintaining and am exactly the weight I was when I finished my 30 days!
I bought my first ever bikini yesterday(Purple, not yellow). Thanks for taking the time to read this, I am sure you are very busy. If it’s something you want to look into further I’d love to help you, feel free to email me back
Sue Walters
I was also a stay at home dad for many years when my kids were small. I was fortunate enough to be able to get ample time with both my kids when they were a young age. I now work full time and both kids are full time in school, but I must say I’d go back to doing it again in a heartbeat, if we could afford to do so.
I was so fulfilled with the job. It was the best job I ever had. Both my kids are well behaved, happy and very full of life. They are bright and funny and I believe their upbringing was crucial to their happiness and security.
I appreciated this article very much and am glad to know there are other men out there capable of caring for their kids and their home. I too was always proud to say I stayed home with the kids.
My wife loved the days when she came home to dinner on the table and the knowledge of knowing her kids were be well taken care of.
The biggest compliment I ever got was from my wife, who is a terrific mother and person. She said, “you’re better at this than I am.” She was referring to the stay at home routine. I’ll always remember that comment. It wasn’t a slight towards herself either, she just enjoyed working and getting out of the house more than I did.
Anyway, thanks again for that.
Rick Sewell