PUTTING PAIN IN PERSPECTIVE
I went to the gym the other day feeling physically fantastic. Ironically, I didn’t have a clue as to how great I was feeling until I hurt myself.
Pulling down on a cable that was attached to a big stack of weights, I turned my head in the middle of the move to respond to my friend who I’d been chatting with. Instantly I felt a sharp pain in my neck and I knew I’d done something wrong. Unable to turn my head, I tried rubbing my neck, hoping that if I rubbed it just right, the pain would subside. It didn’t.
As I continued to rub, I looked around the gym at everyone still exercising and reflected on my own state of being just five minutes prior.
“It’s amazing what one wrong move can make you realize,” I said to my friend. “Before I pulled this muscle I felt great and I didn’t even acknowledge it. I took feeling good completely for granted.”
My pain continued to worsen that day and on the advice of several people, I got myself in to see both a masseuse and a chiropractor.
The next morning I woke up with the same horrible pain in my neck and upper back. With a busy day ahead, I tried to carry on as usual. But everyone could tell I was hurt by the way I turned my whole body just to talk to someone.
In a hurry to feel good again I went for more treatments and did everything I was told: the ointments, the ice, the muscle relaxants.
That night the pain wasn’t in my neck anymore. It was now localized in the exact area where I had pulled a muscle and it felt as though someone had taken a heavy boulder and thrown it directly at that spot on my upper back. Apparently, this was a good sign and I was on the mend.
The pain and discomfort slowed me down: I couldn’t concentrate on my work; I didn’t feel social; I didn’t even feel like relaxing and watching a show. All I wanted to do was go to sleep and wake up feeling like I did before my accident in the gym.
But in my agitated state, I began to feel grateful for my mistake. I knew I was lucky and that my injury would heal, so while in pain,
I decided to embrace the feelings of discomfort and record them for future reference. It seemed so ludicrous to me how much I had taken my own health and well-being for granted, yet again.
It’s not like this is the first time I’ve felt pain. I’ve hurt myself many times before. I’ve also recovered from several surgeries and once endured 36 hours of labour. Looking back, I remember vowing at that time not to take my own health for granted once I felt good again. But, strangely enough, I forgot and did exactly that.
Remembering my own temporary pain hasn’t been enough to keep me in that place of gratitude for feeling good. Perhaps I need something more to remind myself.
I have some very special people in my life who live with constant pain who would love to feel as good as I get to feel almost every day of my life. Perhaps reflecting on their experience will smarten me up.
“How do you cope with chronic pain on a daily basis?” I asked my friend who has suffered with a crippling arthritis for many years.
“With chronic optimism,” he laughed. “But it’s all relative. My situation may seem awful, and it is in many ways, but it could be worse. I’d much rather focus on what’s good in my life rather than dwell on what’s wrong.”
Remembering a time when he also took his own health for granted, my friend has decided to focus on the spirit of his mind instead of the failing of his body.
“I could beat myself up and say I should have been grateful for what I had when I had it,” he explained. “But it’s typical to take our own good fortune for granted. I have learned a lot about myself in recent years and I count my blessings every day now. I decided that I have a lot to be happy about, and that was all it was, a decision.”
When I wake up tomorrow morning I’ve decided to record all my blessings in my gratitude journal. I’ve also decided to be more careful and less chatty at the gym.


Feb 14, 2010 @ 20:11:47
Lori,
I think I need to read this every day! Thanks for reminding me how much I have to be grateful for. It’s so true that we don’t know how lucky we are to have something until it’s gone.
Feb 14, 2010 @ 19:03:37
I’m glad you’re feeling better. Now get “Dancing” and be thankful for each day!!!! I loved the illustration!!
Your chiropractor, Dave Manns
Feb 10, 2010 @ 00:26:47
Lori
Your column is like going for coffee with a friend! I feel like I know you I’ve read you so much!
Keep ‘em coming!!!!!!
Feb 08, 2010 @ 15:32:55
Great column and reminder, Lori. Every week I look forward to your insightful spin on the everyday . This week, a “˜pain in the neck’ turns itself into gratitude!
Feb 07, 2010 @ 21:48:55
Your column make me feel good. It’s always the first thing I read when I open the paper and sometimes it’s the only thing. I’ve even cut quite a few of your articles out and put them on my fridge. This will be another one to save. You inspire me to live a better life. A life of of gratitude, love, acceptance and peace. Thank you for sharing another wonderful experience. It’s an effective reminder to live in the moment and appreciate what we have. You are a gift to our community.
Feb 07, 2010 @ 21:27:55
That was a very beautiful article, thanks for the reminder of being grateful.
I hope you have recovered from your injury.
Feb 07, 2010 @ 18:02:39
Gratitude is something we all take for granted. How ironic is that, hey? We all need to take a moment to ourselves everyday to be grateful for everything our bodies do for us every moment of the day…its one thing I try to teach to my participants…the 60 minutes they spend in class with me, not everyone can do so and for some it’s not by choice. Thank you for sharing your experience with all of us.
Feb 07, 2010 @ 17:07:42
How true. I for one am guilty of taking my good health for granted. It does make you think. Thank you for that.
Feb 07, 2010 @ 17:03:41
Hmm, counting our blessings is certainly a habit of extraordinary people. It is much easier to focus on the negative and let the difficulties outweigh the blessings.
Thanks for the spirited reminder.